im 19, and feel im ready to leave mums house.... but im scared.... any advice???? help
2006-10-09 05:12:52 · 23 answers · asked by one 1 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
If you feel ready then now is the time to go do not be scared life is waiting for you run with it but talk to your mom first and tell her as she may be a bit upset first of all plan it out as you know what us moms are like. "Where are you going, who are you going with, are you living with anyone, do you not like my cooking anymore, what have i done wrong, has anyone upset you, where is the money coming from, how are you going to get by, who is doing your washing and ironing, you will miss me do not go stay another year, who put you up to this, is it a woman who is she what is her name it is a woman i know it is tell me?????? Questions questions us moms are the pits some times but it is because we care lol HONEST
2006-10-09 10:21:38 · answer #1 · answered by momof3 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to be sensible then you should have a look around at the cost of housing, ask your mum or a friend who already lives on their own to go through the monthly bill set up, don't forget you need to eat and party, then make your decision based on if you can afford to go...........or you could just go and worry about the consequences later!! Personally, at 19 if you can bare to stay at home a little longer I would say to enjoy the comforts of home, have your washing done and your room cleaned, eat as much as you can and save some money.....long term plan. Good luck, have fun if you do, have fun if you don't. x
2006-10-09 05:50:14 · answer #2 · answered by GalaxyGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you don't leave when angry. Make sure your family is happy with you before you leave, as your parents will be more likely to see it as a good move for you instead of a reason for you hating them.
Make sure you have your parents backing if possible, make sure you have a job and money coming in as well. Share a house with a friend if you can as it makes things easier and costs lower but make sure they are the kind of person you would not mind spending all your time with.
Learn to save money and learn how to spend sensibly. The biggest problem with young people moving out if they come unstuck due to money problems. If you can manage this then you will not have to fall back on your parents, which may prove to them you were not ready to go.
Search around for a suitable place/job before you go and make sure you work hard to make it work for yourself. Go!!
2006-10-09 05:17:40 · answer #3 · answered by Raide UK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of young folks think they should wait til they are totally ready. It seldom happens that you figure everything out while still at mum's. The problems you face tomorrow on your own, you would still face 5/10/15 years down the road. Conquer your fears now. You will be far ahead of all the mama's boys and girls who are too cowardly and selfish to stretch themselves a bit. Go for it!
2006-10-09 05:18:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its no different to jumping in the deep end of a swimming pool for the first time. The imagination is always more scary than the reality. You can always go back to your Mum's, she'll never turn you away but do your homework first, look at the bigger picture & then make your move
2006-10-09 06:13:04 · answer #5 · answered by lokiwoki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey there, i'm 30 and just seperated myself from my parents. I lived near them most of my life in Texas, and now live in Georgia. One of the best moves of my life. I'm slowly emerging into a person of my own. But make sure that you have a job, and have an income so that you can pay for your own rent and insurance so you don't have to rely on your parents for everything. Good luck with what you decide. =)
2006-10-09 05:21:42 · answer #6 · answered by aloneinga 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my sister still lives with us and she's 20. Go if your ready but if your not then don't. Make sure you have a job and everything OK? good luck
2006-10-09 05:21:41 · answer #7 · answered by fantuh c ` 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with the wind, Bien Sur
2006-10-09 05:21:13 · answer #8 · answered by Answerer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be sure that you are financially secure.Can you pay your own rent or find a responcible roommate to share expenses?The sooner you learn to do this,,the better.Iv been on my own since 15 years old.I made it,,but it wasnt easy because good roommates are hard to come by.
2006-10-09 05:15:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave...they cause problems as you get older....you want more freedom and they want to still be the boss.....it will bite ya sooner or later.....and your going to be independent for the rest of your life so why not get the practice now??? It will be hard at first but you will get through it as most of us have to at one point in our life.
2006-10-09 05:22:57 · answer #10 · answered by Michael 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋