Hi I'm a 21yr old female that keeps secrets well. I am not a skank, I don't wear skirts and skanky clothes, I don't tease or lead on guys.
Anyway guys(all are Christians) have confided in me so easily about their sexual struggles, how bad they treated women, things that they struggle in life and so on. What is it about me that gets guys to naturally confide in me that they play with themselves alone which they know is bad they treated their exwives like slaves and feel bad about it and so on?
2006-10-09 05:08:47 · 12 answers · asked by Snorty 1 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
It's probably for the reason, like you said, that you are trustworthy. They know that you're not going to go around and speak about what they have spoken to you about. The confidentiality is a major key in that. Other than that, they may be attracted to you, which is why they're getting all their faults in the air for forgiveness.
2006-10-09 05:10:58 · answer #1 · answered by youdontneedtoknowme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi I'm a 20yr old female that doesn't keep secrets well. I might be viewed as a skank, I wear skirts and skanky clothes, and I tease or lead guys on....
Girls and guys seem to confide in me because I'm a GOOD LISTENER and easy to talk to I'm not QUICK to judge ..
SO my point to you is I don't think that you NOT being slutty has anything to do with it I think that maybe they just see you as a good friend..PERIOD
2006-10-09 05:15:05 · answer #2 · answered by Missbribri 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
what do you have against skirts? My be they think of you as one of the guys...wear skirts(it's OK, you will not go straight to hell)...skank up ...get out in the world. Or you'll be posting the same type questions at 41,51... May be deep down in your heart..you want to be lead on..the other ladies are getting the all attention
2006-10-09 06:47:59 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question... you keep secrets well and you don't lead or tease guys. You must have an open, honest face that tells guys that you take them seriously and will help them process their problems. OR... they are talkin' dirty to you to see if it turns you on and see where you will go with it... I bet if you gave a hint of interest in them sexually they would go after you as well... so be careful. Also, watch out for those wives and ex-wives... they are NOT going to see you as a honest, caring 21 year old female. They are going to see you as competition. And there ain't nothin' like a good Christian woman mad at a young girl for listening to her husband/boyfriend/ex tell his sexual problems.... Trust me, I know.
2006-10-09 05:13:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
this may be a technique to woo you in, but it may just mean that they trust that you will keep that info to yourself. i also have that quality...but its not just men that talk. it only means you are a true people person...and u just might have really good insight on things..u r probably a good conversationalist and you should not question it if it comes naturally to you, whether you dress like a whore or not. i think these guys just like your conversation. u make them feel like they should tell you whats going on, so they can get the advice they need from you
2006-10-09 05:14:59 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you must be easy to talk to and it sounds like your a good listener,but it does seem pretty strange when you say all are christians is it not the situation you are in? and what has to be said is how do you feel about this if your helping in some way and it doe'snt bother you carry on
2006-10-09 05:20:16 · answer #6 · answered by GARRY M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of why, do you really want to know that type of information about your guy friends? It would freak me out if my guy friends started telling me about their masturbation habits.
2006-10-09 05:19:54 · answer #7 · answered by siobahn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they are really comfortable with you. If they know that you will not blab their business, they don't mind confiding in you.
2006-10-09 05:13:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you should ask those who have confided in you.
2006-10-09 05:10:28 · answer #9 · answered by thesweetestthings24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur an Agony Aunt!!atleast ur guyfriends feel so
2006-10-09 05:16:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋