almost half of american marriages now end in divorce. To what do you attribute this high divorce rate. I'm doing a paper so please give detail your beliefs.
2006-10-09 05:05:31 · 17 answers · asked by Chad P 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My opinion:
The high divorce rate is due to three things:
1. Divorce no longer carrys a taboo stigma with it, so people are more likely to get divorced than in previous generations because it is not 'bad' or looked down on anymore.
2. Divorces are fairly easy to obtain (particularly no contest divorces) I think it should be more difficult to get a divorce in this country. People drop out of marriages as soon as it gets a little tough. Many of these marriages could be saved through counseling, but people take the 'easy' way out.
3. No required pre-marital counseling. Alot of people (particularly younger people) get married and have absolutely no idea what marriage entails. I've seen people marry before even talking about whether they want kids or what religion they are, etc.. only to get divorced over these same issues a couple of years down the road. Three or four sessions in premarital counseling would have brought these issues to light.
2006-10-09 05:11:07 · answer #1 · answered by Rainy Days and Mondays 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I believe that people don't get to know thier mates before marriage. They are actually in lust and go through this whirlwind romance and get married a few months later. Once all the passion dies down that look at each other and find they have nothing in common. We have taken the importance of commitment and minimized it. Back in the day if a man got a women pregnant he had to marry her. Those marriages lasted forever because marriage was a sacred union. Today there is no importance placed on the commitment of marriage. No one is willing to do the right thing. With that said when people get married because the love each other. They only love each other when they are getting along and things are going smoothly. When the road gets rough, they don't stay through the storms, the events in marriages that actually make them stronger when they get through them. Or society cuts and runs in adversity and it's sad.
2006-10-09 05:13:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage lost a lot of it's essence. Since it is now easier to separate than work on the problems within the marriage, people prefer to divorce in a heartbeat. Another reason could be that a lot of people marry to help others get US citizenship, and then divorce after they fill up the years. another could be that a woman marries a man for his money (without a prenup), so when she divorces she can get her alimony.
2006-10-09 05:12:27 · answer #3 · answered by gnomus12 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that couples, nowadays, get married with the preconceived notion that if it doesnt work out, then they can always get a divorce. Nobody wants to take the time and effort to work anything out anymore. It simply isnt possible to be in a marriage and live problem-free. There are ups and downs and what some couples dont realize is that you have to accept the downs as well as the ups. The vows no longer say "obey" but they still say "for richer or for poorer", "in sickness and in health" and "in good times as in bad".
2006-10-09 05:10:39 · answer #4 · answered by JC 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Selfishness.
Americans live in a me, me, me society and marriage is the opposite, so we have learned that if it isn't about us, it's not worthy anything. We are also a throw away society so if a marriage is not working, you guessed it, we toss it away. We are also a spontaneous culture and we jump into affairs before we consider the consequences. We live for the hear and now and the divorce rate is a product of that thinking.
2006-10-09 05:35:48 · answer #5 · answered by VNCGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I personally think people divorce because it is easier. We in america have become quite a lazy society and it is easier to divorce rather than to work threw a marriage. Also I think people are too quick to marry... rather then really getting to know someone.
2006-10-09 05:14:57 · answer #6 · answered by Tricia P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unrealistic expectations. Women want soap-opera Oprah Winfrey/Dr'FullPhilling men, and it's not happening. Guys want June Cleaver in Pamela Anderson's body. I blame the Baby Boomers, they screwed up the sex roles and now nobody knows what is right or wrong.
2006-10-09 05:16:58 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Infidelity, is the greatest cause for divorce. the lack of trust that follows someone cheating is more difficult to get over the the affair itself.
2006-10-09 05:11:21 · answer #8 · answered by Rob B 69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one spouse's need for control- lack of communication- or lack of trying to compromise- lazy one partner get's to dependeant on the other- and mostly- people dont tend to view relationships or marraige as a partnership anymore- where both people need to compromise- and of course restlessness factors in to- the grass is greener, and society doesnt shun divorce anymore
2006-10-09 05:08:43 · answer #9 · answered by shannon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because everyone thinks they are perfect and no one is willing to admit that everyone has faults and there is no such thing as the perfect wife/husband. Also people love to use the lame *** immature excuse "I just fell out of love." Well you don't fall out of love, you were too lazy to work at it. And sometimes it is just that-work- but it's worth it.
2006-10-09 05:16:21 · answer #10 · answered by jenlovely01 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋