what is better to follow, ur head? or ur heart?

Question

i wanna leave my job, my head says stay for da wage (which is pants! but pays the bills) while my heart says run for da hills!!! im only 19 with commitment issues...... help

Answer 1

At your age - your heart is often controlled by a completely different organ - somewhat lower in the body and visible from the outside. *wink*

Go with your head. Use the brains the Deity gave you and stop with the irresponsible BS. Get some more education, get a better job (interview on your off-time from the current one) and be a responsible adult, not a flighty child.

Answer 2

I was always told a bird in the hand is better than one in the bush, You should follow you heart, because your head could lead you any were, But before you do any thing (THINK FIRST) do not leave one job until you find another, Why are you so committed at the tender age of 19, do you live along. If not get out their and find something that helps not only your heart but the hold spirt of the soul.

Answer 3

being only 19 gives you the advantage of choosing what do you want to do with your life. Here are some tips:
1. Decide what you would like to do first
2. Find a job in this area of interest
3. Get the NEW job first
4. Make sure you get all the promises written (working hours, your wages, extras, etc.)
5. make sure when you'll be able to start working in the new place - the best is from the 1st of the next month.
6. Give notice in the current job
7. Try not to shut the door behind you - leave in friendly terms. YOU WILL NEED THEM for references in the future! and you WILL NEED friends always!
8. Good luck!

Answer 4

I was your age when I got married, my wife was pregnant and I was working at a menial job that paid peanuts. I thought it fortunate that she miscarried the baby, but I have always wondered what it would have been girl or boy. Two years later I was still working for peanuts and she was working in order to help us keep a roof over our heads and food in our stomachs. She got pregnant again and the first child came, talk about commitments. I kept on working at the same place as I knew no other thing to do. I was also a High School drop out. We started thinking about a house and did go looking for one, while we saved everything we could to get a down payment. By this time she was pregnant again. Lucky for us we had a guardian Angel, that's all I can think about the realtor. He got us to qualify for a low income loan and we had our house. It was here that I met a neighbor that suggested I work for the same company he worked at as they were hiring. I looked into it and was hired, before I quit my menial job I did the following. I still gave 2 weeks notice and went to work for my new employer making a better wage. A year later I was laid off and had more debt. I went to the old employer and got my old job back and then a part time one to boot, to make ends meet. Another year passed and I was recalled to the new job again and I never looked back after that. I went back to school and eventually became a cop making really good money. All this took about eleven years to accomplish.

The one thing you don't do is burn your bridges, you might have to cross them again and again in order to make it. Commitments are hard on a body, but the respect earned from staying true to them is worthwhile in the long run, as it shows maturity. My life is not yours, so I don't expect you to do it the same way, but use some of my history to see where you are going to see where you have been. The decisions you make today affect the rest of your life, I sincerely hope you succeed in it.

Answer 5

I think the best is a combination of the two. I left a job I hated and took one that paid considerably less, plus I have to work longer and more hours. Yet, I absolutely do not regret it. Still, I had to wait to quit my old job until I found this one, and I am lucky because I am married and my husband makes a good living, so we could afford the pay cut. We're not crazy about it, but we can manage.
Go with your gut, but use your head as well. Actively seach for a new job--it will make it easier to stand your current job if you know you're working on leaving. There is nothing worse than having to go every day to a job you hate. Good luck!

Answer 6

I was working at a menial job that paid peanuts. I thought it fortunate that she miscarried the baby, but I have always wondered what it would have been girl or boy. Two years later I was still working for peanuts and she was working in order to help us keep a roof over our heads and food in our stomachs. She got pregnant again and the first child came, talk about commitments. I kept on working at the same place as I knew no other thing to do. I was also a High School drop out. We started thinking about a house and did go looking for one, while we saved everything we could to get a down payment. By this time she was pregnant again. Lucky for us we had a guardian Angel, that's all I can think about the realtor. He got us to qualify for a low income loan and we had our house. It was here that I met a neighbor that suggested I work for the same company he worked at as they were hiring. I looked into it and was hired, before I quit my menial job I did the following. I still gave 2 weeks notice and went to work for my new employer making a better wage. A year later I was laid off and had more debt. I went to th

Answer 7

Sometimes the heart should follow the mind.

Sometimes the heart should tell the mind to stop interfering.

Can you take up the responsibility of what you are about to do? Perhaps you should see if you can find a better job before you lose the one you have now.
Perhaps you need to find support! If you can't live that dream on your own then at least try to find help.

I would recommend that you think sensibly.

Use your head to charter the sea of uncertainty, let your heart sail you through it, use both to reach your dream.

Answer 8

Being so young it is understandable that you are bored with your current job. No job is going to be to your liking, unless you "follow your heart" and go to college. Say you like to work on computers, you can go to school to gain some skills in that line of employment. Then you can have greater options in where you work, plus a salary that will be bank in your pockets. In our job market today, jobs are definitely hard to come by. You should actively start looking for a new job. Once the new job is in the bag, jump ship. But always give a notice on your departure. That way, you can use the employer as a reference. Definitely use your head and heart. Plan strategically for your future.

Answer 9

Go for the gusto, find a better job, if you are this young and pay your bills, that's great, it sounds like you are a responsible young man. Keep up the good work, as far as your job, there is always room for improvement, how long have you been at it? Does it give you time to look for something else, start applying at other places, there are so many options, start looking into it, but don't quit till you found a job you are going to be happy with, you have to like what you do, otherwise you'll feel unfulfilled and a bit miserable, so make yourself happy, it sounds like you are ready to make the change, just look for something else, get active on it.

Answer 10

Follow your heart, I was in the same situation as you when I was 19 (two years ago). I left my job and went to college. It was the best decision I think I ever made. Always follow your heart. You will never acheive happiness if you don't.

And you are young, this job really won't matter in the long run. Just make sure you know what you are going to do after you leave this current job.

Answer 11

Now days everyone has to think for themselves what is best for your future....so your heart can guide you along with your head...but in the end the head wins....because your heart is very emotional..and your head works differently. Your good sense tells you what is best. For example...you are in a good job...and you want to be loyal to the company and the boss and workers..and you make good wages....and you take care of your family.....but one day your heart says...I'm going to walk out of here and be a dancer and rent an expensive apartment..even if I dont' know how much money I'll make as a dancer.....this is following your heart..or kind of day dreaming....it doesn't show you are thinking straight..not facing reality....everyone has a dream job...or dream of what their future would be like.....but you have to use your head and prepare for it....take classes to get there....or stay at your job and do the best you can and work up to a higher position....nothing comes easy and we all have to work hard for our dream.....and for our security....best wishes
Mama Jazzy Geri