How can my husband and I nicely tell his parents if his ex and her children are there we won't be spending Christmas with them? The ex (they only dated,never married) and her children are not apart of the family. His parents just keep them around. The children are not his. His ex is now married.Neither my husband nor I want to be around his ex's new family.But his parents don't understand this and insist that his ex and her children and her husband come to all the family gatherings.My husband and I decided to only visit on family events since his family isn't very nice to me or our children.Christmas is one of the only times he can see his sibilings, but we will not be around the ex.Any ideas on getting his parents to realise that neither my husband nor I wants to be around the ex? Yes we have told her before that if they are there we won't go and they still invite them.
2006-10-09 05:00:39 · 8 answers · asked by fin 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Some very good points and ideas. We may just have a little get together at our house!
In response to free angel: Yes children do look foward to the holidays. The issue is these children are not related in anyway, and belong to his ex girlfriend. I don't feel that I should be forced to hang around his ex!He doesn't have to spend time with my ex from high school. At what point is his family going to let go of his past that he wants nothing to do with?The ex has her own family, she should spend time with them not her ex boyfriend from 5/6 years ago, who doesn't want her as apart of his life.His parents tell the exs children they are their grandparents.How do I explain to my children that these kids aren't really related?Mostly neither me NOR my husband wants to be around his ex. They broke up, he has moved on.We want a nice way to let them know we aren't coming, not a lesson on loving thy neighbor.
2006-10-09 05:26:36 · update #1
Perhaps you could try having the family gatherings at your house. Invite ony those you wish to have., Or try seeing his family on the eve of the event.
2006-10-09 05:04:06 · answer #1 · answered by doicu 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
Well you all have given the good ole 1st warning... I would not go for Christmas. I would call them and tell them that you are taking this year off. Or ask the siblings to your home. Make new traditions for you and your children. Holidays are not supposed to be so stressful... I did this last year I did not attend ANY family functions... and let me tell you what a difference this has made.
2006-10-09 05:06:27 · answer #2 · answered by Tricia P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every child looks forward to Christmas whether they're blood relatives or not and I think your in-laws know that. Attend Christmas, make it as special for the kids as possible and remember the true meaning of Christmas. It's not worth it to have bitterness or ill feelings that will ruin family ties.
2006-10-09 05:13:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell them that you have made other plans. You can tell them that you are going to your family's house. And you could plan a get together for his siblings at your house.
2006-10-09 05:04:38 · answer #4 · answered by lucy02 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't tell other people who to invite to there own house. If she bothers you that much I guess you will have to decline. If it were me I would simply invite the mom and dad and siblings over to my house. They can't make you invite the ex.
2006-10-09 05:14:37 · answer #5 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUST QUITE GOING TO FAMILY GATHERINS, AND FIND OTHER WAYS TO SEE THE SIBLINGS.
WHERE THERE IS A WILL THERE IS A WAY.
2006-10-09 05:14:58 · answer #6 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell his parents and if they aren't respectfull of your decision,,change your plans and have your christmas at your home and let them visit you.
2006-10-09 05:04:30 · answer #7 · answered by rosie w 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would just simply tell them as u should try and be honest with them......good luck
2006-10-09 05:02:49 · answer #8 · answered by ~*Nikki*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋