she changed a lot and she so cold to me after she reallized that I can not support her idea. She loves her instructer in her university. This man has gf already. My friend slept with him many times for one year. She still do it now. But she closed this secret to me. she is very unhappy because this man is not care about her feeling. He also say to his friend that "This girl ran after me.So I must help her about sleeping with her"Now she not trust me. I dont know why? But now every one at her school know this story , This worlds has no secret. I am sad because she is not talk to me and see me as the air. I would like say something that make her feel that i am a good freind to her but she is not nice to me and alway think about sex with this man. i cannot find the words. Can you help?
2006-10-09 04:46:56 · 6 answers · asked by boathouse 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Don't even try to be a friend to her anymore. There's really nothing you can do but just leave her alone and meet other people. I mean, it's great you wanna be there for her but don't waste your time chasing after things. You don't have time to waste on trying to find the words to make her feel like you're a good friend to her.
It's obvious there's something going on in her life and maybe after awhile she'll realize that you wanna be a friend to her and she'll allow you to come back into her life. When a friend changes like that it hurts, I know. But sometimes the best thing to do is to stay away for awhile.
2006-10-09 04:54:57 · answer #1 · answered by sweetdollツ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she thinks you are the one who spread the information around the school. If she won't talk to you, leave a note or an email explaining how much you treasure your friendship, and that even though you might not agree with her actions, you will be by her side for support no matter what. But if you leaked the information that made it spread around school...don't expect to be forgiven because that is a huge thing to deal with at school.
2006-10-09 11:52:17 · answer #2 · answered by gnomus12 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend probably thinks you betrayed her by telling her secrets. Send her a note, in mail, (not email) saying that you kept her secret, you wish to be her friend, you wish her best in everything, and then wait to see if she contacts you.
If she doesn't your friendship is probably over.
People come into our lives for a Reason, for a Season, or for a Lifetime. Sounds to me like your friendship with her was for a "season".
2006-10-09 11:52:01 · answer #3 · answered by Clarkie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FOR ONE THING PUT YOUR FOOT DOWN AND TELL HER THAT SHE IS NOT RIGHT AND SHE SHOULD ACCEPT OR DECLINE THE FACT THAT HE HAS A GIRL. SECOND THING THING, IF THE MAN NOT CARING ABOUT HER FEELING HE DEFINITELY DON'T WANT HER HE WAS TRY TO SEE WHAT HE CAN GET FROM HER AND THATS WHAT HE DID. SINCE SHE DID THAT YOU DAM HE GOING TO BACK AND TELL HIS FRIENDS ABOUT HER. HE JUSTLIKE OTHER MEN A SQUIRREL TRYING TO CATCH A NUT TAKE THAT AND RUN WITH IT AND JUST TO LEAVE HIM ALONE BEFORE IT GET OUT OF HAND AND SOMETHING HAPPENS.
2006-10-09 11:55:09 · answer #4 · answered by andreamcklvy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't "do" anything. If this girl was truly your friend to begin with, she'll come around. It may not be until after her heart has been broken, but she'll come around. And "be" there "for" her, she then will see what a friend in you she has. Good luck.
2006-10-09 11:53:55 · answer #5 · answered by Republican!!! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her a similar story with bad end!!!
2006-10-09 11:51:51 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Santa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋