I went with a girl to homecoming last weekend and everything seemed to go very well. Yeserday, while talking to her friends, who by the waqy are really cool and i highly doubt they would lie to me about it, found out that she has been saying **** behind my back and that she dislikes me. Before i blow up, let me say this: I am and honor student and captain of the school swim team. She is not very athletically, socially, and aceademically inclined (to put into nicer words). So basically, I went out with a loser. Before askeing her to homecoming, i went in wiht an open mind thinking that she could be a really cool person if i got to know her. During the time before, during, and sfter the dance, I was reall, really nice to her. I gave her my jacket when she was cold, i was really sweet, and i helped her with things. I also defended her when my friends made fun of her. Her friends think that she is very stupid for doing this, cuz they think im the best shes ever gonna get. WHat shud i do?
2006-10-09 04:44:57 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I now feel like ive been lied to and unappreciated for all the nice things. Im kinda angry and confused at the same time. I dont deserve this kind of treatment.
2006-10-09 04:45:46 · update #1
wow, you are pretty conceited! Should we give you a medal for taking out a girl who is so beneath you?! Do you think that just because you're popular that she should like you? Did you think she was a loser when you asked her to homecoming, or only since you found out these things she allegedly said about you. These girls are clearly not her friends because true friends wouldn't go behind her back, so I wouldn't trust them if I were you. And what kinda friends think so low of someone that they say she can't get any better? Don't ever think you're too good for someone, because you're not.
As far as your question, I would act like you never heard anything and ask her out again. If she says yes, then you know her friends are lying. Maybe one of her friends has the hots for you?
2006-10-09 04:59:47 · answer #1 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you did everything you could to make it a really nice date. She sounds unappreciative. I think you should definitely call her out on it. Have a talk with her and ask her why she's dissing you to her friends and that you don't appreciate being talked about behind your back. Tell her to say what she feels to your face. She owes you the courtesy and respect to do that. Then I'd tell her not to worry about you ever asking her out again because it won't happen.
2006-10-09 04:50:43 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never Listen to Rumor.
And it is ALL Rumor until you know for sure from the girl.
But RELAX!
Regardless of what she may or may not have said, it's not iimportant. What is that you're cool and that you don't sink down to the level of talking rumors and listening to it.
If you enjoyed her company keep enjoying it and ask her honestly if she enjoys your.
DON"T go confronting her because that means you have already judged her. ALWAYS assume innocent until proven guilty.
PS.- Are they really her friend for talking about her behind her back??
2006-10-09 04:52:44 · answer #3 · answered by tofu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here in our country, Philippines, we call such an attitude, plastic. But hey, you don't really know yet what is true coz the two of you haven't talked about yet. Here's what ya ought to do dude, take her out to a dinner and ask her if she could be frank with you. Then ask her about the **** she's talking against you.
2006-10-09 04:53:03 · answer #4 · answered by louie0894 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her what happened. I mean if you really like her you will find out. And if she really is this sort of loser then she must have a secret or its a lie because your the best thing shes got.
2006-10-09 04:52:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,have you thought that maybe her friends are lying to you because one of them wants to date you?If you want to confront her you have to do it to the point that she says man i really screwed up.I know you're mad,but don't let her know that.Go to her and just ask if she said whatever her friends said she did.If she says yes then say whatever you want to say,but not with an attitude.Remember don't let her know that she ticked you off.But if you decide to let her be then it will still seem like she screwed up because she wants to be immature and talk behind your back.I say just leave her along,but in the end it's still your choice.
2006-10-09 04:55:02 · answer #6 · answered by Mimi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Skip her ugly people always think that when a cute guy ask them out that they can upgrade later. but when the school is talking about her she'll relize what she lost and try a come back laugh in her face and ask out one of her friends.
2006-10-09 04:50:32 · answer #7 · answered by Ms Drea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok well, screaming at her will probably not be the best thing to do... i mean, that could make u not so... well i dunno, i guess a good word would be popular. just forget about it, if people around u start believing the crap she is saying about u, then they aren't friends, and it's nothing you should worry about. and maybe her friends will be able to sway her mind a little bit.
good luck
2006-10-09 04:48:56 · answer #8 · answered by filmmakingSPL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i simply dont recognize, voices in my head say to allow them to run revolt, others say confront them. My head simply doesnt recognize what to do, my little pixie peers say to maintain cool, so I attempt to maintain cool however the imps dont love it
2016-08-29 05:37:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is trying to up her 'cool' status by shutting you down. I would confront her and let her know you treated her with dignity and respect , so why the downtalking?
2006-10-09 04:48:25 · answer #10 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋