He said : " U write a lot about love and planning and future.What I can say is this: stay clam and have eyes for other things in the life,too.Do not overkill, I mean to tell,tat sometimes U can choke a person which will cause an average effect."
What is the meaning of the last sentence? from " do not overkill......average effect" What means by average effect?
2006-10-09 04:36:56 · 30 answers · asked by russclara 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's telling you to back off. He obviously doesn't feel as seriously about you as you do about him. I'm not quite sure what he means by 'average effect' but I think it means that, if you carry on talking about 'love and planning and the future' too much, his feelings for you will cool.
2006-10-09 04:39:10 · answer #1 · answered by Owlwings 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
" U write a lot about love and planning and future" = you worry too much about love and future.
"What I can say is this: stay clam and have eyes for other things in the life,too" = but also you need to open your eyes to the other issues of life, such as financially or any other issues.
"Do not overkill" = do not make a big deal of nothing, don't be over emotional toward something, just be calm and normal.
"tat sometimes U can choke a person which will cause an average effect." = you can put someone down.
2006-10-09 04:44:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is saying that you are talking so much about commitment and planning to be together that he is frightened. Perhaps you are ready for more than he is at this point. He wants to focus on other things in life right now, and he hopes you do too. If you keep talking about your future together and commitment, marriage, kids, and all that stuff that scares him, he will run away.
do not overkill is just an accusation that you are over focused on your future together and talk about it too much.
average effect means he believes most average men would be chased away by a woman that talks of such things.
Sounds like he just wants to have a good time with you here and now, but isn't sure he wants to commit to any future with you. And it also sounds like you have alot more invested in this relationship than he does.
I hope you don't get hurt.
If all that was too hard for you to understand, here is an oversimplified version.
He wants to enjoy your company now but doesnt want to promise or be obligated to support you or be there for you in the future.
its all a bunch of verbage. he wants to
hump hump and sex you now but leave you tomorrow.
oh yes, and for some reason, I would bet money he is from india. I don't know what he's told you about himself, but his word choice is not typical. He might not have even been entirely honest with you about himself. You have far too much invested in this man.
2006-10-09 04:42:58 · answer #3 · answered by smith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means that it is possible for you to choke a person, and the effect of you choking them will be average. In other words what he is trying to say is, well I have no idea what he is trying to say but that is what he said. Over all message of what he is saying by what he has written is "back off"
2006-10-09 04:40:26 · answer #4 · answered by Allinwiththenuts 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What he means is don't rush into anything or it loses its affection and true effect. Take things easy because he isn't ready to settle down yet like you are. If you rush then you might push him away because he isn't done with being on his own yet. If you can't wait then you might want to look somewhere else or he will leave you for some other fling. He isn't looking at you in his future for the moment. He might even have someone else in mind. Which you might want to think about yourself
2006-10-09 04:40:26 · answer #5 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a nice way of him telling you that you talk too much about "marriage." I'm guessing here.
"Do not overkill" means that you are probably bring up the future together.
Too much talk about being together and what the future hold for the two of you is making him nervous.
-Dave
2006-10-09 04:42:12 · answer #6 · answered by mightyyorto 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he basically means that he feels like you are smothering him and that you shouldn't put everything into this realtionship because ti may not work. And he means average effect is what you would get when you choke a person...you can potentially kill him or you will lose him.
2006-10-09 04:40:49 · answer #7 · answered by laguna_beach 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You focus to much on Love and planning our future, You need to back off a little and give me my space you can overkill meaning pressure me too much and cause me to run or not love you
Thats is what I am getting out of it.
2006-10-09 04:41:57 · answer #8 · answered by alig8or_1965 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am just going by what he said but it sounds to me like he thinks u talk too much about love and the future, and sometimes guys get scared by the thought of total committment. he is saying he wants you to look at other things in life besides love and the future, and just take the world day by day.
2006-10-09 04:40:45 · answer #9 · answered by ♥#1 Miley Cyrus Fan♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me that you are being a bit too much for him - and need to start sorting your own life / plans for the future
doesnt sound like he'll be in it though
sometimes you can choke a person = be too clingy
average effect = may not like it all the time
sounds like you need to have a chat with your boyf and get to the bottom of it all
2006-10-09 04:39:26 · answer #10 · answered by schmushe 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋