it happen about a month ago i know its over this is the question i know where she works i have her number should i inflick pain or something else and how to go about it
2006-10-09 04:33:55 · 37 answers · asked by flowerpot 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
oh believe my bf has suffered more then he thought he would and its not about growing up put yourself in my shoe how much anger you have in side. we have a family together
2006-10-09 04:41:49 · update #1
Hi, my husband had a fling recently too, so I know about your anger and pain. You know inside that getting back at her won't help in the long run but the urge to do something, even if you know you'll regret it, is strong.
When I spoke to his bit of stuff on the phone I was condescendingly nice to her, I'm actually just a nice person who felt sorry for her (she is young and has an unhappy life) but she thought I was condescending, and I'm glad I was nice to her, even though afterwards I wanted to get her into as much hot water as possible.....I believe it said to her that I am above such pettiness, and she is not a threat but a silly person who needs pity and help, not bitchiness, as that would confirm to her that she was justified in getting off with your man.
As for your marriage/ relationship, here's a link to a site that helped us, although we are still in counselling through my church,.
2006-10-09 09:00:31 · answer #1 · answered by good tree 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is a bloke? Vengeance is not yours to inflick on anyone, it is the Lord's. You have to take that anger out on the person who betrayed you. Trying to inflick pain on someone may backfire on you. Your spouse knew he was married and willfully participated. If you think he is suffering, you are kidding yourself because he saw that you would take him back maybe out of insecurity. I do not mean to sound harsh because I know you are in pain but, are you madder at yourself_ maybe that is what is eating you up the fact that you may never know the whole truth or deep down maybe you do_because you do not know if everytime you kiss him or with him intimately he may have her on his mind. . reevaluate your situation, because if you are still harboring that much anger why did you take him back. No one put a gun to his head to make him cheat. If you do love him then move on and let go of this anger and try to salvage what is left if it is to painful seek counseling and take some time to look at making you happy and put you and your kids needs first. Good Luck.
2006-10-09 07:58:54 · answer #2 · answered by ElegantSweetie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take all that anger you're feeling at the other woman, and turn it on yourself. If you want to inflict pain on her, instead inflict it on yourself. YOU are the one who chose to have a relationship with a man who was not trustworthy, so you would do well to learn how to start making better choices in your life. Rather than acting like a child and lashing out in anger, turn this into a growing experience and get something out of it!
2006-10-09 04:37:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened to me, so I know your pain, I caught them in my bed together, caught red handed you could say!!!! I dumped the guy and she married him, personally that was the best punishment I could have given her, coz now she has to live her life with the scum forever, and once a cheater always a cheater, he will do exactly the same to her at some point, and that is the sweetest revenge. Honestly, move on, get yourself a decent man, them seeing you happy,loved and respected would also be a really fitting punishment.
2006-10-09 05:06:03 · answer #4 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write her a letter! You've already inflicted pain on me by having to read what you just wrote, which is probably the worst spelling and grammar I've ever seen.
I would suggest that you move on with your life. It's understandable that you feel bad about the situation, but being vindictive only makes you seem desperate, with too much free time on your hands.
2006-10-09 04:37:30 · answer #5 · answered by Altruist 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Am nearly five months down the line and feel your pain. I didn't confront the **** but maintained my dignity and feel better now for doing so. It's so hard but the pain that she will feel is that she is now with a lying cheating ***** who will no doubt do the same to her as he has done to you. Also, she must be so lacking in self respect to go with that type of man!! Disgrace to women everywhere.
2006-10-09 07:41:54 · answer #6 · answered by soo31 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore the others who say rise above it- GET REVENGE!She knew what she was doing, and who he was going out with. Ask a male friend to write her telephone number on the gents wall, describing all kind of exotic pleasures. Then dump your bloke - you don't want soiled goods do you?
2006-10-09 05:29:29 · answer #7 · answered by charterman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sensible advice would be to get over it and get on with your life, but we aren't being sensible now are we?!
I would suggest random acts of humiliation. Perhaps a picture of her head superimposed onto a 'fat and fifty' magazine picture sent to her work would be a good start. Or get her name on every adult magazine mailing list in the country.
Be creative. There is no telling how evil you could be if you set your mind to it.
2006-10-09 04:38:44 · answer #8 · answered by Emma W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like the best way to get even. I know I would want to best the s h i t outa the woman my man slept with. (hopefully that situation would never come about) I just pray I would be strong enough to be the bigger person. I would be VERY hard though.
2006-10-09 04:43:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it wasn't her, it would have been someone else...
It has nothing to do with her or anyone else...it is the fact that the "demand" was there, and she happened to "supply" it at that moment.
Sure, it wasn't at all right what she did, especially if she knew that the two of you are together...but its not as if she tried and your guy stopped her advances.
Its hard to blame someone we care about...but if he remotely even cared as much for you, then it would have never happened.
2006-10-09 05:50:33 · answer #10 · answered by Patience 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋