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My boyfriend of 5 months is married and had a child. He has been separarted from his wife 1 1/2 years ago, he moved out and they agreed they were getting a divorce but neither really had the money to do it. So he has been living from the her house all this time. When I met him, he lived with his guy friend and he went to get his son every other weekend. We recently moved in together because we have fallen in love and he is getting ready to file the divorce papers next week. I have met his son, his son has came to our house and has stayed the weekend with us, we get along really well. My boyfriend has told his son that he and I were dating BUT we didn't sleep in the same bed while his son stayed the night. My question is can my b/f get in trouble when he files for divorce & can his wife make it hard on him because of him dating while still being married? I need to know some good legal advice?
Thank you.

2006-10-09 04:32:37 · 13 answers · asked by A. T. 1 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

13 answers

it is wrong.....besides one can always find the money for a "divorce" if they really want it

2006-10-09 04:36:02 · answer #1 · answered by asking 2 · 0 0

Of coarse the net is the last place to look for legal advise. But in reality he could get some retaliation from the X for living with you. Sounds like if that were the case the X would have already started trouble. Just have him get the divorce quick. Also there is no reason not to divorce over not having the money. Uncontested divorce costs less than 100 dollars.

2006-10-09 04:39:07 · answer #2 · answered by Ben M 2 · 0 0

Yes,you need to wait for the process to be in place.Otherword,his son will carry tails to the mother and his mother can fall back in love again again...when this happen you will be in trouble and as a result this New b/f of yours will be under pressure from both women.It not actually healthy at this point of time to takeover the man.Why don't you keep the friendship and let him settle with the matter first.However,I want to highlight to you that,every relationship has it own crises phase(stage).Then later get back to normal.there is no married that is call a perfect marriage.Every marriage has it own ups and down.So you have to reconsider the situation carefully and know the pros and cons that is ahead of you both.Weigh it carefully and see if you can shoulder it all or you prefer to look for a beginner who can grow with you afresh.Thanks for you question.

2006-10-09 04:49:44 · answer #3 · answered by emmanuel_vandmk 2 · 0 0

No... once they have decided on separation, leading down the path of divorce, they DO intend on divorcing. While not a legal separation, they have both declared their intent on divorce. This frees them from many of the obligations associated with the marriage, including fidelity. In fact, dating during the separation and before the divorce can make things much easier to adjust.

Good Luck!! =-]

2006-10-09 05:11:04 · answer #4 · answered by BigDanInTX 2 · 0 0

I am in the same boat as you. Seperated filing for divorce while dating someone. I understan there is usually a shortage in money. Yes she can make your life hell and no she cannot do anything about it legally. She can whine and cry all she wants but there is nothing she can do about it. Anybody who tells you it's wrong is so full of **** they can't see straight and has nevr been in love with someone in a position like you and I .

2006-10-09 04:40:28 · answer #5 · answered by lady_lucktyree 2 · 0 0

There's nothing his wife can do at this point. I'm not sure why your worried a about it. You said they both want the divorce, so why would she contest it? It would just make it more expensive.
I wouldn't worry so much about it. More than likely she wants it over with too.

2006-10-09 04:40:19 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0 0

been there done that...and yes it can hurt him in court. I was told not to have my kids around my boyfriend anymore and the judge actually yelled at me. he said when the divorce is final do what you want but until then they weren't to be around my boyfriend or his girlfriend...sorry, but they do look down on that cuz they are still married.

2006-10-09 04:41:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

You need to find out if you live in a state that has no fault divorce. He needs to talk to an attorney in your state.

2006-10-09 04:37:46 · answer #8 · answered by lofolulu 3 · 0 0

No, she's probably doing the same thing. Seeing others, that is, after a year and a half.

2006-10-09 04:39:58 · answer #9 · answered by Big Bear 7 · 0 0

that depends. a real date would be dinner movie or ball game or some type of activity. if you want dinner then desert in bed then yes that is wrong. go on a date and keep it in your pocket.

2006-10-09 04:36:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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