I admit I once had an affair with a married man. We did the usual things like dating, phone conversations, lovemaking, he even gave me flowers last valentine's day. Later on I refused to make love to him again and refrained from sending him text messages. Until the time came when we hardly see each other because we're distance apart and both busy at work. Though I still miss him, I know I have to put and end to this illicit affair. Now I just wanna know what do you think he feels right now? Did he already lost his interest towards me? Does he feel the same way? Is he mad at me? I'm just wondering. Thanks for the answers..
2006-10-09 04:31:55 · 14 answers · asked by chic_a_cherry_cola 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Since it sounds like there was no "love" between you 2, he has more than likely moved on or is tryng to move on to someone else. Noone on here can really answer these questions because they would only be "assuming" what he thinks, only he knows for sure. There is no doubt he probably misses the sex and such, but who knows if he really misses YOU. I would say put it behind you and move on to someone who is not married. YOU deserve better than that. Peace.
2006-10-09 04:42:22 · answer #1 · answered by dooder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it's not so much what he feels that you should be concerned about. When someone jumps into an affair with a married man, that means that someone has to suffer from it. And if you consider why people call adulterous people "home-breakers"...
Having come from a family that was broken by adultery, all i can say is that petty emotional lust cannot compare to the unimaginable suffering my mother, brother and I have been put through. I grew up without a functional father during my formative years -- my brother grew up without one at all. He became neglegent and abusive. He once nearly threw a knife into my forehead. Why? Because he was miserable at home. He wanted to be with "her", but was forced to be with "us".
If I was given the chance again, I would probably renounce my vows of peace and non-violence and deck that woman for all that she's done.
2006-10-09 11:40:36 · answer #2 · answered by Icewind 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were nothing more than a distraction and a strange peice of tail to him. He had no intentions of leaving his wife or family for you. If their marriage was truly as bad as he had been saying.... he be seperated or divorced by now with or without your influence. But he's still there and that speaks volumes.
He's probably sad that he lost his play toy but realizes he shouldn't press it cause he isn't willing to give it all up for you. And maybe he has already found a new mistress?
2006-10-09 12:49:19 · answer #3 · answered by Tony 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's probably very confused. One minute you're intimate and the next you probably seemed really cold. Did you ever explain to him why you broke it off? If not, he's probably wondering why.
However, a married man who would betray his wife and family--and you ultimately too--is probably too selfish to be as introspective about the affair as you. I'm sure he's moved on and found someone else.
It's a cold, hard truth to realize that as the other woman, you are totally disposable. Otherwise, he would have married you.
2006-10-09 11:36:57 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well any "so called Man" that would cheat on his wife...I am sure has found a replacement for you by now....I mean if he cheated on the one that he supposedly "Loved till death do us part" What would make you so special? Sorry for being so blunt....hopefully you have learned something and can move on with a Real man and have a happy life.
2006-10-09 11:36:30 · answer #5 · answered by oldman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably feels the same as you if he gave you valentines day flowers (as it shows its more than just physical) but as you told him to end it he obviously has. Either way its better you don't know incase it starts again.
2006-10-09 11:34:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He gets up in the morning and spends the day going through the motions but there is no joy in life. Maybe it will end sooner rather than later.
2006-10-09 11:35:03 · answer #7 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must realize, that he was perhaps just using you for his on personnel gratifacation. maybe what he was not getting in his relationship with his wife. please believe you are better off without him,as he most likely doesnt give you a second thought, or if he does its the sex. you should stay away from married men. as he is wrong to do it, you should know better.
2006-10-09 12:01:53 · answer #8 · answered by wisdom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't put any emphasis on what he may be thinking, feeling, etc. Concentrate on your life and know that you are doing the right thing by ending it.
2006-10-09 11:41:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's fine , by now he has a new mistress. So don't feel bad, i'm sure he is doing well.It's nice that you are concerned about him though.
2006-10-09 12:22:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋