just because you have children or because you've invested years and time with each if neither one of you are happy with each other?
I feel that when there is physical or mental abuse towards each other, just because you've been together for say 5, 10, 15 years does not mean that you should take the abuse. Why is it that neither one of the parties want to just pack up and go? And when you do split, why does there have to be so much drama? Why can't people just become positive minded and move the hell on?
Yeah lots of questions! Doing a survey! Give me some positive feedback PLEASE! DAMN THE DUMB SH/T!
2006-10-09 04:31:23 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, if you are not happy and feel there is no way to resolve your issues, you shouldn't stay together,
People stay together in relationships because they become too comfortable in the relationship, especially if they are on a level where there is no intimacy, sexual or otherwise.
If it is emotional or verbal abuse you are talking about, then it should be that the abused person leaves. They shouldn't stay together for the kids. The kids are suffering too.
The drama in the splitting you talk about is because no one likes change. This is because you've gotten too comfortable in the relationship. But when you start to feel that you have to leave, or you become so uncomfortable that you cannot stand it any longer, then it is a good thing.
If you think about it in terms that you may eventually meet someone else who will treat you the way you want to be treated, then leaving doesn't seem so bad. It's a big world out there, and there is most likely someone else who needs you.
2006-10-09 04:52:07 · answer #1 · answered by Big Bear 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO. as a matter of fact HELL NO. We are not obligated to each other because of time. No one deserves to be mentally or physically abused. And you my friend only deserve the best. And the sooner that you realize that, the better off you'll be. I have a friend who has a child with a guy that she's been with for 7 years. He's had a child outside of their relationship. His "hoe" calls my friends home at all hours of the night. They've even fought. But she sticks in their because of time? Damn time. God has someone for everyone. And we don't have to sacrifice ourselves to accommodate an appreciative, self centered person. I hope helps :)
2006-10-09 04:41:52 · answer #2 · answered by rab 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with you. If you're not happy, leave. Everyone has the power to change their bad situation into a good one, it's a CHOICE..most people are afraid of being alone and get comfortable with that certain someone and just stay for the convenience. It's sad really. The drama just comes with the territory. Most people want to end things with a bang! It's silly, but that's our "grown up" society for ya!
2006-10-09 04:36:09 · answer #3 · answered by Shining Ray of Light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no don't stay for kids sake they know when you are not happy ..... the reason most people find it so hard to move on after say a 5,10,15, yr relationship is because they don't want to start over and have become use to the routine,it would be hard for either party to make a new home for themselves and as far as drama there is drama in every thing you do at one point
2006-10-09 04:41:51 · answer #4 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that in the long run if you stay in a relationship that has no chance of healing whatsoever the children are going to pick up on it. You need to figure out the pros and the cons and spend some time on this before you make a decisiion and once you make this decision stick to it.
2006-10-09 04:36:14 · answer #5 · answered by postal_marg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're asking with the pre-conceived belief that it is better to do the easy thing and split up than the hard thing of working out differences and making the relationship work. I don't agree with your assumption, sorry.
2006-10-09 04:34:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know but when you find out let me know because I am trying to get my husband to let our relationship go
we never loved each other when we married but we had a kid together and he thought it was best he married me for our son. I thought it was best so we can have money to take care of him..none of that turned out true. Now i am begging for a divorce but he wants to be retarded with it. He doesn't want me to have our kids...2 kids now...and he thinks I'm being stupid for even bringing up the D word!! i think its smart to get out now and leave on somewhat good terms. but he doesn't want to let me go though he tells me all the time he wishes I would die.
I know that's not answering your question...sorry
2006-10-09 05:16:40 · answer #7 · answered by tweedy778 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are mad at each other all the time, you need to DIVORCE NOW...
You are not giving your children the love and attention they need. Instead of loving parents, they have angry parents. Once you two get through the divorce, both of you will be free to give them love again. It will be rough at first, but eventually, you two will be happy again and your children can be felt loved again.
Good Luck to you!! =-]
2006-10-09 05:07:41 · answer #8 · answered by BigDanInTX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When people get tired of something, it's up to them to put a stop to it. When they keep running back to the same **** time and time again, all you can do is hope that one day they wise up and realize they can do better than this. To each their own.
2006-10-09 04:36:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life = Drama
My family just discovered my grandmother was having an affair for 12 years, now she is leaving my grandfather and moving in with her lover. Crazy.
2006-10-09 04:35:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋