Problem is lately, they seem to be more sensitive then ever. Their ages are 24 and 22. I have to be careful how I word my questions and what I ask them.
What do you think I should do and how shall I handle them more tactfully? My daughter lives part time at home and takes off at night (every night) to see herboyfriend of 31 yrs. old. Then she comes home every morning. That's their life, I know, and they tell this to me pretty often...like I don't know that.Sometimes lately I feel like I'm stepping on egg shells when around them. But most of the time I really enjoy and appreciated their company.
My husband is pretty busy running the fmaily business, so I understand he can't spend
all of his time"holding my hand".
Need your thoughts and advice.
2006-10-09 04:31:07 · 4 answers · asked by hillaryc59bc 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
They want their independence and that's probably why you have to word your questions correctly. They dont want to have to answer to you anymore. Expect they seem to have forgotten that they still live at home. I did the same thing at their age but had more respect for my mother. You should never walk on egg shells around your own house. As long as they live there and you pay their bills you have a right to ask any question you want. If they dont like it they can find a new place to live.
2006-10-09 04:39:30 · answer #1 · answered by JustMe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's your house and your rules. If they aren't working, paying some rent, or going to school (full time) then it's time to tell them that the rules are changing. You are no longer running a flop house for freeloaders.
Cut off the allowances, set a price for room and board (even if they aren't sleeping there. make them be productive. give them a deadline (March maybe) and hold to it. Change the locks on the deadline and don't give them keys.
time to make them grow up. It is part of your job Mom.
2006-10-09 04:41:33 · answer #2 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you should do is sit them both down and explain that you love their company but there comes a time when all little birds have to flock the nest. Explain that this is convenient for them but it is putting pressure on you because you feel like they are running the house. This is "YOURS and Your husband's house." When they get to be this age we do not owe them anything but love andif they are crappy to you they dont deserve to live in your house.
2006-10-09 04:42:19 · answer #3 · answered by postal_marg 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl you shouldn't be walkin on eggshells in your own damn house! They are too old to be acting like that. I think it's time for them to grow up. and i think its time that u start letting them grow up. because you are enabling them to act like spoiled brats.
2006-10-09 05:11:00 · answer #4 · answered by clg121687 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋