I'm going to be 21 next month and still haven't told my mom that i'm gay yet. We have an ok relationship,we are simialar in many ways which cause us to bump heads alot. I've had bf's over with her there but never did anything with them more than kissing. But i felt wrong for doing it. She asked me plenty of times if im gay and i always deny it, but im sorta ready to tell her. So how do i come out to her without her feeling shamed, or feel as if she failed as a parent?
2006-10-09 04:28:44 · 13 answers · asked by delicious8503 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
If she is asking you then she already knows and she is just hoping you will trust her enough to be honest with her. Just tell her flat out, make sure you are alone and that you both have time to talk.
2006-10-09 04:39:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hon, this is your Mom. If she's asking you, she already knows.
People come out in a lot of different ways. If you are afraid that you will stumble over the words, write down exactly what you want to tell her and then read it to her.
If you don't think that you can say it directly, then try asking her if she might like attending a local PFLAG meeting and then explain it to her if she asks what it is.
Remind her that the way that she raised you is why you have the courage and strength to be your honest self in a world that may not approve. Thank her for giving you strength and love.
2006-10-09 13:45:25 · answer #2 · answered by knightofsappho 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
well when my sister told us she was gay and we weren't surprised and it hasn't changed anything between us or my parents we already knew! and if your mom is asking you then she already has a clue and maybe that's her telling you its OK 2 tell her so i think you should come right out with it! and that doesn't mean she has failed as a parent because i believe people are born gay and if she is a great mother she will except it and love you the same!! good luck!!
2006-10-09 11:34:34 · answer #3 · answered by finenazfuk 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can't control how she's going to feel. If she decides she failed as a parent, what can you do?
At least she suspects, so it won't be a huge surprise when you come out.
2006-10-09 13:01:31 · answer #4 · answered by girl with a gun 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She most likely already knows. Be careful. That does not mean just blurt it out to her. Take some time and do it right. Good Luck.
2006-10-09 11:40:31 · answer #5 · answered by Jude M 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
She probably suspects; hence her asking the questions. Find a quiet time when neither of you have any plans so you can give the discussion as much time as it deserves.
2006-10-09 11:30:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Try dyeing your hair blonde or bleaching it that screams homosexuality. Thats how my friend Charlie did it. He just dyed it blonde.
2014-07-11 12:45:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She already knows, just confirm it and ask her to continue to love you, even if she doesn't support your life choice.
2006-10-09 11:31:23 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
write her a letter and give her a month to come to terms, thats what I did and things worked out great
2006-10-09 11:31:50 · answer #9 · answered by IM THE GAY GOD ALL FEAR ME 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
'regal4532' for your info, gays do not wear dresses, you are confusing with Crossdressers, and the two are quite different.
2006-10-09 14:29:54 · answer #10 · answered by reggaeboi 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋