my best friend is in bootcamp right now he left sept 4th and he graduates dec 10th. a week before he left he stared dating a friend of mine... which i was okay with at the time but since he left she has been talking to his parents and becoming a part of the family being all innocent while theyre around but as soon as she turns around elswhere shes sleeping with one of her ex boyfriends.... and it kills me to watch ... do i tell my best friend whats going on and have him stress while hes in bootcamp and cant do anything or do i wait till he comes home and deal with it in person????????? please help ive been thinking about this for weeks now and i cant figure anything out.. please help you can email me if u have ANY further suggestions (fordracingbaby69@yahoo.com)i just need some outside opinions...
2006-10-09 04:28:32 · 11 answers · asked by Shell 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you need to wait until he comes home.
he needs to concentrate on what's happening in boot.
2006-10-09 04:31:03 · answer #1 · answered by timc_fla 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an extremely tough situation. First of all, I have been that "navy girlfriend" before. And it is hard to see someone you care about leave you. So she is probably running back to her ex for that feeling of being loved. She is secretly missing your best friend and she needs to fill the void. BUT that does not excuse what she is doing and it is still not approved. I would wait until your friend comes home, that way he will have the support of you by his side and his other friends and family. He will also have the opportunity to confront his girlfriend in person and if need be, end the relationship in person. It would be a bad idea to tell him while he is still in bootcamp, because then he won't be able to focus on his progress with the military and he will not have the same support for the grief he will be feeling, as if he were at home. Hope this helped!
2006-10-09 04:41:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first inclination was to suggest not telling him , however since he only dated her for a week perhaps it would be best then to tell him so his feelings for her don't continue building , because absence does make the heart grow fonder in a situation such as this , so if he knows he can nip it in the bud before his feelings go to far concerning her which they may under his current circumstances . I've been in boot camp and though it may be tough on him , he will be preoccupied with other things a great deal . Write to your friend often and let him know you look forward to his return visit and that you'll have a good night out on the town when he gets home . But I would tell him even if it costs you the friendship of this other lady friend or ask him not to divulge where his information came from should he want to write or phone her. After this I wouldn't bring up the subject of her anymore and just pass on good news .
2006-10-09 05:13:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well she was only dating him for a week before he left so its not that serious between them but for her to play his family close that's not right. But for her to only date someone for a week and he leaves you don't really expect for her to wait around and do nothing till he gets back. But like I said she is wrong for playing the family close. I dont think you should get involved just tell her to not play the family close if she is not serious about this guy because it will backfire on her
2006-10-09 04:37:13 · answer #4 · answered by WeFlyHigh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait till he comes home. Boot camp is stressful enough on it's own and like you said, he can't do anything about it until December anyway. Also, I'd like wait until the second or third day after he comes home so he has a chance to bang her first.
2006-10-09 04:32:06 · answer #5 · answered by Jet 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i have a story:
a good friend of mine married this vapid whore and while he was in bootcamp she was sleeping with some guy and got knocked up. SO, she called her husband, demanding he set something up where she could come and spend a week with him since she missed him so much, which he did. after being back for a couple of weeks she called him and gave him the "good news". still, to this day, i don't know which one of us in his circle of friends (wasn't me) called him and filled him in on the whole situation...they quickly got divorced and she aborted the baby.
2006-10-09 04:42:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Statistically at any given 2d 5% are "stepping out" and over the direction of a existence-time 50% would be untrue. there's a marginal difference between men and girls. "i desire a husband. All to myself. Me all his." in case you're a virgin, then kudos. If no longer... oops. Too late.
2016-12-26 13:34:12 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait until he gets home that way his head isn't filled with this problem. Plus it gives you more time to prove it. Face to face is a good option. Good luck
2006-10-09 04:34:08 · answer #8 · answered by arizonabrat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I would not be the on to tell him in boot camp. This is hard, or may be you can send him a letter, do not say who you are, just say your girlfriend is seeing your best friends. In any event it is going to hurt him.
2006-10-09 04:35:42 · answer #9 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the man, NOW.
He has a right to know what is waiting at home for him.
2006-10-09 04:32:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋