we have been waiting for 15 years for each other and now we each have one child by someone else but now that we found each other we want to give it a chance but we want to take it slow so we dont scare each other away we have been good friends when we were younger but we have always had a thing for each other
2006-10-09 04:21:22 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I am actually in that situation myself, just not as deep. I was with my ex for about 8 months, we broke up for 2 months and want to get back together but are taking it slow. It is hard because when you take it slow, there is always that possibility that someone will change their mind. But that is something you have to be willing to deal with. Also, if it has been 15 years and you guys are still "feeling something" for each other, that may be a sign that he is the one.
2006-10-09 04:24:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ex usually means goodbye, doesn't it? Whatever made you break up then could come back and haunt your relationship again! On the other hand, you already know what to expect. I think that if you really think that there is a chance then follow your heart, but if you think that there is a slight chance that whatever you fought about then will come back, I would leave it where it is and just be friends. There are so many other men in this world that an ex should be able to stay that way! I myself would never try and date an ex, I may stay friends, but never date him again. Some people do, and it works out fine, like my sister, she and her husband married in 1997, they waited 5 years to see each other, though they never dated previously. She had a daughter with another guy and regardless they were married and had a daughter of their own. They were divorced in 2001 when their youngest was 2 years old. They had 2 children and were married for almost 5 years, why were they divorced? Because my sister was an idiot then and thought she was in love with her first daughter's dad and wanted to get him back! It did not work out and she had no one! A few years later in 2006 after they waited another 4 years to see if all was good, they remarried and have a new daughter together. It is like they never divorced. It has potential to work out, but you have to be sure it will! Good luck!
2006-10-09 04:34:18 · answer #2 · answered by fatiima 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think about why you guys never hooked up in the first place, time seems to erase bad memories, or notions. Time also matures one where those notions don't exist no more. Rough question, but the only thing I know in life I've learned in the last 50 years is "If there is any doubt, or forboing feelings you may have, then listen to them. If the person has any really annoying traits, they will amplify in time, and you cannot change that person. The molding years was from birth to 18 years of age. The fine tunning comes in the later years... And if you make your bed, lay in it. Again, rough question for anyone to answer here, as we are not you, and don't know him. Just a couple above tips is all I can offer...... Married for 31 years to present wife, 3 kids by her. But been married 2 other times and didn't listen to the above issues. Got to listen to gut feelings..
2006-10-09 04:28:08 · answer #3 · answered by Eddie B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, why not? Sometimes love is better the 2nd time around. If there ever was a spark and unless something dreadful killed the spark, go for it, he just may be the love that you have been waiting for all of these years. Either 2 things will happen, it will work out, or it won't. What do you have to loose. Go for it girl!
2006-10-09 04:23:39 · answer #4 · answered by sharkscue 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One thing that is good and in your favor, is that you are taking it slow, This is the wisest thing that the two of you can do, Let hope he is not in another relationship. Because if he is, then I would say, he will have to be out of it, before you could even think about it. So if he is cleared (smile) Go for it, have fun, and include, your child.
2006-10-09 04:29:34 · answer #5 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The limit on being able to get back with an Ex is 14 years, sorry but it has been too long, you can not get back with him. Seriously, just follow your heart, it sounds like you are doing the right thing by taking it slow.
2006-10-09 04:25:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go back to an ex. In my past experience that only leads to someone getting hurt. Which is the last thing anyone wants. If they do want to hurt someone emotionally, that's not someone you want to date.
2006-10-09 04:28:55 · answer #7 · answered by Joe P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i say yes. if he seems to be an upstanding guy it won't hurt to go out on a couple of dates to see if it will work. just don't get too happy about it in case things don't work out. i wish you the best. i hope things work out well especially with a child involved
2006-10-09 04:25:14 · answer #8 · answered by gardener24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say if he is a good man and a good dad and will treat you right, than by all means give it a chance, go for you gut feeling it is usuallt right..good luck.
2006-10-09 04:25:50 · answer #9 · answered by sidekick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you user-friendly tell him you haven't any pastime in a dating and say not something extra beneficial than that. you do not would desire to describe any reason. do not supply him the concept there continues to be a huge gamble by utilising conversing with him.
2016-12-16 04:44:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋