My husband spent Saturday watching college football and NHL hockey. That night, I showered, shaved, curled my hair, put on my lacy nighty & went to the LR and said..."I've got the red lights on & I'll do anything you want."
He then watched a 2-hour movie, while I read my book in bed. When he came in the BR, he watched the news for 1/2 hour more. I got really ticked, shut off the lights, and said thanks for nothing.
He feels he did nothing wrong by watching some TV, and that we were going to get to the lovin' eventually. It was already 1:00 am, and I'd been waiting 2 1/2 hours. I feel my special invitation was brushed aside for TV. What I want to know is, was I wrong to get bichy with him?
2006-10-09 04:11:41 · 22 answers · asked by Cynthia 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like he had other plans- and it was not time for romance- and you knew he was doing other stuff- don't try to get him to give up that stuff- be glad he was home - after the game and week at work he was probably wound up and tired and needed to unwind- a movie works for me-you were probably in the bedroom steaming- working up a mad- not romantic- sorry- bad timing- have better timing - he will love you for it-D
2006-10-09 04:17:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WTF is WRONG WITH HIM?!?! It could have been in the middle of the game (even MY team's game) and I would have dropped EVERYTHING at the chance!! This guy is sick in the head to turn it down, ESPECIALLY since you were WANTING it!!
There is something else wrong with him if he's not jumping at the opportunity. It may be that he's seeing someone else, but don't jump to that conclusion just yet. Feel it out a bit and see if you can tell if there's something bothering him. It is rare, but just like when women can't get in the mood when there's something wrong, sometimes men can't get in the mood if there's something weighing heavily on our minds. We can be persuaded into it much more easily, but if it's a depression issue, then he won't want to at all.
What you may want to do is go see a therapist to discuss the situation and they will most likely guide you through it and give you some leading advice as to how to handle it.
Good luck to you!! =-]
2006-10-09 11:30:43 · answer #2 · answered by BigDanInTX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try this, get the cable turn off. He has gotten either very comfortable. Men like to chase something. It's sport to them. Try getting involved in something that consists of good looking men.( art, classes at the community college, etc.) Make him jealous. He will start giving you the attention you long for. Or you could get interested in the things he likes. It may suprise you that maybe he wants to be friends with you and not just a sex partner.
2006-10-09 11:23:26 · answer #3 · answered by really???? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I would do in this situation is wait until he wants it because he will give you the signal wink wink and decide that you have other things to do that have nothing to do with him. When he asks why say that you need to talk about it and would like if he not do that if you are in the mood. Can cause some major friction if you guys dont communicate about it but by giving him an example he will see what you mean.
2006-10-09 11:19:13 · answer #4 · answered by postal_marg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You weren't wrong to get bichy, my advise is to sit urself down and write up the easiest way to tell him what u expect from him, how watching the tv as opposed to spending time with u affects u without making him feel like he does everything wrong. A good thing to do in any relationship conversation is to use the words "I feel like blah blah blah when this situation happens", try avoiding saying "you did this..." etc. Remember use "I feel like"........instead of "you did"......... It does help to get the message across.
2006-10-09 11:18:17 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you had the right to be bitchy, but it never really does any good. What I've figured out is you get dressed up and you try...but if it doesn't work you don't get mad. You don't get bitchy. You say "out" when he asks you were your going all dressed up. When he gets mad later calmly explain that he was watching tv and you were bored so you just stepped out for a bit. Give him a kiss on the cheek and go to sleep. This will totally work.
2006-10-09 11:16:36 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
8,658,632,215,279 choose TV over romance. Romance is overrated and is not needed.
The problem with your approach Saturday evening is you didn't properly get his attention. Afte you threw out the "I'll do anything you want" you should have gotten him a beer then dropped to your knees so he could make your face look like it was shot with a yogurt gun.
2006-10-09 12:17:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you took the time and effort to look nice and do something fun. I would have been ticked too. I have been ticked too. My husband likes to play on-line games and it is really hard to get him off of them. I think you have every right to be upset. Sometimes it is worth giving him a dose of there own medicine.
2006-10-09 11:24:55 · answer #8 · answered by Annie A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's an idiot!!! what the hell??? If I were you, I'd be pissed too. Next time there is a big game on offer to blow him while he watches the game... if he tells you to stop, there is something really wrong... Either he is cheating or gay... one of the two...
2006-10-09 11:21:14 · answer #9 · answered by Rob B 69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like an ***...and alot of guys like football, sports the news etc...which is ok, but you can't let it control your life....ask him to set some time aside for you, the you won't get so mad when he wants his sports fix.
2006-10-09 11:19:35 · answer #10 · answered by silver 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋