My wife has implied that she might be interested in swapping with another couple. I'm not into it, but has anyone out there done it and what has the experience been like.
2006-10-09 04:05:58 · 15 answers · asked by REDRHINO22 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She is asking for trouble. Not only will it damage your relationship forever, things will never be the same between you two again. She is willing to share something that is strictly an intimate act with strangers. The trust will be gone and nothing can bring it back.
My suggestion is to tell her no. You have said up front you are not into it and she should respect that. Tell her that you didn't get married to sleep with others and if she feels the need to be with other men that you two should reconsider your situation.
Don't take something as precious as your love and marriage and ruin it over something so shallow. You will be sorry if you do.
2006-10-09 04:12:01 · answer #1 · answered by bonjovigroupie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she may have already crossed the fence. If my wife would suggest such a thing I would start the divorce proceedings at once. No healthy mar rage would need outside help. Only bad things could come of this. I'm from the old school of thought and I take my marriage and promises serious. For richer or poorer, better or worse. etc. Nothing in there about sharing the goodies with others!!!!
2006-10-09 11:17:23 · answer #2 · answered by Chuck C 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If you're not into it, DON'T GO THERE...
If you have ANY reservations about it, "trying it out" won't help anything. If you are up front and tell her it's not an option, she should respect it and that's that. I would also be putting up my radar if I were you. If she's interested in other couples in "that way", it IS possible that she may end up experimenting on her own, without you. Be careful, tread lightly.
My best advice... Keep Pandora's Box closed...
2006-10-09 11:35:18 · answer #3 · answered by BigDanInTX 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bad Idea!!!!!! My ex-husband and I did that and it ruined our marriage. He insisted that I was cheating from there on out to cover the fact that he was cheating with the woman of the couple we swapped with!!!! Left me with our 3 year old with no car and no money when he would be with her for four or five days and nights in a row!!!!!! Plus he tried to pull that up in our divorce case and almost cost me our son. It's a really bad idea and it can be dangerous later on std wise. Now you never know who has what. Be careful!!! Plus if she wants experiment or whatever - try role playing> It works and it's fun!!!!!
2006-10-09 11:19:58 · answer #4 · answered by lady_lucktyree 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You must be absolutlely sure both of you are wanting to swap.
A friend I know did it because her husband pressured her into it. They had a good marriage. Afterwards, the sex was never sacred to her and the 2 later sexual affairs led to a divorce. The husband's actions made her aware how he was not meeting her needs and was not willing to change to do so.
2006-10-09 11:22:34 · answer #5 · answered by lofolulu 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it.....the psychologist said after an experience like that people don't trust in each other anymore and that image will go in your brain forever.......is up to you but the true is your wife is bored try to have more fun together.....there are another things in life beside sex
2006-10-09 11:22:41 · answer #6 · answered by haki 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She has alot of nerve.I guese she does not take marriage seriously.I feel for you.The best thing you can do is try to get to the bottom of the situation and figure out why she wants to do this.Just remember you may not like the reason she wants to do this,so you better keep your guard up.Goodluck
2006-10-09 11:26:50 · answer #7 · answered by Gin 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If one partner is not into it, then it is not going to work. If you can deal with seeing your wife with another and she seeing you with another and are okay with it. But it can harm a marriage.
2006-10-09 11:09:12 · answer #8 · answered by wingedgirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i was offered the same suggestion a few years back. i was more curious than interested and went along with it. after i sort of regretted it and i think he did as well. over time i think it bacame just one more thing on the list that ended the relationship. i believe there was unspoken resentment on both sides.
2006-10-09 11:34:08 · answer #9 · answered by marie 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You had better get a medical checkup and find out why your wife wants some more elsewhere.
2006-10-09 11:18:15 · answer #10 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋