Im sitting here at my friends house and i feel like i have to tell her something really important but im afraid if i tell her she wont want to be my friends anymore. i know what i have to tell her but i dont want her to hate me...im bisexual. should i tell her???
2006-10-09 04:04:56 · 16 answers · asked by Kara S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
are you bi and you like her? or you just want to tell her that your bi?
If you just bi-and thats all you want to tell her than definately tell her...shes your friend and she will understand...if she doesnt understand than she probably isnt your real friend...i had a friend who bi and she told me...i still luv her :)
If your bi-and you like her than she might get a little weirded out so i wouldnt tell her that part right away...just tell her your bi first and check her reaction....some times hidden love is better than losing the person you love.
2006-10-09 04:17:00 · answer #1 · answered by Lek 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell her
this happened with me and my friend and it caused tension, she way gay and everyone knoew about it before i did, bc i chose not to believe it until she went public with it.
if you don't tell her it could compromise your friendship for a long time if not forever.
if she doesn't support you when you tell her, she may come around later bc she may need time to soak it in.
don't get mad if she's taken back by it all. just remember your bounderies, my friend knew that i wasn't into other females and she respected that and we are still friends 6 years later. just remember that it's not uncommon for her to be uneasy about it at first, that's why you need to explain to her that you do know your bounderies and that you respect her and your friendship. my advice is that if it's just too hard to tell her then maybe you can write her in an email or a letter.
2006-10-09 11:12:57 · answer #2 · answered by gardener24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you truly consider her a friend, then you should tell her. it is always for the best if both partners in a relationship (business, friendship, love affair) to be honest with each other. and it is not right to her if she tells you all her secrets while you keep something of great importance from her.
2006-10-09 11:08:36 · answer #3 · answered by trushka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should tell her. If she is REALLY your friend, it wont matter. If she gets mad, and doesn't want to be friends anymore, then you are better off without her, and she was never really your friend to begin with.
2006-10-09 11:08:41 · answer #4 · answered by nycgrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her because if she is your true friend she will be there for you and except you for who you are and if she dosen't then she wasn't a good choice as an friend you all can still be friends and still have things in common and to talk about
dont hide your real and true person from anyone because if you do your not being true to yourself
2006-10-09 11:13:29 · answer #5 · answered by Ke-Ke H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you intend to try to sleep with her, I don't think you really have to tell her. Your sexual preferences do not reflect who you are or what kind of friend you are. Don't tell her because you feel like you have to, only tell her if you really want to share that side of yourself, not because you feel obligated.
2006-10-09 11:10:29 · answer #6 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure tell her that is what friends are for. If she is your true friend she will continue to be your friend and if not then she wasn't ... It will be ok, just be truthful and honest with her...Good Luck!
2006-10-09 11:08:24 · answer #7 · answered by JACKIE M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you tell her. If she is your friend she won't care. That sort of thing isn't a big deal anymore anyway.
2006-10-09 11:07:16 · answer #8 · answered by sspinnj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest about who you are and explain that you feel you can trust her, its not that you are attracted to her and you don't want to lose your friendship. if she is a true friend she will accept you for who you are and realize it took an awful lot of courage for you and trust for her to tell her. otherwise who you love is none of anyone's business unless you want to make it theirs. good luck, hang in there
2006-10-09 11:09:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course you should tell her if it's eating you up this way. if she's a real friend she'll support you...just don't try to make the moves on her too soon.
2006-10-09 11:11:50 · answer #10 · answered by marie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋