hiya all iam 25 married with two kids i suffer from anixty deppression and i havent been out of the house for 7 years my husband works all the time and i havent a friend in the world iam also having alot of operations and have put on alot of weight iam a size 26 so iam not feeling like a woman for about four years i havent really wanted sex due to having my babies but i think it maybe be more then that i love my husband and i do fancy him but i cant injoy sex i dont want it i dont feel sexy and ive tryed loads of diffrent thing toys ect why do i feel like ?
2006-10-09 04:01:51 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
can anyone help please?
2006-10-09 04:06:53 · update #1
thank you tabbycat1 that was really sweet
2006-10-09 04:08:03 · update #2
thanks all
ive been on so many differnt tablets seen hundreds of people
and i know they wont fix me
and i know i have to fix myself maybe i needed to hear it from other people
but its so easy to say yes iam going to go to the shops or go to the park but when i go to do it i cant leave i know i need to be a better mother its like an endless circle i want to take my kids places but when i try everything goes faster then me and i cant haddle it
could it be my tablets? have they controled me iam cutting my dose down to change my tablets to new ones and its like they have covered me from real life i can see what iam doing but cant come off them ive been on tablets for years what can i do iam scared to come of them ive been in hospial a long time ago and i dont want to go back
2006-10-09 04:37:41 · update #3
Sweetie, I've been where you're at. If you want to talk, feel free to email me. But you need to start doing little to find yourself. I started by trying to lose weight--eating better, getting some exercise every day, trying to be more active in general. That boosted my energy which in turn boosted my mood. I'm a stay-at-home-mom and have been four 6 years now, so I know what that's like, not to get out of the house, but you have to. I've been doing little things like going to a park up the street or just the other day I went to the mall to walk around. Don't be afraid to do little things just for yourself. I found that I tended to do things for everyone else to the extent that I put myself last on the list. These days I'm putting me first. Do things you enjoy doing. Enjoyment of sex will eventually follow when you start enjoy your life more in general, you know? But I was finding myself in different areas of my life too. I spent time getting to know ME, deep down. I've also found part of that is also in the attitude we put out. Be determined to be happy and you will eventually BE happy. It sounds odd, most people think it's the other way around, that something needs to make you happy, but it's not. Happiness starts with a decision. Today, right now, do something that makes you feel really good, something healthy. Take a walk. Get in 8 glasses of water. Take a long, hot shower or a nice bubble bath. Buy a pair of sexy undies.
2006-10-09 04:14:08 · answer #1 · answered by I'm just me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are already on an anti-depressant then it's not working and you need to try a different one. If you are then that is where your lack of interest in sex is coming from. Unfortunately that is a common side effect of the medication. Weight gain is also a common side effect. You need to pin point what is making you so unhappy and change it. You are wasting your life away..instead of living you are dying. We all have to make the decision to do one or the other. You need to find a support group where you can make friends and have people to help you through this. Don't sit in your house wasting the best years of your life away...it's not fair to you, your husband, or your kids. They deserve a mother that is full of life and living. You can do it!!! Just roll up your sleeves and dig in. You will never regret taking control of your life back. We are not guaranteed another day so now is when you need to start!!!!!
2006-10-09 11:09:52 · answer #2 · answered by Laura D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you're suffering from chemical depression.
Being so young with 2 kids I don't know how you're finances are but please try to find a therapist. You can be helped and you'll be surprised how fast you'll start feeling good about yourself again. You'll be a better mother and a better wife. Even more important you'll be a better you. You'll have more energy, and you'll lose the weight you want to lose.
You deserve to have a good life and it's out there..I hope you can do this.
2006-10-09 11:29:22 · answer #3 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you had your hormones checked?
I suggest getting a saliva test done to evaulate your hormone levels. You want to see what the relationship is between all of them.
Loss of libido and anxiety/depression are signs of estrogen dominance. If you have more estrogen than progesterone in your system, you can easily fix it by supplementing with a natural progesterone cream - instead of expensive nasty prescription drugs.
2006-10-09 11:15:59 · answer #4 · answered by A Healthier You 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to love yourself. Just going for a walk by yourself, going to a movie by yourself. You owe it to yourself to love yourself and have confidence in yourself. You are a beautiful person, you have to keep telling yourself that you are important to you.
Relax, read a good novel.
2006-10-09 11:06:47 · answer #5 · answered by grizzly48 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋