I've known my friend for 12 years. She lives far away & I don't get to see her very often. I confided in her that I slept with my ex. She slept with her ex a couple years ago & told me, so I thought she would be understanding. Instead, she made me feel so bad about it! Me and my ex are 2 consenting adults. My friend says that he used me, I know that he's sleeping around, & other mean things. But, my ex gave me the invitation because neither one of us is getting any. It was just fun-no-strings-attached sex. If he was using me, then I was using him right back. My ex & I had definite problems in our relationship & there's no way we'd get back together. Why is my friend acting like this? I'm suppose to see her this weekend & now I don't even want to.
2006-10-09 03:56:52 · 24 answers · asked by ☆skyblue 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I suspect that she is jealous - maybe she would like a no-strings-attached opportunity and doesn't have one.
It's odd that she is accusing him of using you - you made it clear to here that this was a mutual choice, right?
Another possibility is that she is being hypocritical (it's okay if I do it but not okay if you do it).
Be well!
2006-10-09 04:00:51 · answer #1 · answered by Carbon-based 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She hurt your feelings and probably didn't mean to. She may be concerned about your health and well being and no telling what disease he has been exposed to and how long it may take to show up= there is always strings w sex- in one way shape or form- esp from an ex- that does not have your best interests in mind- D
2006-10-09 04:02:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's probably worried about you but doesn't know the best or right way to talk to you about it. Remind her that she did the same thing and you did not treat her like it was a stupid move on her part. Perhaps something happened with that that she didn't confide in you and that is causing her reaction? It sounds like you 2 just need to communicate more.
2006-10-09 04:26:31 · answer #3 · answered by jeshzisd 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Done the same thing 5 yrs ago. As long as neither of you are in a commited relationship with another? Sex is best with the X. Its a comfort thing, especially for woman.
2006-10-09 04:01:02 · answer #4 · answered by mike r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through a similar situation.Your friend has to understand it's you life not hers. She probably wants the best for you I don't think she saying things to hurt you she has to look at it in other ways at least you didn't go sleep around with guys u didn't know.
2006-10-09 04:02:18 · answer #5 · answered by Nyce_Nay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree that she's probably jealous. if the 2 of you want to have casual sex then that's up to you. I think that if your single then there's nothing wrong with having that one person to call when you're getting "lonely". all i have to say is do your thing and ignore her antics. if she goes on about it again when you see her this weekend, then tell her that you don't care. tell her exactly what you told us, if he used you then you used him too bc sex is all that it was for the both of you. i'd tell her to back off
2006-10-09 04:02:36 · answer #6 · answered by gardener24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it may be one component if he replaced into over her, yet he's no longer. while you're pals then you quite do no longer date his ex. She is likewise no longer a competent guy or woman if she is keen to do this. i assume the actual question is, is the intercourse extra suitable than your friendship of many years? there is not any way that this could ever develop into extra effective than intercourse. No female needs to have a courting with a guy who could sleep together with his maximum suitable pals ex. it is that easy.
2016-10-16 00:11:44 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u r comfortable wit the situation 4gt ur frnd.and tell her so.wat kind of a frnd is she if u cant tell her an make hr understand how u feel.mayb shes jealous or jus a sadist...feelin gud makin u feel bad
2006-10-09 04:10:16 · answer #8 · answered by crusader 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should count your self lucky to have a friend who loves and doesn't want to see U pass thru the same pains again.Remember love goes along with jealousy.may be she couldn't express herself well that is why she sounded harsh.
2006-10-09 04:09:31 · answer #9 · answered by atola o 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a friend she cares for you and does not want you to get hurt. She know you deserves better than your ex and she does not want you to succomb to his ways. Next time, don't tell anyone.
2006-10-09 03:59:15 · answer #10 · answered by lofolulu 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋