Women shouldn't be allowed to deny their husband...opinions please?

Question

I feel it's a wife's duty to satisfy her husband.

I'm married and have been with my husband for almost 5 years. I would never deny him no matter how tired I am or what he is requesting. I love to please my husband and I love the thought that he can have pleasure whenever he needs/wants it.

Also the types of sexual pleasure that a man what's should never be denied either (such as going down on him). I would think that since he's your husband you would see it as a privilege to service him. We should never expect anything in return either (although my husband does return the favor most of the time).

What are your opinions on this? I want to see if the general public feels the same as I do.

Answer 1

I think that's the exact right attitude if and ONLY if you agree to it. No one, male or female, should service anyone. It's a marriage, a partnership, not a slave operation. But if that's the way you both feel, that's fantastic. I love doing things for my husband and so does he for me. Because we love each other. That's just part of a marriage if you ask me; you take care of each other. But sex isn't service if you ask me. It's fun, it's pleasure, and it's a natural extension of our love for each other. Service has nothing to do with it. But I think I see what you mean. Maybe "service" isn't quite the right word, but I get the general feeling I think you're going for. To want to do for each other, even in the bedroom. Yeah, I guess I agree to that. :)

I would like to add, upon re-reading the subject line of your post, that I don't think it should have anything do with being "allowed" or not. That kind of thing doesn't have any place in a marriage. But I agree that if you love your spouse you'll want to do for them, to make them happy.

Answer 2

WHAT??? I usually refrain from responding to questions about sex. I think some things are just off limits... But this question merits a response. What you choose to do in your marriage is your own business, but you asked if the general public agreed. No, I do not. Sex is not a duty, first of all. And to put either partner into the role of what basically amounts to a submissive sex slave objectifies and debases that person. Marriage is a partnership based upon love and respect. And there are many ways of showing love and respect other than compulsory "servicing." My husband and I share many responsibilities as far as home and family are concerned, and it is through our combined efforts that our love and respect for each other is demonstrated. I won't go into the private details of our marriage, but I will say that what goes on between us is not obligatory nor does one partner take on a subservient role.

Answer 3

i agree with you,
but i also believe that for this to work, you need to have a very good husband. He needs to be considerate and thoughtful. He needs to be as unselfish as you, to see that if you are feeling sick, he should hold back his hormones and respect you. give you a massage and look after you like a hubby is supposed to. If you have a good husband, He will not take advantage of you and just have sex with you coz he is horny and doesnt care about your sick body, or the fact that you look like you would fall asleep or colapse half way through.

I believe that when a man and woman marry, there body is not there own. the wifes body belongs to the man, and the mans body belongs to the woman, they shouldnt deny each other sexually, but they should respect each other and be considerate and aware of there partners in this area and not be selfish. there is nothing wrong with waiting until the other feels better, that is not denying your husband. that is being wise and if he is decent he will respect that.

you cant have obedience without love.

Answer 4

I think that a marriage is a mutual partnership, where one's needs and desires do not supercede the other's.

To say that a woman "shouldn't be allowed to deny their husband" is putting the husband above the wife. To say that the wife "should never expect anything in return either" is putting the husband above the wife.

Neither of which are consistent with a mutual partnership.

Answer 5

What village did you come from? I honestly cannot agree with anything you have to say. I believe that a man and a woman in a relationship are of the same equality. The woman should not have to bow down to a man and become servantlike; and vice versa. You are a person and should be able to make your own independent decisions. You have your own needs and desires; so does he. However, he needs to fulfill and respect your needs as well. When in a relationship, a couple should make decisions together. Talk things out. I've always been brought up to think that the man is the one who should be taking care of the woman, not the woman taking care of man.

Answer 6

Just because you are married does not mean that you must become their own personal sex slaves. You should be together but keep you own opinion. If you're not in the mood you shouldn't feel obligated because he is. I am wondering if you have pneumonia or something and you were feeling awful and your husband was horny, would you just roll over and have sex with him? Sometimes it's important to put your needs first. Relationships should be based on love and respect and if you husband just demands sex and you give in then it doesn't sound like there is much respect for what you want and without respect can there really be love?

Answer 7

If u r enjoying ur husband,s advances then by all means enjoy,but remember u r a human being and u can be tired,sick, or whatever,if ur husband is compassionate he will understand u r not a machine or a robot. Be honest with urself. Good luck Curious 2006

Answer 8

You have got to be joking, I work hard everyday.I'm a stay at home mom. of three children ages 6-1 years and I do all the housework. My husband has a very high sex drive I would be I bed every minute of everyday. A wife duty as you call it is more then just having sex.I am more then a sex object. You should value yourself as more then that too.

Answer 9

Wow, I don't know about you, but I was born in 1976, not 1936. I think of myself as my husband's partner, not sex slave. He went without for 8 months at one point in time, then another time 6 months. Both times I was pregnant and/or breastfeeding and had no sex drive and didn't want to even be touched. The one time I let him get some I felt as if I was raped. Sorry, but sex should be mutual in ANY relationship and if I don't want to give it up then he doesn't get JACK!

Answer 10

I agree with you. I think that women that with hold sex are begging for their husbands to cheat. I too have been married a little over five years and the only time I refused to have sex with my husband was because he went to a strip club, spent 400, and came home smelling like a skank whore. Other than that one time I always give it up.