Now i have decided ok it's time for the split he says I am breaking his heart.Taking me for a mug?
2006-10-09 03:42:11 · 25 answers · asked by sheila m 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Cut your losses and get out. He is playing you bigtime.
2006-10-09 03:44:18 · answer #1 · answered by dragonrider707 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This happened to me last year. We were living separate lives in the same house, never talked, had sex or even ate together. He'd finished it some months earlier but then returned saying he missed me and wanted to make it work. It didn't, it got worse but we never fought, we were just indifferent to each other. It was hard getting my head around him just not caring anymore. Things came to a head and I finished things. Then he decided that I was breaking his heart, ruining his life, destorying his world, I heard it all. Don't let your partner push the blame on to you, you're going to feel bad enough over the next few weeks/months. You need to remember that sometimes it takes bad things to happen so we can move on to better things. For him to pull the emotional blackmail card out of the bag its not fair, don't listen to him he is expressing his sorrow, anger at the fact things didn't work out and mourning the loss of what you had together. You're main concern, not matter how hard it is not to be upset by his reaction is, you! This could be a really exciting time for you, a new beginning, a chance to examine who you are and what you want. That's the way I approached things once I'd realise that listening to his heartache was making me feel so bad I wasn't dealing with my own. A year on I'm married to my best friend, have just been promoted and own a lovely home, all things I was denied in my pervious relationship. Good things can come out of heartbreak it just takes a little while to get there. Good luck and don't let anybody take you for a mug, you deserve more.
2006-10-09 10:56:14 · answer #2 · answered by esmequeenoftheworld 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem,my man of 5 years told me he had no feelings for me we have 2 kids together,i finished it with him,and he said i broke his heart,but i couldn't stay with him when he said that too me,if i was you i would up and leave there is no point in staying if he has said that too you.Go find yourself a man who will love and care for you they way you should be loved .Good luck i hope everything works out really well for you.
2006-10-09 10:47:16 · answer #3 · answered by ~Charl~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uh, OK. that makes no sense... He says he has no feelings for you.. until you want to leave him??.... don't let him make you feel like Sh!t. and feel obligated to stay with him..
What are your feelings for him? do you love him??
If the feelings aren't mutual then.. there's No point in trying to mend things. Each needs to go there separate way.
But if you do love him.. and don't want to leave him.. ask him to consider really trying to mend things.. ask him whats wrong? why there's no feelings.. what are the dead points in the relationship...
It takes 2 two tango.......
No just one ( YOU) can keep the relationship going....
So if he doesn't want to try to make things work,. Then.. MOVE ON ........
2006-10-09 10:47:31 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Perfectly.Flawed♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at my mug. I broke many hearts this way twiddlecakes.
2006-10-09 10:44:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah yes, the perverbial "no feelings then nothing but feelings" shock tactic. Hippy marriage counseling for you! It works, as in it helps you deal with the truth breakup or not.
2006-10-09 10:44:34 · answer #6 · answered by RM706 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are breaking his heart?? and he says he has no feelings- let me loan you a hammer- is he suffering from depression or 7 year itch early ? this did not happen over night- well -you can't make him and I would not force it- what are you options-? take care- D
2006-10-09 10:46:41 · answer #7 · answered by Diane W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a life! This 'PARNER'****? where did it come from!!!! Was he you're boyfriend??? THen F'ing say it!!! The guys a loser and so are you until you go back to reality!!! Partner was only invented so as NOT to offend the POOFS!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-09 10:46:37 · answer #8 · answered by kbw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he loves you, but he's not in love with you. If you get what i mean. Try sprucing things up, if you both dont want this to end you will have to try, it might be hard at first but it will benefit you both, if thats what you really want.
2006-10-09 10:52:54 · answer #9 · answered by hel4adz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol, sorry for laughing, it's not at you, it's at him. Maybe he didn't quite think things through before telling you he has no feelings...Dump him. You know you should. Don't let him sweet talk you otherwise.
2006-10-09 10:46:59 · answer #10 · answered by yes darling 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like to me he only said that in the first place to get attention, not you called his bluff and he doesn't like it.....or it could be that he wants to be the one to "do the leaving" so to speak. Don't let him confuse you anymore. You go.
2006-10-09 10:46:14 · answer #11 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋