is remarriage right?

Question

Is remarriage right if you are divorced with a kid? Will it affect the kid, will the new spouse accept my kid?Is staying alone a better idea?

Answer 1

Its right if you and him are right for each other. It can also be better for the child to have a "male figure" in the home. Its not going to mess a child up, the change may require time but in the end if you are a happy couple then the kid would make a happy family. He doesn't have to be his "father" he can just be more like a back up dad and a second support system. Kids enjoy having step fathers (if their not a** holes and trying to take over the home.)

Answer 2

Hi-
If you have to ask it is highly likely that remarriage to "this" person is not in your best interest. If it was you would not be questioning us. I became a widower when I was 25 and I had a daughter. I was hoping I would remarry-I enjoyed being married- but i also understood that being single with a kid adds a whole other level of baggage----I dont know if your spouse died, divorced etc. I do know this, when and If the right person comes along, you will not need to ask this question-------good luck

ps. I have been remarried for 19 years---

Answer 3

Staying alone is NOT a good idea. Noone but the new spouse can say whether or not they will accept the kid, and if they don't they shouldn't be the new spouse. The one that is right for you will be the one who WILL accept the kid with open, loving arms, and not see him/her as baggage. Of course it will effect the kid, but you can't be alone so that the kid is content. He/she will have many things to adjust to in life that you will have no control over so you might as well get him/her used to change now!!

Answer 4

RE: Divorce and remarriage question: How do you repent of remarriage? A few questions have been asked here today about divorce and remarriage. One question asks about why Christians tolerate remarriage after divorce, which Jesus plainly said is sin, but do not tolerate practicing homosexuality. At least a couple answers to that question suggested that we are all...

Answer 5

Would you have stayed married just for your kid? Obviously not, right? So don't stay alone for exactly that reason. If you handle it right, talk to your child, take it slowly and introduce everyone, make sure they get along well, then it'll be fine. And if your new spouse doesn't accept your child then you shouldn't marry them. But don't hold off your own happiness just for the sake of your child. I'd actually worry that if you did that, you might end up resenting your child for it just a bit. You deserve to be happy too. Your child will adjust just fine. She wants you to be happy too. :)

Answer 6

It depends on the partner you choose. Since you have a child, you have to take into consideration how the man will interact with your child and if the child feels comfortable with the new man in your life. My father left my Mom when i was about 11/2 yrs old and she remarried a couple years later. My stepdad adopted us and did the best he could raising us. I consider him the only father I have since my biological father never came back around or ever kept in touch with us. I would just take it slow with a new partner and pay close attention to the relationship between him and your child.You deserve to have a fulfilling life for yourself as well so don't feel guilty about that. I hope you find someone very loving and compatible with both you and your little one.

Answer 7

You stay alone because you want to
not for the child, remember the child will grow up and have a life that is separate from you if you stay alone for the child sake than you become a burden for him/her
When remarried you must make sure that both the child and the future husband get to know each other, tell the child that you value her opinion, listen to the child and you keep your ears, eyes open if you have any douth about the relationship move on
always remeber that you are not one person anynore but 2
I remarried with 3 children, from before my husband evr ask me to married him I told him that were 4 people and that he will have to get alone with all 4 of us
I have always put my children needs first and they have always put my needs first I think they feel secure in love for them
Knowing that I will always listen,protect them make a big difference in letting someone come in our live
now we are maaried for 3 years
they love each other, and when my X was trying to make our lives
miserable it was them who stand up for me
by telling him and the court that they know they always have someone to watch their back it is not their father
but my husband & I
I am sorry to go on
I am just tryng to say that remarried don't have to be negative
Good Luck

Answer 8

I have been married for almost 11 years. When we got married my wife had a 3 year old daughter. I consider her my daughter and see her no differently than I do the son that we have together. Children need stability and love. Before you get remarried you need to be sure that you have no doubts about the way he feels about your child. I think it is very important for a child to have both parents in the home, not saying that it is wrong to be single and raise a child but I feel it teaches them alot about relationships. Get out there and find yourself a good one...

Answer 9

It all depends on alot of things, Just recently I seperated from my boyfriend of 3 years. His answer as to why he wanted to seperate was that he did not want to raise a kid and he was there the whole time never metioned it to me.
I automatically assumed that everything was fine. I never really asked him what he thought on the subject because everything seemed fine. Find out first

Answer 10

If you are in love with this person and they are good to your kid then it should be okay. You have to have a life. If you have not introduced this person to your child then make sure you do it slowly. Also, make sure you see yourself with this person in the future. Do not rush into marriage because You do not want to be alone.