Husband sabotages diet?

Question

Why would a man bring home a case of choclate bars and candy, when he knows his wife has just gotten back to her pre-baby weight? She worked so hard dieting, going to the gym, starving herself. She's hopelessly addicted to junk food and can't have it in the house.
He'd tease her with a candy in her mouth, saying Umm, this is so good. Too bad you can't have it. He kept at it until her willpower was gone. Now, she has put on weight and blames him.
Another friend I know, all she has to do is mention going on a diet and her man starts bringing home fried chicken, french fries and pizza every night for a week straight. He doesn't want her to loose weight.
Neither of these 2 men are overweight. Why do men do this? Have any stories to tell.

Answer 1

They may be insecure. That's what it sounds like to me. Or just plain cruel. My husband and I are both over weight and I have been dieting for a long time. He was supportive, but not doing it with me, but he has just recently jumped on the wagon with me. Either way you look at it, those 2 guys are jerks!!

Answer 2

Oh boy, the type you describe is cruel, controlling and insecure.
Therapy for the men would be a good start, or else leave them.
The wives should not mention their diet again but keep it up and turn to their girl friends or weight loss counsellors for moral support.
Any boxes of candy and chocolates should be tossed out as soon as he turns his back. If he insists on bringing fried food eat before he gets home and have two fries and make a big green salad with no fat dressing. Throw out any leftovers.
Your friends should not give in to these control freaks.

Answer 3

He is soooo cruel! Throw every bit of candy he buys into a neighbor's trash. He will think you ate it all! If he teases you with the candy again, just leave the house for a while. Install a few sliding locks on your doors. If you know he is bringing home the fried chicken, lock the doors so he can't come in. Tell him the candy and fried things cannot come inside the house.

But at the same time, you have got to strengthen the weakest muscle in your body....self control. I'm sorry to tell you this but the blame is really on yourself as he did not put the candy in your mouth.

Answer 4

First of all, no one can make you eat a thing or do a thing that you already don't want to do in the first place in your own heart. I have already been on that road. We eat it because we want to eat it and we feel guilty ourselves so we put the blame for our own lack of self control on someone else. Usually that someone else is our spouse. If you really want to lose, you don't diet anyway. There are 4 basic rules to losing weight. They will surprise you for sure because they surprised me as well. They are taught by Paul McKenna from England who is now after many years of teaching them to English people is now teaching them on The Learning Channel. He is currently in week 5 of a 6 week course but you can go to his website below and get the tapes and any other help to lose weight successfull and never gain it back. His method is "I can make you thin" and it works. His 4 golden rules are as follows: 1. When you are hungry EAT. 2. Eat what you want, not what you think you should. 3. Eat CONSCIOUSLY and enjoy every mouthful. 4. When you think you are full, STOP eating. He also has a lot of other good things up his sleeve that show you how to stop your cravings and raise your metabolism and stop the binge eating, etc. BUT, we have gotten the weight we are because we wanted to have the food. We wanted it more than we needed it and eating it changed how we perceived food altogether until we ate it, or eat it, without even thinking about what we are eating or how it tastes. So, to correct our situation, we must first STOP blaming everyone else or every circumstance for being over weight. The ONLY WAY to get over weight is to eat more calories than we need to sustain our lives, and no one forces the utinsil into our mouths. We stuff our bellies ourselves. Good luck at losing successfully.

Answer 5

These men are insecure and afraid that other men will look at their wives and "steal" them away. Next time they bring home candy bars or anything else to sabotage the diets, the wives need to snatch it up and throw it in the trash.

Answer 6

probably insecure that the wifey will leave if she looks hot and starts getting attention from other guys ... on the other side of this, you cant blame their lack of willpower on the husband ... granted, they are insensitive SOB's but the women are not being force fed and last time i checked, garbage service is available for "junk" ... the women should just toss the fattening food and eat right.

Answer 7

This is an easy one INSECURE MEN. There are alot of men out there like that. However to look on the bright side he thinks you are stunningly beautiful and wants to keep his wife. Take it as flattery alot of woman do not have that kind of man.

Answer 8

He probably fells is she looses weight then she will become "more attractive" and want to go out and is afraid he will loose her. That is how my hubby USED to feel. Now he understands (after we had a long talk) that it makes me happy to loose weight. It doesn't mean we are going to break up because i got skinny.

Guys just think crazy stuff sometimes.

Answer 9

this is a form of control, and its cruel. my husband is the same, i lost alot of weight he kept saying that i wasnt losing weight fast enough and when i ate anything he said i was eating too much even though it was a normal meal, eg, breakfast. i took to exercising every day to get more weight off, my periods stopped. i got so demoralised that i started eating again and put it all back on again (i lost 5 stone), now hes taunting me again about being fat. i hate him and myself, my marriage is now pretty rocky but he denies saying anything of the sort. also he accused me of having an affair when i lost weight, again, untrue. i think he felt he had lost control when i was slimmer and more attractive, its all about control which is sad.

Answer 10

I think they are very insecure men. My ex-fiance started cheating on me and dumped me when I started to lose weight, went tanning, and was just looking good again.