Let me start by saying submissive doesn't necessarily mean that you don't have an opinion and are weak. I mean submissive as in catering to your man and allowing him to take on a "King of the Household" role. Again, don't assume this means he's able to boss you around or what have you.
I currently have a job (as does my husband). However, when we have children I will find a way to stay at home with them. There is no way that a woman can work all day, come home and tend to the children and then tend to her husband fully.
Men need to be taken care of. They need to be tended to (sexually, emotionally, etc.) Why don't more women accept the role they are meant to be in?
2006-10-09 03:35:17 · 17 answers · asked by Julie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Good question!
It appears to me that the women's liberation movement that started in the 1960's in the USA convinced the majority of women that they should never act in anyway submissive to their husbands. Out of this movement came the war cry of females all over: I AM WOMEN HEAR ME ROAR!!
I think this attitude of wives has lead to disharmony in marriage and caused many divorces and has left many children to grow up in situations that have been less than ideal. This attitude has affected men in many negative ways. Each of these effects has resulted in destruction of society and has lead to increases in crime and in incarceration and continues to contribute to tearing down our society.
Many marriages that would other wise be much happier have been destroyed by this attitude of the wife. If the wife would have just tried the submissive route the husband and children and the wife would all be much happier and more productive. Many women who have realized this and tried it have found it works and they are much happier. It is the pressure of society that makes it difficult for women to be submissive to their husband. The pressure of society is caused by the women's liberation movement that started in the 1960's in the USA.
Who started this movement and why? Why did so many people fall for it? It was and still is a tragedy.
2006-10-09 03:52:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Whew! This question has "trouble" written all over it! But, I'm thinking MAYBE you're asking something more. I truly believe that a societal problem exists these days because both parents work (in most cases) and the children are being raised by other people. I also believe this occurs because the "wants" of today's society far outweigh the "needs".
If a couple would pay more attention to what the BASIC needs of a family are, it would then be a possibility for one of them to stay at home and take care of the "needs" of the rest of the household members. I, in no way, find this to be of a submissive nature, nor do I think it should stereotypically be the responsibility of the female to stay home. It should be an informed and combined decision by the two people who make up the description of "parents".
If this is what you and your husband decide is best for your family, then go for it and don't worry about what others do or what they think. And, why does it have to be labeled as anything other than YOU making a choice in YOUR life?
Good Luck! Hope you raise a whole bunch of happy, well-adjusted young-ins!!
2006-10-09 04:04:01 · answer #2 · answered by Rembrandt11 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you educated? How far have you gone in school? High School? College? Just curious.
Why I asked is because I am a strong educated woman who loves to excel in everything. I have an extremely strong marriage of 9 years and 2 beautiful children. I have worked everyday of my life since the age of 18 plus put myself through college. My husband has dinner fixed for him every night and I totally believe in taking care of the man. But summissive....not at all. Our marriage is 50/50 and as the Priest said at our wedding, that is the only way a marriage will last.
He is proud of my work efforts as I admire his as well. We have the same goals to succeed and I feel that is why we are so compatiable.
Good luck but think of your man as a partner, a friend, a lover not as a ruler.
2006-10-09 04:49:30 · answer #3 · answered by boohoo 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
The men who wish a woman to mother them are trouble in long term. Be an individual who can fend for yourself and agree to be with someone because you want to be there. Find a mate who wants you there because he loves you not because he needs a maid. Men DO NOT need to be taken care of. The ones who do will not be able to father children or accept that your affections(caring) have been taken from him and given to the children.
It works better in the long run.
2006-10-09 03:43:28 · answer #4 · answered by Flagger 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, like my friend said, not everyone wants to be equal. Some like being dominant. Some like being submissive. I agree with you. I want an equal partner, not a boss or slave, in a relationship. Now, in the bedroom, it can be fun to switch things up between dom and sub. But overall, no. I’m an egalitarian.
2016-03-28 02:36:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The whole idea is to get the hum drum things out of the way(like house hold chores) and have more time to spend with each other. who cares if it is the woman or man who does the chores as long as they r out of the way. Or u both can do them together.The focus is to open time for fun and love for both parteners. Good luck Curious 2006
2006-10-09 03:45:41 · answer #6 · answered by Curious 2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this subject is nuts!!! Woman do what they feel is right in their heart. No man will own me nor will I be submissive to him. That is insane! We have mind's of our own and we believe in different thing's. Marriage is 50-50 not woman busting their behinds and men sit on their arses and watch TV and get a ******** while being lazy because someone is being submissive. That man will control you in a few year's if you do not wake up and you allow him to.. Kids/Marriage/Sexual Pleasure they all go hand in hand and I walk on a 2 way street. Not 1 way of what his needs consist of. Good Luck!!
2006-10-09 04:07:59 · answer #7 · answered by Niecy 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
" Why don't more women accept the role they are meant to be in" Oh you mean like ahhmm the word is .mmmmDOORMAT? I am a married man and I feel this has to be a joke. what self respecting woman would sacrifice her being, to become a stepford wife? I mean if you have a sister let me know-but wow you sound like you stepped out of the 1950's
2006-10-09 03:41:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋
When you have those children, can afford to stay home with them, and have the time and energy to take care of your man, then ask this question!
2006-10-09 03:43:09 · answer #9 · answered by lady_reed_03 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my wife worked full time up till the birth of our 4th child . and we both took care of each other , the kids and the house and everything else that needed done ,. an believe me it wasn't easy , sure would of been nice for both of us to have a full time care giver waiting on us . but some how we found time to take care of each other
2006-10-09 03:49:35 · answer #10 · answered by crazy_ol_hippie_radical 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋