I was in a 16 year relationship which ended wen my ex had an affair and left me for the other woman after 6 months. Im now in a new relationship with a really nice guy but because of my own insecruities i dont believe a word he says. He gives me absol utely no reason at all to feel like this, and i no its to do with wat happened with my ex!!!!!! any help wud be mega appreciatetd. By the way my new man (who is mega gorgeous n 10 times
better than my ex, lol) no's bout my insecurities and is really gud bout it, but its driving me nuts!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-09 03:23:29 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
once a cheater always a cheater
drop him like hes hot
2006-10-09 03:24:45 · answer #1 · answered by Stacy W 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
This is exactly why I have had several first dates, many fewer second dates. And almost no 3rd dates. I find that women tend to put the man through hell just because another guy did them wrong. I think you need to fix your problem first...then look for a relationship that you can enter in a healthy way. By your own admission...your new bf hasn't done anything to deserve this.... why then should he have to earn your trust. It should be there automatically and only go away if he gave you a reason.
I am tired of dealing with the ghosts of boy friends past!
Get help from a qualified psychologist.... your man doesn't deserve being dumped on... the fastest way to make him a cheater is to accuse him.... and your concerns will come true!
He doesn't deserve to be compared.... he is not the boy friend you had.... he's the new one.
2006-10-09 03:50:51 · answer #2 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was the same way with mine at first because of my past marriage where I was cheated on. It is hard to trust again after that but you got to remember this is a new relationship and it needs a chance so trust him and let him love you. Trust until Trust is broken. It will be had at first, but you will see that he has no intentions of hurting you. Good Luck!!!
2006-10-09 03:26:39 · answer #3 · answered by Clints_wench 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i guess it relies upon on some factors. Has he executed this earlier? Is he a participant, flirt or thinks he God's modern to females? Is he contrite and feels undesirable approximately it? grew to alter into he drunk or dissatisfied approximately some element? i'd attempt to forgive if it grew to alter into some element he did yet regrets. Has he apologized for his habit? Does he understand the way lots he injury you and is wakeful which you somewhat choose time to bypass back to grips with the wear and tear, have self perception subjects and the heartache you have? Why do you think of he sought convenience or exhilaration from yet yet another lady? Are you having dating subjects or does he have a roving eye? i'd easily come back with him if he grew to alter into somewhat sorry for his strikes, isn't that form of individual in many instances and made a grave mistake, takes accountability for his strikes, is wakeful you're actually in a international of harm, realizes his strikes are incorrect and exhibits you he's a replaced guy. all people make errors, yet our errors have result and injury others now and back. He needs to assist you to realize that he's wakeful why you're injury and dissatisfied. that stands out because of the fact the easily way i'd evaluate taking him back. be taught with him and word what he says. Then make up your techniques.
2016-12-16 04:42:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel. My ex-husband cheated me while I trusted him 100%. I know it's very hard because I'm experiencing the same thing. My doctor taught me this.
(i) Is it true? If it is true, what is the prove
(ii) It's his matter (your ex), not your current boyfriend.
I hope this can help.
2006-10-09 03:35:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch out for other woman, since he's mega gorgeous, theres a high chances that girls will hit on him, u know wat i mean? If he truely love u i dont see wat's the reason not to trust him.
2006-10-09 03:26:15 · answer #6 · answered by AppleSoda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can not judge one person for what another has done the trust will have to come in time you can not make it come faster by reading books or what someone says good luck.
2006-10-09 03:32:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should learn to trust anyone who you brought in to your life.
ask him some QUESTIONS about himself ASK him if he has been going out with anyone else than you !!!!! he might not tell you but tell him he needs to TELL you the TRUTH or else you are O V E R !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! try opening a new website with him @ FREEWEBS >COM you both could be TOGETHER all the time & make sure he is NOT!!!! going OUT with anyone BUT YOU!!!!
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2006-10-09 03:33:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't judge all men by the actions of one loser. You got a good man now, run with it.
2006-10-09 03:26:32 · answer #9 · answered by bequalming 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust him but don't let your guard down. If he doesn't start talking about long term plans with you or he doesn't call you as often as you call him, be wary.
2006-10-09 03:27:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋