Can anyone identify or offer advice?

Question

I'm sure we;'ve all asked a question like this once, or at least wanted to. . .
Honestly, I have lost track of who I am and what I want so greatly that nothing truly makes me happy anymore. . . It's a terrible feeling because I remember being full of such life and passion for life. I haven't had the ambition or even the desire to do the things I love in months. I try to make myself do thing for my sons but, even when I do them, I'm not really happy and typically feel stressed trying to "fake it" and keep up with two young boys on my own that are under the age of 4. . . .I'm not sure when this started. . .I think this extreme unhappiness began when me and my fiance split. . .someone please hear me and lend me some advice as to how to get through this. . . I'm scaring myself with how pointless everything seems to me.

Answer 1

I think you are starting to slip into a depression. Right now you should find a close friend that you can just talk to. It doesn't have to be anything specific just as long as you unload some of those feelings. Something else you may want to do is look back at your childhood and try to remember those dreams you used to hold so close. Those dreams tend to be unbridled passions that often get pushed aside because they were thought to be juvenile or childish. Perhaps it's time to do a little soul searching; find out what your dreams really are.

Answer 2

You are in mourning for you break-up. You are disappointed that your dream didn't come true.. re father for your children there to take some of the load....
You are worn out emotionally and need a break...
See if a freind can take your boys for a week-end and go on a short jaunt to visit a girl friend... Do some fun things..
If this is not possible, yo need to find a big rollercoaster, that will scare the heck out of you and go for a ride....
Yell, scream and do whatever is necessary to get the skeletons out of your closet......Let it go...
Find a stimulation for yourself, like a job, a course that will give you daycare while you go to it.
Trade off babysitting with another mother you know and get out and go for a bike ride, a brisk walk, something to get your mind into gear.....exercise of any kind can make you feel good inside
Change your attitiude and move on... the relationship is done, but you and your kids have a whole life ahead of you... Don't rob yourself or them of the happiness that is there for the taking...
You are not lost, you just wanded down the wrong path for a bit... You are still there... fight to get you back!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 3

When I get the blue funk( what I call it) I really have a herd time pulling myself out of it. I too have a child and I try to be on the sunny-side for her but it is a chore at those times.Medication would probably help you, but I can't see myself taking drugs to be able to cope with getting up and living my life.
I try to remember that everything I do is being absorbed by her and is teaching her how to behave and handle problems.
I have to mentally make a list of my blessings. I start with the basics, life, a family, my daughter, a house to live in , the country I live in , food , clothes, air to breath , trees to see. You get the idea, if that doesn't work then I think of others and the trials that they are having, living without limbs, with out any place to call their own, I think of the hardships that the people in the concentration camps had to endure, that usually snaps me out and I see things differently.
I hope you get to feeling like yourself soon, I will send good vibes and prayers your way. I wish you peace.

Answer 4

life is not very complicated it's what we make of it is
you probably realize when you're boyfriend was gone that
you never at time for yourself,you never really love yourself
he was doing that for you,so now you feel empty and don't
have the energy to start over..right?...they as the be
something that you like doing the best..so concentrate
on that..do some exercise or yoga it takes the stress away.
and focus on thinking about what you like..see that what us mother do wrong we spend are energy on our children an we
forget about ourself,,that is wrong...if you're not happy then
you're kid are miserable and sometimes they get on our nerfs
try to get some therapy they help with to focus more on you
and make you feel less guilty on doing things for you....
it help to talk about it because after all it's not the end of the world

it's a new beginning.......

good luck sweetheart

isabelle

Answer 5

It seems you are letting the stress and strain of your life get you down. If you have 2 young boys and are raising them on your own, this is understandable. But you have to have a life of your own, something that takes you away from the everyday stress. But I do think if you are feeling so badly that you are scaring yourself, you might want to start of with counseling or a single parenting group for support.

Answer 6

you are depressed. go see the doctor and get some help. life is not pointless. what a stupid thing to say or think. look at your son; that is the point. you had your heart broken. i'm sorry but you are not the only one who matters. you are a mom. you dont' get to be all sulky. you have to handle it so you can care for your child. see a doctor. make time for your girlfiends and get out of the house. and remember, just when the caterpillar thought its life was over it became a butterfly.

Answer 7

You are not alone. Everyone feels the way you do sometimes. Take some time for yourself to regroup and you will be fine. You have a very important job raising two boys. Good luck and never give up.

Answer 8

I'm going through the same thing. I think that we need to start to spend time alone to figure out where did we go wrong, and how can we let ourselves go because of things that happen in our lives with our partners I bet you've done the same things I've done which was totally commit myself to my family and let everything else that mattered to me go.

Answer 9

I know how you are feeling but you have to remember you are in control of yourself and you can be happy. Noone else controls you except you. Forget all the bad things and just go for it!

You dont have another option.

Answer 10

In my opinion I think maybe you need to find a close friend to confide in. That person does not have to be bf but just someone you can talk to.You sound like the type of person who needs a partner so-to-speak. Not necessarily a mate but just someone to be close with.