I know that if you are with your partner then you want him there and he wants to be there as he is the father but is he really the best person to have around? Would a Mum or sister not be better? Isn't a female stronger, calmer, more helpful in these situations? I would like to hear from those who have given birth. I have 3 weeks to go!
2006-10-09 02:59:42 · 10 answers · asked by Caroline 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
My first childbirth was like a circus, my husband,mum, aunt, best friend and everybody else was coming & going during the labour and then just my mum & hubby for the delivery itself. My mum stood in the back of the room facing me and had a look of pain and was wincing and biting her nails the whole way through, NOT helpful in the least!! while my hubby was wonderful, strong, calm, even cracking the odd joke to ease tension, held me up and supported me the whole way, (it only took about 45 mins to push baby out) So I decided for my second birth, it would just be hubby and me, nice, quiet and calm. (second birth was quicker - about 35 mins and it went perfectly). In the end, its up to you, if your hubby and mum get on great and you feel reassured with them both then they could take turns as well with you during the process. Good luck and can I give you a tip? Try to handle it without drugs, the pain will come and it will go just as quickly, ride it out with breathing patterns and try not to scream and get hysterical, the more you scream, the more painful it will feel, honestly, if you really focus on being calm and breath right, it will be that much more easy, I promise.
2006-10-09 03:13:37 · answer #1 · answered by laveranda1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly don't know who is the "better" of the two. Both have advantages to being with you for the delivery. What I do know, without hesitation is, EVERY man should be there and see the birth of his child. It is an experience that is unsurpassed no matter how many times he sees it. I thought my husband would puke, pass out, something, but he was totally is awe and holds those two days as the most incredible of his life.Twenty two years later, he still tells any expectant father he comes into contact with to go into the delivery room.I would never want to deny any man that experience.
2006-10-09 03:15:25 · answer #2 · answered by N0_white_flag 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definetly the partner! it will bring you closer expierencing the birth of the child you created together. Most hospitals will allow up to two ppl in the room though so maybe you can have your mom and your partner in there with you, if you think you will be more comfortable. Just dont leave out your partner...he has a big part in this.
2006-10-09 03:03:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just depends on the individuals...who in your circle of folks is most supportive?!? Who do you feel most comfortable with? The only right answer to this question is the one that suits you.
In my situation I'm choosing my partner...he's extremely supportive and calm. And seriously looking forward to being there for me. Though, if I had gotten pregnant when I was married to my X I would have chosen my mother. She isn't the most calm and verbally supportive person, but she would have been better than my X. He'd have passed out or gotten angry because the doctor had to check my cervix and was anywhere near my privates....lol.
2006-10-09 03:11:08 · answer #4 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the individuals involved. I'd go with the father of the child in most cases. Ultimately youre the one giving birth. The whole birthing team business is a bit of nonsense IMO. Best of luck!
2006-10-09 03:10:58 · answer #5 · answered by birdie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my case having mom there was better. I had back labor and she could push there with her fist and relieve the pain. She also had had 5 kids and knew a thing or 2. Having the spouse there, well all I could think of was grabbing him by the balls and squeezing hard.
2006-10-09 03:10:21 · answer #6 · answered by picture 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Check with the hospital to see if you can have more than one person in the room with you. I have had up to 5 people in the room with me when i delivered. Mom did do the most tho. Good luck
2006-10-09 07:46:40 · answer #7 · answered by gibby419 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gender is irrelevant. Go by what you know of the person. My wife went into critically premature labor and I was the only one who could keep her calm and focussed.
It's not whether they can react well, it's whether they can get YOU to react well. Our baby is thriving now. My wife says she won't give advice on this, but that I did very well. Good luck.
2006-10-09 03:24:28 · answer #8 · answered by j5i3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its better to have ur partner, this will give the woman confidence, feels comfortable, its a product of two so both shd feel it, will increase ur love
2006-10-09 03:11:38 · answer #9 · answered by Sherlock H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mom was better than my boyfriend....he was shocked and she knew exactly what to go.
2006-10-09 04:10:15 · answer #10 · answered by rayshell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋