2006-10-09 02:57:59 · 9 answers · asked by Caroline 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I had my mum and partner - and it worked out great. My partner was of limited use - he didn't have a clue what to expect, what to do, and moaned that there was nowhere to sleep (like sleep was likely!!) My mum was more practical - she offered water and encouragement and was great. Unfortunatey I was rushed to theatre to get the little man out - and only my partner was allowed in - so i feel bad that my Ma missed out - but I'd definitely have them both there again next time. Having 2 meant that they both got a break as well (My labour lasted 3days - so they both needed breaks!).
You may think you'll feel conscientious in front of certain people - but when labour day comes - you won't care. I had about 30 people all getting a good look as I lay in theatre with my legs strapped in the air!!
2006-10-09 03:04:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Billy, I don't know if you're male or female so I hope you're not offended by this answer. I had both my mum and my husband at the birth of my first child. My mum knew exactly what I was going through, having been through it 5 times herself and provided the support and reassurance I needed. My husband felt quite useless and tried his best to help but did not really know what to do. I didn't know what I wanted him to do because I didn't know what was going to happen next. The worst thing he did was tell me to breathe! He did it during my 4th labour too. He actually told me to take deep breaths and not pant (when I actually should've been panting!) So, I would have to say that female birth partner is better but perhaps I actually mean someone who's had a baby before would be the bets birth partner!
2006-10-09 03:05:58 · answer #2 · answered by nangari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That really all depends on the woman giving birth and her relationship with the birth partner. Some women are perfectly happy with either person and some could only be happy with one or the other.
Personally, I've had four children. For my first three, my mother was with me. She was useless. She gave me absolutely no support of any kind... she was more interested in being out of the room than she was in being in it with me.
When I gave birth to our daughter, my husband was by my side and offered wonderful support. He helped me through even the worst contractions... helping me to focus my energies where they were needed instead of wasting them. I couldn't have asked for better support than he gave throughout the whole pregnancy, and especially through the labor and delivery. The most amazing moment of all was when I looked over and saw the tears in his eyes as he saw his daughter for the first time. It's a moment that could never be replaced.
I would never want to have anyone besides my husband with me when I'm giving birth. There is no two ways about it. My mother and I don't even speak anymore, but if we did, I would still want my husband with me. Any children I have will be with him and he deserves a chance to see them born. It is a wonderful experience to have a loving partner with me while giving birth to our child. I would never try to exclude him.
Now, if this is a decision that someone feels they have to make... choosing one over the other... and they are having a hard time deciding, they should ask the hospital directly about their policies. The hospital where we had our daughter allows two people in the labor and delivery room, two birth partners. Some hospitals allow several. Ask the hospital directly and not the OB... our OB would tell us one thing about hospital policy and we found out that the hospital had different policies than we were told.
Good luck.
2006-10-09 03:39:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had both.. and it was great.. My mom was very wise to the situation.. and I am still her baby, so she did things like wash my hair after I delivered.. but my partner was also there and he was comforting and supportive during labor..
I plan to have both my mom and husband there for this second time around as well..
2006-10-09 03:08:36 · answer #4 · answered by Legs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my husband and my sister-in-law with me. They were both great. My husband was excited and caring and my sister-in-law took charge also. She had a child a year before. I really couldn't choose between the two as far as who is better.
2006-10-09 02:59:57 · answer #5 · answered by Keith Perry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the woman and who she would feel most comfortable with in the room. I had my husband...he wasn't much help but I wouldn't have been happy without him there.
2006-10-09 02:59:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had both in the delivery room with me and I wouldn't change that for the world!!!!
2006-10-09 03:01:31 · answer #7 · answered by Slk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mom. It's good to have Dad there, but usually they are overwhelmed and confused to, it's good to have someone who's been there anticipate your needs and assist you.
2006-10-09 03:02:49 · answer #8 · answered by devilUknow 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i had my first born with my mum and our second with my hubby, my mum had a calming effect on me, and my hubby was just plain bossy telling me what to do like he knows.
but it depend on who you are more comfy with
2006-10-09 03:00:53 · answer #9 · answered by sweet - angel 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋