I have been with my guy for 8 yrs. i feel secure with him but we had a talk or an argument (he calls it that) yesterday and things were revealed to me that i already knew but he really didnt give me details at the time about. I don't think that he's happy here. he tells me he is and he is a great guy. he has helped me a lot. he just moved me in 3-4 months ago and things were well but i don't know how to express myself. can't tell him how i trully feel and he feels like i'm not being real with him. i love him a lot. should i let him go for good. let him be happy with someone else. its a trully long story but ladies think about it honestly. i have plenty of issues and i dont need to drag him down. do u feel that i should let him go and i should be alone? if i can't make him happy then i shouldnt be in a relationship at all for a long time after all i am 26 and i look great but i feel conjested with my issues in life.
2006-10-09 02:57:21 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Dear, you should be worriyng about making yourself happy first. It's the only way to be able to make someone else happy. And if he tells you he's happy, just believe him! Why would he lie to you anyway...
2006-10-09 03:01:50 · answer #1 · answered by CH 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I think that if he loves you you're not "dragging him down" with anything. Of course, being an outsider, I don't know what "issues" you have or what you argued about with him, but every couple argues now and then, it's just life.
I think that if you're both in love and there's no cheating or anything involved, than you both should talk and try to make things work.
Good luck!
2006-10-09 03:02:01 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs. D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First and above all , please yourself. If you are in a non win situation and feel that uncomfortable. Then you should weigh your options. How do you know you're not pleasing him by being there. Move and maybe date other guys. It's not worth being miserable all your life. Find someone you can click with. Be happy!!!!!! There seems to be some underlining issues with him.
2006-10-09 03:12:15 · answer #3 · answered by babysis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him, tell him what's going on with you...tell him about your issues.You do need to be honest with him. If He really loves you he will stand by you, and help you resolve your issues. If he doesn't love you he will turn away, and you'll know he wasn't the right person for you. Eather way take care of yourself, get help with what ever is troubling you, check out counseling,or something like that....Don't let your issues run you life....
2006-10-09 03:09:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Telling anyone, "I do not such as you that approach, however are you able to supply me your peers' quantity?" goes to harm, regardless of how you set it. It's additionally tremendously cheesy. Continue to make it transparent to Michael that you haven't any goal of getting a dating with him. If he may not take the trace, reduce off touch with him. It sounds such as you gave your quantity to the guy you had been eager about - if he hasn't contacted you by means of now, he both wasn't all that eager about you, or was once gracefully stepping apart to supply Michael a danger with you. Either approach, I'd say omit approximately Simon, and discover anyone else to be eager about.
2016-08-29 05:40:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can relate to what you are going thru, i am almost in the same boat. me and my hubby had i fight last nigh and i told him to go, cause it feels to me like he is not happy in our marriage and in tears he told me that he is he loves me and don't want to leave me. if he wanted to leave or if he was unhappy he would have left a long time ago. 8 years is a long time if he is still there then know that he loves you. if you cant express your self then try and write it down! or show him in different ways that you love him.
each person has a love language find out what is his and use it. be it gifts, physical touch, word of affirmation, quality time or acts service.
you can make him happy, but first you got to learn to love yourself. that is my problem i have a low self esteem but i am trying and one day i will love myself.
just don't give up
pray to our God for guidance in your life.
Good luck my sweetie
2006-10-09 03:17:20 · answer #6 · answered by sweet - angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless on whether you stay with him or not, you have to get some help if you have such issues in life that cause you to hold things in.
Dont give up on the relationship so easily.
2006-10-09 03:02:14 · answer #7 · answered by JC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋