I've been working in the same place for 1 1/2 years, it was initially enjoyable but my boss has a bad reputation for the way he treats his staff, before it was bearable, but now i swear i will either walk out or stab him in the eye with a biro.
I work hard but it's never good enough, he talks to me like I'm an idiot & treats me like a child. he was asked if I would move to another hotel in the chain that is 10mins walk from my house (rather than the hour each way on a bus I'm doing now) & he refused without even telling me!
I was doing very long days for the 1st year (without overtime) & business has decreased in the last few months but he still expects me to pull the same shifts for no reason, even though it means I am sitting around doing nothing & hardly seeing my partner.
My job is quite specialized & it is unlikely that i would get anything similar without moving to a different area - my partner has a son and needs to remain close by in order to see him.
Can someone plz help
2006-10-09 02:36:00 · 7 answers · asked by ladyjinx 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
jack. I trained for 3 years to get my job and I really am not willing to throw it away.
2006-10-09 02:45:22 · update #1
no-one higher than him I'm afraid - he's the general manager of the hotel. the owner ownes about 20 other hotels and really dont think he will be interested in little me!
2006-10-09 02:46:40 · update #2
Always remember this my friend. You are at work for the vast majority of your life. Therefore it has to be doing something that you enjoy or you will go nuts. It doesn't have to be a specialised job, anything will be fine as long as you are happy and pays enough for you to live on.
From the way that you describe your boss, I'm surprised that he has any staff working for him at all.
You've got to think of quality of life. Be happy. Be assertive, but above all, be no-body's door mat. You're better than that.
I know it is scary thinking about changing jobs, but just think, if you feel like this now, how will you feel in another year and a half? Is it worth it?
Good luck :-)
P.S. Always make sure you got a biro in your pocket when you go to work ok?
2006-10-09 02:47:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it is a chain of hotels then you must have a Personnel or Human Resources facility. It will also be listed on your contract who to go to if you have a grievance ie. a system for grievance procedures. It is a tricky one if you can't apply for other jobs. However, if you carry on as you are two things could happen - one you will suffer from stress and become very ill so will be off sick anyway and two, if he gets fed up with you he can sack you. I would suggest that you have a meeting with him and tell him how you feel but I think it will get you nowhere with this control freak/bully. That said, if you stand up to him I think he would partly back down and respect you more. The only choice you have, putting it in perspective, is you have to weigh up which is more important - your partner and your health, or your job.
Good luck whichever way you choose - I do know what it is like because I went through it myself, became ill because of it, and lost my job in the end anyway. Is it worth it?
2006-10-09 03:07:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
why dont you approach your boss - organise a meeting - point out that its not merely a "chat" but a professional discussion. It would be even better if you have another manager or supervisor or someone of authority to be there.
Either way - explain that you feel he is being unreasonable in his expectations with regards your work and explain that you were quite annoyed when you heard about the opportunity he passed over with regards to moving hotels.
Is he the highest man in the authority chain within your work place - is there anyone that oversees him that you could arrange to talk to and put your views forward - they might take on board what you're saying and take your side on the matter.
2006-10-09 02:40:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
check your contract about overtime and if it states that it is by choice, then 'refuse' to to it, i iknow it may seem awkward to do, but you have to stand up to your boss. Tell him that you are not letting the company down as there is no work and therefore no need for you to do extra hours!! Also, maybe try to speak to 'his' boss about the move you mentioned. It seems closer and would be better than what you're going through now.
Go on.... just do it. You will be happier in the end. Stand up forself
2006-10-09 02:42:54 · answer #4 · answered by Chazza xx Baby born 7/11/09 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is ther no one higher up than your boss that you can talk to and complain about him in an official manner, are there any other staff heving the same problems as you? if so then why not all get together and complain about him, if there is no one higher up then I'd express my concerns to him in a polite and professional manner, and if he's still the same then its time to look for alternative work.
2006-10-09 02:43:03 · answer #5 · answered by Jo. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is always a "chain of command" if you can't speak w/ him professionally, then climb the chain until you get results; especially if you know you are worthy. respect goes a long way, and he needs to let him know face to face that you are not a child nor are you an idiot. tell him that you take pride in your work and would like to be treated fairly as an employee and you are not there for his personally benefit.
2006-10-09 03:11:11 · answer #6 · answered by Say It Again M'am 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very pathetic, why not trying someother job rather than trying the same what you know. Can't you learn something new and get a job, rather than grumbling like this? Try and best of luck!
2006-10-09 02:40:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋