Is divorce a right idea?

Question

Is divorce ok after having kid. What about social outlook for divorce in India or better to be in some other country?

Answer 1

fighting and arguing in front of the kid is something tht shud not happen in any case. see if the condition between u and ur spouse has become pathetic and if it will get worsen with time, i think divorce is the better answer. There is no point of dragging the life. Social boundations r there (especially in the country like India), but ur life is much more imp. than these things. Initially it will be hard for all of u especially for the kid, but the things will become normal with time. otherwise for whole of the life u ppl will keep on fighting and ur kid will grow up in tht atmosphere, do u want that ??

Answer 2

Divorce is not ok after having a kid. You will have to consider your child's future. What I suggest is, don't go for divorce directly, think of some better option like solving your disputes or respecting each other's point of view and then explaining each other what went wrong and what made you angry. Each one in married life deserves a truth and owes a truth explaination. If you loved your spouse even for a moment in your past life that means you care for each other, try to think what went wrong. Because our world and society around us needs love which you both can give to the society through your child. I wish Good Luck for you!

Answer 3

Well divorce such an ugly thing but when two people fall out of love with eachother and there is no trying to solve whatever the problem is then regardless of children you must do what is best for you, beacause after that you will be happier and then better to able to take care of you children, if you really want to work it out it can be done but if there is no use in trying then get a divorce and be strong, it is not worth hurting eachother, or your children.

Answer 4

That depends on what you want if you want a divorce and in India its looked down on then you should be in another country, but if your ok with not getting a divorce then you can stay there and put up with whatever your going through

Answer 5

Okay I know in the United States a lot of people get a divorce even if they have a kid. divorce is a hard decision to make and if you think its best for the kid then yes go for divorce but make sure you never ever fight in front of the kid because its going to be hard enough for that child as it is and the last thing is they need to be thinking is its their fault make sure you sit down as a family and explain to the child what is going if the kid is old enough to understand make sure you make the right chose for you and your family.

Answer 6

You must try marriage therapy first. You have not told the reason why you are wanting a divorce. You try to change the wrong behavior and stay together for the sake of your child.

I would not want to be a divorced woman in India. I would move.

Answer 7

Effects of divorce on children

It is commonly believed that the consequences of one’s actions are to be suffered by him alone. But divorce is an exception to that as the post-divorce problems are shared by the children as well. Every divorce is a result of unique circumstances and therefore it has varying consequences. However, it is a common observation that divorce usually has negative effects on children. In a family, every member has a sense of belonging which is, without doubt, incomparable to any other families. The effects of divorce depend on the relationship of parents and children in a particular family. The fact that separation brings an inevitable sense of loss of a parent is very painful for the children as they want both of their parents to be there for them. Another thing that could cause this feeling is that some children like to see their parents living together in peace. In case of divorce, the parents stop living together and the family life is never the same. This dramatic change demands many adjustments and compromises that the children may not be prepared for. Hence this leads to increased stress. Moreover, living with a single parent usually results in economic hardships which affect the children practically as they are dependent on their parents. Consequently the children feel deprived in every sense of the word. Whatever the causes of a divorce, it is always preceded by some events that lead up to it. This exposure to confrontations and/or bitter arguments is a source of constant anxiety for the children who continually try to normalise things between their parents. But they are disillusioned when all ends up in divorce. These children feel responsible for the separation and are morally degenerated because of guilt. After divorce the custody issue is very frustrating for the child as he/she is forced to choose to live with one of the parents. The option that the child actually wants i.e. to live with both the parents is what he/she does not have. On the other hand, in some cases, both the parents may not agree to or not be capable of taking custody of the children so then they have to be moved to foster homes. This may be disapproved by some children as they may feel alienated in the new environment. Living without parent/parents can result in early maturity of the children due to added responsibility and the absence of the parental care. Thus the children are unfairly robbed of their innocence. This affects their personalities as they either may be prone to self-pity or become aggressive. Divorce being the failure of the mother and the father to commit is a bad example set for the children. The children may lose faith and become afraid of commitment or they may lose their sense of obligation -not considering it necessary to stay committed. Also as the things did not work out for the parents, the children may regard them as being fickle minded and become disrespectful. The children take the frequent fights of their parents as acts of immaturity and irrationality. The children living with their mothers are deprived of a disciplinarian and a head of the family in the shape of a father, whereas, the children living with their fathers miss out the unconditional motherly affection. Nevertheless some children do get over this traumatic experience and compromise with their own respective situations. They, along with the others brought up by both parents, do excel in their fields as their progress is not necessarily stunted. But in their personalities, somewhere deep inside, there is a space left hollow that had long ago yearned to be a part of a picture perfect family.

Answer 8

Diverse is a painful process in India & any where in world. This is the last resort to be adopted. But now a days due to fast life people do not have patience.
So it is never a RIGHT IDEA

Answer 9

i would like to fragment ur question ... is that right on wat ground ..is it beneficial to both the partners almost to 25% it is bit absurd to think about the society once decided to quit ..if one think s about the society why divorce ...it is looked down upon in the rural india ...but in the urban due to much understanding people have started accepting as they no longer find time for others ...kids so be realy convinced if they r matured enough ...if not they should be a sort of mutal comprise betwen the partners on this to take care of the kid...

Answer 10

a lot of couples are in love but just have many problems. those people should seek outside help first to solve the problems. but some are just incompatible or can't make it work and they should get divorced. like many people, i'm glad my parents divorced. there are problems that come with having divorced parents but there are also problems with having parents that don't get along!!!!!!!!