Should I do an abortion operation if my boyfriend ask me to? He did not want a child and feels like sperm bank

Answer 1

Answer these questions first:
How do you plan on taking care of the baby, and paying for all of its expenses.
Will the father give you any help in this.
How will it effect your life, what will be the positive things and what will be the negatives ones, and can you live with those negative things?

Abortion is cold-blooded murder, but a necessary one sometimes. We live in a flawed world and sometimes the best decision is a flawed one. I FAVOR ABORTION.

Ideally I would like to see the woman carry the child to term and give it up for adoption, but that takes a very strong woman to do that. The child becomes a part of them, it is not just a life in their belly, it is THEM. Giving up that child will probably be the hardest thing that they have every done, very few will be capable of it.

I hate child abuse, and I think its is one of the worst crimes that a person can commit. An unwanted child will have to suffer 16-18 years of abuse and it will warp them so much as to damage their entire life and the lives of those around them.

Now imagine what happens with an unwanted pregnancy. The woman is usually young in high school (The percentage of this among black people is alarming, and not just a rumor or product of racial prejudice). The mother will have to drop out of high school; when the pregnancy starts to show. Some schools offer a special class for pregnant women, but this is pretty rare. Regardless of what happens the woman will have to drop out when the child is born, and this will change the family’s life.

By far the most unwanted pregnancies are those where the father isn’t present, and refuses to help care for the child. Suing a person for child-support is expensive and takes a long time. If the father is in school, unemployed, in prison or otherwise poor then they can’t pay child support. So the woman and her family have to take up the burden. There are a few cases where the father and the father’s family will step forward, but 95% of the time they won’t; and raising a child is expensive. The child has to eat, and they grow out of their clothes quickly. They need a roof over their head and so much more, with all of that it will be double what it takes to support just the mother.

Since the woman doesn’t have a high school degree the only jobs she can get are those that only offer a minimum wage; they can’t even join the military. The child will have to be taken care of and that will be difficult and time consuming. Someone is going to have to meet those 4:00 a.m. feedings. Sometimes the woman’s family can help and we end up with grandparents raising their own grandchildren. Regardless of who helps it will take a lot time and money. The mother can’t go back to school until the child is old enough to take a bottle, and usually the baby has to be 12-18 months old (this is an optimistic figure). If the mother is strong she can try to go back to school, but even if she has a parent or grandparent to provide childcare it is still a difficult task, and the woman can only go to school part time. Many women don’t even try to return to school, which dooms them to a life of poverty.

They are poor, the woman’s life has been totally disrupted, and the mother can’t graduate with her class or go to her graduation ball. Teenage girls look forward to this event all throughout high school. This one night is supposed to be magical for them; instead it is filled with a baby crying. Is it any wonder that the mother soon starts to resent her baby? Parents normally can’t provide childcare, because they have their own lives and their own family to care for, so it falls to the grandparents. Some can do a good job, but a lot can’t. They won’t have high paying jobs, and probably live on a fixed income. All suffer some health problems and they will only get worse; very few grandparents will live to see their grandchild graduate high school. If they had proper health care and a better more relaxing environment then they could, but the child robs them of this. They are supposed to be retired and enjoying life, now they find themselves having to raise a baby all over again. Is it any wonder that many grandparents can develop a resentment for the child that has caused all their problems, or for their granddaughter who did such a stupid thing and saddled them with such responsibility.

A very small percentage of mothers will be able to graduate high school and even start college, but only an extremely small percentage of those mothers will graduate. Most will be doomed to a life of poverty and forced to live in it.

The child is resented and raised in an environment where they are not wanted. Even if the grandparents and the mother are there the child can’t help but wonder what happened to his daddy. They will grow up poor and miss out on many advantages of life. If they are smart or need help then they won’t get the extra training they need. Under these burdens they will grow up like a tree bent by a great weight.

Since the mother is poor and won’t be working with college graduates (she may serve some of them though). The kind of friends she will have will be just as poor. Her old friends have moved on to a different world and she will have lost them. It has been said, and rightly so, that you are who your friends are. You and your friends are a reflection of your life. She isn’t going to meet a top of the line mate and she is very lonely so she will often end up with a sub par husband. This just increases the chance that the child will be abused, and this life long abuse is very damaging—this is the childhood that almost all serial murders experience.

The child will be resentful, full of hate, and angry. They will not do well in school and will probably drop out early. A few might make it through high school, but most won’t. With nowhere else to turn they join gangs and become criminals. If they were abused even a little then they to will be abusers. This only increases their chance to commit violent crimes. People like this end up in only two places, either a grave or prison. Prison just breeds more crime. If the person hasn’t suffered some sort of abuse before, they will now. Even the regulated life of a prison is hard, the cells are small, and you will never be alone. Then there are the criminals, which have the wolf personality—pick on anyone who appears weaker.

Is it worth putting someone through all of this, is if fair? What about the cost to society? What would you be willing to do to stop the creation of a murderer or a serial killer? Some people have risen beyond all these problems, but these are the extraordinary people, and even these people will have a very tough time and will be behind the curve.

For the mother it is almost just as bad. Her life has been ruined as well as her child’s and the result of this on her will be like a tree growing up under a huge weight. The Cinderella story were such a woman is picked up by a rich handsome man is very, very rare; mainly because all these Cinderellas will almost never see their Prince Charming.

I think that in a case like this abortion is the better solution. I don’t like it, and I don’t shrink from the word murder, but sometimes murder is the only option. It is a cruel world we live in.

Anti-abortionists say killing is a crime, but sometimes it is the only resort, that’s why we have the death penalty. John Wayne Gacy will never kill anyone again, but if he were ever released, or escaped, it would only be a matter of time before he became a serial murderer again. Anti-abortionists say that if you kill one child then you could lose an Einstein. For every possible Einstein though 3 –4 possible serial killers will also be born, a few dozen murders, and a few hundred other criminals. The only Einsteins that can come out of that upraising are the ones that are able to forge a decent life for themselves. They could have done so much better if they were just given a decent chance. You won’t get a truly Einstein caliber person out of an unwanted birth except once in a million years, because any possible Einstein are just those that are able to make a successful life for themselves.

Then there are the woman’s rights. Abortion is a choice; it may not be a good one, but it is still a choice. Our society is one based on giving the individual the maximum possible freedoms, and the test of a freedom is that it only goes as far as one’s nose. We are talking about the woman’s right to control her own body. The child is a parasite on the woman; it cannot live without the woman. We are not cutting words or trying to skip on definitions, the child is a part of the woman and dependent on that woman until that child is born. So we are really talking about the right of someone to control her own body. We limit the right of suicide (myself and many other people disagree with that), but we give a person a choice on how they die. If a man is dying of cancer and goes to the hospital, then he has the right to forbid any heroic measures to be taken in order to save his life. The man can decide to die or not to die. Yet antiabortionists don’t want to give that right to a woman. We are talking about two lives here, but as I said the life of the child is in the mother’s hands, it is in her body and cannot survive without her, that life is that woman the two are intertwined. Women have been held as second-class citizens for too long, if we refuse them the right to control their own bodies then what use are all the other freedoms and rights that our society grants its members.

For all those antiabortionists it is easy to say now, but what are you willing to do to fix the problem? Most of you cannot adopt or don’t want to adopt. You can donate as much money to the church as you want, but that isn’t going to help the children. The orphanage system was abandoned a long time ago. Now days we use Foster Parents, how many antiabortionists are willing to be those foster parents and take care of that child? The foster system is better than orphanages because it brings in one on one human care. Still the system is shot full of child abusers, abusers of the system who are only in it for the money, and just plain bad parents. Child Services has to work with what is available and sometimes that is pretty poor. If we suddenly make abortion illegal then the Child Care system and the Foster Care system will break under the load. So what do we do with the children then? Do we put them in Jail, or make them sleep in the pews of a church? Until you have a real solution to the problem, and not just a wishful promise to do something then I don’t want to hear you. Abortion is a problem with no easy answer, and antiabortionists are blind to the results of their decisions.

Abortion is murder, and I would like to see anything done to prevent it, EXCEPT forcing an unwanted child into the world. The penalty for doing that out weighs the crime of murder. I support abortion and all that brings from condoms to the morning after pill, even late term abortions. The consequences of not supporting them are just too great.

Answer 2

You should definitely listen to your own heart and seek advice from a counsellor or doctor. If your boyfriend seriously cares about you, he would go along with you and hear what the professional have to say and consider the options with you together.

Did he not think of the consequences of what he was doing...he must know what his sperm can do before he gave it up...so he must have known that he could have been a possible "Sperm Bank". So, it ain't much of a great sacrifice that he has made and don't feel guilty about it.

Just watch out for yourself because it is your body and you are the one that can take care of it !

Answer 3

Abortion should be YOUR choice. Don't let your boyfriend pressure you into doing something you don't want to do. If he didn't want a child, he shouldn't have had sex. Nothing is 100% effective, except abstinence. If he's your boyfriend and you had sex with him, why does he feel like a sperm bank?

There are many other options out there besides abortion. Consider all your options before doing the one that's easiest for HIM.

Answer 4

If I had a boyfriend who had got me pregnant and wanted me to have an abortion, I would never have sex with him again. Dump him!

He does not care about you. Tell him he can keep his sperm to himself!

YOU should decide if you want an abortion and you should do what is best for YOU! If you have support from family and friends you might keep the baby, if not, there are thousands of couples who would love to adopt a baby and raise it in a happy healthy home.

Good Luck with your decision!

Answer 5

then you both should have been more responsible. i would not get an abortion just because he wanted you to. this decision could effect you either way for the rest of both of your lives. if neither one of you want the child then you should seek adoption counselors..there are plenty of other people out there that would love to have a baby but cant. also if you want to keep the baby but he doesnt.....there are plenty of woman out there that raise children alone and you can do it too. tell you bf that he needs to close his sperm bank or at least get good insruance on it.

Answer 6

I feel that it is completely up to you, and if he really loves you, and you keep the baby he will stick around if not, then it wasn't meant to be. Just think about what you are going to do, and how you will feel for the rest of you life, if you choose to have an abortion. It is your body and your feelings that are at stake here. If you choose to go through with the abortion, it should be because you want to do it, not because some one else wants you to do it.

Answer 7

I am totally against abortion. It is murder and the bible says not to kill. This includes a baby! God wants that baby born for a reason. If you cant care for him or her, consider adoption. If you think you would want to see the baby, there are people that will do whats called an open adoption. That means you can have contact with the child throughout his or her life. It depends on the family how much contact you can have. If you want further information on this matter, please feel free to contact me. My screen name is angels_among_us7777

Answer 8

NO! I personaly do not agree with abortion what so ever....It's not the babies fault...but I guess its your choice....If he was man enough to sleep with you then he should be man enough to take the out come........here read this.......

What is that I hear at my door
its a knocking I cant ignore
Why have you come for me
what did I do?
Whatever it was I didnt do it to you
I am so scared now,cold and alone
my crying and screaming beat down to a moan
You have taken my life before it began
What kind of person are?
Surely not a man!
I was safe and warm inside my mommy,
She even started to call me tommy
Who are you to pull and yank
and suck me out with that army tank
Do you know God sent me here
And now its time for you to fear
For as my eyes close and my last breath fades
You will be blamed,cause I came here with the
cure for cancer and AIDS.

In memory of all the unborn children who suffered the pain of being murdered
before they had a chance.
Rest in Peace little angels.

Answer 9

An abortion is your choice. But make sure you are fully informed before you make any decisions. Don't give up your baby if you want it just because your b/f doesn't. Did you want to get pregnant? If you did and want to keep this baby, the father will have to step up and take care of his responsibilty. It takes two to make a baby. It's a tough situation but do anything because someone else wants you too...make this decision for you!

Answer 10

If he didn't want a child in the first place then he should have done something to prevent it. Birth control is up to BOTH partners not just the woman. You play then you pay.

Answer 11

Screw him, YOU make the decision that YOU can live with, who's to say he's even going to be around in the future...with or without a baby.