im am 3 months pregnant n im 13 yesterday i went to my doctor and said everything is going well................before i had really bad bleeding and cramping........i told my doctor and he did an ultrasound and said that me and the baby r doing ok and that i didnt have a misscarriage.........if it was not a misscarriage wat could it have been
2006-10-09 02:15:09 · 16 answers · asked by im-due-March-18-2007 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
please no rude answers and dont tell me to get an abortion or to give it up for adoption cuz im keeping my baby
2006-10-09 02:16:05 · update #1
Before the bleeding did you have an ultrasound? If not there is a possibility you could have had twins and lost one but not the other. This happened to my sister and the other twin was born perfectly healthy. Good luck, You've got a hard road in front of you, but I'm glad you are not considering abortion.
2006-10-09 02:24:42 · answer #1 · answered by pebble 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you mean you are 13 weeks, or 13 years old? either way congratulations. if you are worried then i would get a second opinion. occasionally, some women have a period around the 3 month mark. in fact some women keep getting their periods until they're 6 months pregnant, and sometimes they don't even have a clue they are!!! weird. just some advice if you ARE 13 years, good on you for keeping the baby. too many girls try to take the "easy way" out and abort, or give up their child. i had my first when i was 17, now i'm 23 and expecting a fourth. (sounds bad but i've actually been married 5 years) having a child young can make or break your life. don't let it be the latter. i'm lucky it worked out good for me. it has matured me, and taught me a lot about responsibilty. sounds boring, but i still get to have fun every now and then. i think every now and then is better because it makes it that much MORE fun. babies are cute and fun, but a LOT of hard work, so make sure you have some good support. Boys are unreliable, and friends can be fickle, so aim for family support. A word of warning: people are going to stare at you and make instant judgements. some people may even say stuff to you. please remember that they don't know you, or the situation. i know it's hard to remember, and this still happens to me, and still gets me down sometimes. honestly, sometimes i feel like screaming "it's not my fault i was raped!!!" ( that's how my first came about, unfortunately, but i met my husband when i was 3 months pregnant. I didn't even know i was.) or going up to them and saying, "do you like my wedding rings? aren't they pretty?" but that's people for you. on the other hand, if i got it wrong and you're saying you're 13 weeks, then it's early days, and REST REST REST!! make sure you've got a really good doctor that understands you and you feel comfortable with. good luck with everything!!!
2006-10-09 02:43:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it might just be your body trying to cope with the changes. You are still very young and your body isnt ready for something as big as this. You are still growing inside and out and now your body is being forced to make unexpected changes. If the doc said everything was ok then I wouldnt worry too much about it...if you are still worried I would get a second opinion. You have a long hard road in front of ya girl! Good luck and always remember you chose the baby..the baby didnt choose you.You will miss out on a lot of things including your childhood but if you always put your child first no matter what you can do it.
2006-10-09 02:20:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to be rude but you are kind of young to have a bay!! Gee you are only 13 yrs old what the heck are you thinking? I would never say get an aboration but I would say give the child up for an adopation I know it would be hard after carring the baby for so long but the child would be more happier if you gave it up, can you support this baby things for children are very expensive and for a baby even more.. Unless your parents want to raise it you have no chance in taking of this baby , baby are not cheap and they do take up alot of time, just think your childhood is done , I would not say that many of your friends have babys or are planning to at such a young age
2006-10-09 02:57:56 · answer #4 · answered by whats up all 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take it easy. If you are still worried about what it could have been, I would talk to my doctor again. If that doesn't seem to work, I would consider another doctor. I know that you stated that you are 13. Pregnancy can be difficult. And parenting can be really difficult. I'm 31 and it is hard on me! I'm not preaching, you have to make the right decision for you and your baby. But please weigh in all of your options. NO to abortion. But may God bless you and keep you both safe.
2006-10-09 02:25:35 · answer #5 · answered by candib 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could have been your body telling you that you're not supposed to be pregnant...seriously, i'm not being nasty...
your body might want to miscarry...just because you're so young. but if your dr said that everything was ok, then trust your dr. and remember, you should also be thinking about some kind of birthcontrol for after your delivery, because you don't want to be 17 and have 3 kids, that could really ruin your life sweetie...stick with the one you have for a few more years, and try to do your best in school. believe me when i say that you have to have a diploma these days, becuase hunny, i'm 25 years old and working in a grocery store making $7 and hour because i didn't get a diploma or a ged, and now i have 2 kids to support, and my husband is the same way...no kind of degree of any kind, and he's stuck in the same boat...
take care of yourself...and that baby.
2006-10-09 02:20:48 · answer #6 · answered by alfjr24 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really not sure what it would've been but I think I would make sure I went back to the dr sometime this week and got another ultrasound just to make sure all is okay. You might be young and maybe not at an ideal age...but you're still going to be the best mommy you can be! I wish you the best of luck and congrats!!
2006-10-09 02:19:32 · answer #7 · answered by bctvmanz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was pregnant with my second baby (who just had a baby of her own last Friday!) I had some fairly heavy bleeding & went to the hospital. It only happened that one time & we never did really figure out what caused it - everything was fine from then on. Good luck with your baby!
2006-10-09 03:38:59 · answer #8 · answered by dmommab@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will probably be having another ultrasound soon anyway but go back to your doctor if you still have doubts. You could have miscarried one of twins perhaps. It's early days so rest up and hope for the best.
2006-10-09 02:20:43 · answer #9 · answered by annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to get a second oponion if your questioning. Go to a different doctor. You still might deliver your child but it could have complications. I think asking many questions to many different doctors is your best way of making sure you and your baby are okay.
2006-10-09 02:19:00 · answer #10 · answered by tjnw79 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋