I fell in love with my ex classmate,known him since sec sch.tho we got distant during our grwing up years(in my late 20s now),but wen we catch up agn,we alwys managed to pick up from where we left.we're close.somehow i began to fall for him,now tat we're both adults.We started to get intimate(no sex tho),wic we never did before last time.but im not sure if he likes me.is he just using me out of lust?i didnt ask him how he felt towards me bcos im afraid to knw.but i do knw tat he used to hv a crush on me in sch last time,if tat still counts.im so insecure rite now.we dont go out on dates.but we mit abt once a wk for a short while & tats wen we will get comfy & cuddle up.its been like this for a year plus now.do u think he have feelings for me?
2006-10-09 01:45:15 · 3 answers · asked by pristine 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
the very first time i started to feel emotionally & sexually attracted to him, i casually asked if he used to like me in sch, he said yes. but i didnt probe further if he still like me til now.he nvr had a relationshop to any special girl all these while,but of cse over the yrs he do have other crushes and dated other gals casually.until now,i am afraid to ask him.i could nvr ask him my friends.im depending on the hints and body language tat he shows whenever we mit.any advise what kinda 'hints' i shd look out for?
2006-10-09 23:01:47 · update #1
He may very well have feelings for you. On the other hand, it may be convenient to hook up with you. The only way to find out for sure is to talk about it like adults instead of playing a guessing game. If he is a real friend, he will be honest. I married my best friend and it has worked out wonderfully. Friendship is a great foundation for a romantic relationship. Don't be scared of losing a friend - if the friendship is so easily destroyed, it can't be that valuable.
2006-10-09 04:47:43 · answer #1 · answered by Tara P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same thing happen to me with my best friend, only we were in college when our feelings came out. In my case, it didn't work out. We both had become so different over time. However, you do need to find out if he's hooking up with you because he cares about you, or because it's fun. You could be missing out on another great guy, so ask your friend what's up. Since you've known each other for such a long time, he should be able to tell you straight up.
2006-10-09 08:48:39 · answer #2 · answered by Dubs82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe the best way to know is to ask him or hinting him. if he really love you he will admit it but you have to mentally prepared just in case he treat you like a close friend or just using you out of lust. Coz some guys just want to have lust instead of love especially they know that someone start to have feeling for them and they can really made use of this to flirt around. Hope your friend don't belong to this group
2006-10-09 11:24:56 · answer #3 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋