I have been apart from my husband for 7 and a half years, i want a divorce but i am really frightened as he put my daughter and i through hell, life is good now we have not seen him for 5 years, but i fear that if i start divorce proceedings that he will try and scare us again and try to see my daughter who incidentally he has had not contact with - when we first separated he took me through courts to obtain access when he got it he didn't bother, so therefore that is why i am scared in case he puts us through all of that again - ps i hope to get married again - please help
2006-10-09 01:27:55 · 15 answers · asked by ali 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To be honest I cant see him getting visitation rights to your baby now.....get a good solicitor and explain, Its always good to have paper work set incase a injunction is needed,not that it made any diffrence with my ex it just keeps things right with your situation incase courts are needed! Good luckx
2006-10-09 01:36:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
If a marriage has irretrievably broken down and the parties have lived apart for a continuous period of five years then either party may seek to obtain a divorce regardless of whether the other party consents or not. It would be obviously wrong for one of the parties to a marriage to be able to keep alive the empty shell of a marriage after such a long period of living apart if the other wanted to bring the marriage to an end by divorce. Very frequently, of course, the reason why a divorce is desired at all is to enable remarriage and this cannot happen until the first marriage has been formally brought to an end. Unfortunately, such a lack of consent does sometimes arise and so this ground of divorce is necessary as a ground of last resort. Sometimes people refuse to give their consent for religious reasons and sometimes it is just to be difficult. If there were no remedy in this situation it would cause great unhappiness. As it is, the period of five years may be thought much too long by many.
hope this helps
2006-10-09 02:35:33 · answer #2 · answered by theoneandonlytigster 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me and my familey have been through a rough time. as my mum married then divorced mine and my brothers dad as he was a very viloent person towards my mum. She then found a new boyfriend who put us through more hell than words can say, she finally got the courage after 3 and a half years to do something about it and me and my mum and brother moved into a womens refuge. After a year she fell in love with a man called phill they have been together for nearly 4 years and there planning on getting married. We went through hell in the past but our life now is great and i wouldn't change it for anything. So do what you think is the best idea to your worries. Get rid of him once and for all you can do much better also your daughter deserves a good life.
2006-10-09 01:39:39 · answer #3 · answered by Laura lvz david 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go and see a solicitor, and explain the situation, leave it up to them to deal with, i dont think it will be much of a problem, because of the lack of contact that u have had with each other. and as for feeling frightened, it could be that getting the divorce is what u need to move on from ur fear... be strong and look to the future.
2006-10-10 22:54:45 · answer #4 · answered by storm.minx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive just come out of a relationship with a man who couldn't treat me and my daughter right but makes our lives living nightmares when we get away. The spitefull antic's, name calling, belittlement, embarrassment, physical abuse, harrassment. It's all a form of controll that gets worse when they lose that controll over you. If he has had no contact with your daughter for this long period of time then there is no chance authorities will give him rights to access because it's not in your daughters best interest and it causes unsettlement which is what they avoid for any child (i am going on information given to me by my solicitor). Get your divorce there is nothing that man can do to intervene with your lives now and you never know, with all that time behind you he may intend to leave you alone anyway.
2006-10-09 01:41:57 · answer #5 · answered by DONNAIS 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As you have been separated for over 5 years he can not oppose the divorce in any event. if you have moved and you don't want him to know where you are you can complete a Confidential Address form with the Court and he will not be given your address. Find a specialist solicitor in your area, they will be able to help.
2006-10-11 08:38:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats always a possabilaty that he will pop back up, but if you want the divorce then you have to try, If he bothers you or your daughter then get a restraining order and keep a closer eye on you daughter so he dosnt just take her,it"s not fun going throught that type of divorce but if you want it you have to do it anyhow if you want to get remarried again .
2006-10-09 01:37:09 · answer #7 · answered by a1_friend64 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a million. shop your newborn out of the divorce lawsuits. she does not could understand. If she asks why, basically tell her that mommy and daddy can no longer get alongside, and that's extra suitable for the two considered one of you to no longer be married, yet which you and her (the youngster) will constantly be a relatives. pass away it at that. 2. you're unlikely to have the skill to work out her on a on an popular basis foundation until eventually you get custody. you will could show the mother undeserving because she has had her for the final 2 years. you may have filed for custody quicker, i'm afraid. 3. she will have the skill to could provide you spot that she is shifting. you have got the skill to petition the courts if she needs to pass too a techniques away. you will could have a valid reason. I recommend having a competent pastime and a competent, secure, sparkling residing house for the youngster to pass to. shop a sluggish pastime, and function a competent paintings checklist the place you're working. do no longer talk badly relating to the mother in front of the youngster for any reason. additionally, do no longer pass into courtroom soliciting for finished custody without visitation for the mother. courts look down on that. they choose the two mom and dad to be in touch, and you may make it look such as you think of that it is the main suitable concept to have the two mom and dad interior the youngster's existence.
2016-10-16 00:06:57 · answer #8 · answered by lander 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
file for divorce and tell the judge you want soul custody. maybe he has found someone else he wants to be with. don't let him run your life any longer. I was married to a man for 10 years that made my life and our childrens lives a living hell because I was afraid to leave but I did and he has been gone for 16 years now. he had visitation but never used it so don't worry. get a restraining order if you have to.
2006-10-09 01:34:21 · answer #9 · answered by mama bear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your ex know where you live?Speak to a solicitor and tell him your worries if your ex starts making your life hell again take out an injunction order with power of arrest to keep him away from the family.He ruled your life once don't let the dick do it again.
2006-10-09 05:21:02 · answer #10 · answered by candyfloss 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋