Ok, still more of my story lol..my ex called last week leaving a message that he wanted us to talk, that he didn't mean the
things he had said to me (we have been broken up for 5 weeks)
So he leaves this long message saying it is important to talk,
he still loves me etc...can we talk..that was last tues..i could not
do it till the weekend, so i told him that, he then says he can't doit over the weekend, he will be out of town...well still have not heard,
what do i do, i want to make closure, do i call and say won't keep
doing this waiting game...why does it always have to be when he
is ready...what do i say or do?
2006-10-09 01:04:06 · 9 answers · asked by wicktjw 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think what your ex-bf has gone through (and probably the reason why he called you in the first place) is that moment or phase that all lovers who split up goes through. Its like getting lost and trying to get back to that feeling of being with someone, not being alone and just plain uneasiness over being all of a sudden on your own. I would suggest that you do not keep your hopes up high on this guy, move on with your life (considering both of you have already parted ways) and this longing of him (or yours) will die a natural death, especially if you met someone else...
Goodluck and dont worry, relax...Life is too short to overanalyze...
2006-10-09 01:09:35 · answer #1 · answered by Joy RP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is SO controlling! Never assume anything is going to change.
You deserve better. Let me repeat that: You deserve better! You deserve better! You deserve better! You deserve better!!!
Unless you've committed murder or sold your own children into slavery, you are a fantastic person! Walk away--no explanation.
It will make him mad, and he will try to hook you back. DO NOT FALL FOR IT! He doesn't even know what he's doing, that is the worst part--but that is exactly why you can't trust him with you--he sees no reason to change.
I learned this lesson because I put up with the same thing, then married the guy. 19 years later I finally walked away, and sure enough, now he can't pay enough attention to me. So much I had to get a restraining order.
There is a guy out there who will call you--but you're never going to hook up with him if you have this "sorta kinda" boyfriend.
Protect that happy little girl inside of you.
Did I say that You deserve better?
2006-10-09 01:19:48 · answer #2 · answered by sixgun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of adulthood tiers come into play with any relationship. i'm uncertain how previous you're or how previous your boyfriend develop into, whether it would not sound like he's amazingly dedicated on your relationship. I certainly have experienced countless stages of adulthood in relationships over the years, the two by using my own and extra so, by potential of witnessing others. some people have a desire for companionship (an apprehension of being on my own) and could make unwise alternatives for the sake entirely of fending off being on my own. Others evaluate their companion as one in each of those prestige image. corresponding to how a guy would desire to have a superb sporty automobile, it truly is significant to him to have an proper female chum. it is how maximum shallow relationships artwork out. the two contributors of the relationship are bodily attracted to a minimum of one yet another and could overlook approximately different senses of reason and good judgment because of the fact they might desire to have an proper mate. needless to say actual charm is significant in a relationship, whether it won't be the only element. next, there is the bachelor relationship. this could be a relationship which will or won't be dedicated to by potential of the two events, yet is often for the point of intercourse, or a "booty call". would desire to this be the dedicated member of the relationships first sexual companion, there could be a psychological charm which develops, unrelated to emotional thoughts for the companion. ultimately, there are the relationships which i certainly have ultimately reached the ingredient that i'm finding for. you have considered the stupid judgements people have made and have witnessed chuffed and unhappy relationships. Now you desire to be chuffed. somebody to spend time with, who enjoys you for you and whom you take exhilaration in for who they're. A properly rounded relationship with somebody who's your "soul-mate' somebody who you'll be your self around and have them nonetheless love you and vice versa. My suggestion to you would be that in case you haven't any longer discovered this type of a relationship yet, to maintain finding. There are, as they say, a good number of fish contained in the sea. do no longer settle for a flounder in case you're no longer chuffed-and that's ultimately what concerns.
2016-10-02 02:50:47 · answer #3 · answered by shimp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's keeping you on a string and you are letting him. Go on with your life and leave the past in the past. You wil get hurt if you don't watch out. Men use women that they know they have a hold on and you'd best believe he's not putting his needs aside for your sake. Break it off it's over. Don't be his pawn.
2006-10-09 01:08:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
u do nothing, if he contacts u again pretend u don't remember what is he talking about. ignore him entirely, thus u will revenge yourself and make him suffer. if u contact him and tell him anything, even that u re breaking up with him, it would mean that u re still thinking of him and care about him. so it will mean his victory and your loss. remeber - do not initiate anything, pretend u re not even thinking of him or his words. good luck
2006-10-09 01:08:50 · answer #5 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's your ex for a reason. Don't open yourself up to the chance he could hurt you. Don't go back out with him.
2006-10-09 01:08:00 · answer #6 · answered by osunumberonefan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you ned to ask yourself,would you want to get back with him?do you feel talking to him will bring closure?whatever you feel go with,but if you try and he just doesn't want to know,walk away,set yourself deadlines so it doesn't drag on
2006-10-09 01:11:46 · answer #7 · answered by Laila 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have already told him the relationship is over -- it's over. Sounds like he cannot accept it and is trying to prolong. If you don't want him in your life, don't return his calls... don't see him. Its over.
2006-10-09 01:07:42 · answer #8 · answered by farahwonderland2005 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get back with him we cannot stand anymore whining boring questions like this xx God Bless You
2006-10-09 01:08:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋