Whats wrong with me? I mean I know stress causes all kinds of weird things.....and depression...but----
2006-10-09 01:00:55 · 15 answers · asked by Rottie Lover 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
don't do it if you don't want to . Just explain to your boyfriend that you don't want to and if he loves you enough then he will wait until you are ready...I have been on the depression and bad love life train before...beleive me you don't wanna force yourself to do something against your own feelings
2006-10-09 01:03:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
when women dont want to have sex, it is usually coz of past influence. either you could have had a bad past in relationships where sex was used as a bribe or you were used for nothing but sex... or, some women because of sexual abuse/rape in early years see sex as an emotional challenge. or, parents, telling kids that sex is "dirty" and "bad" so every time you get in bed you feel guilty. (i am a Christian and only believe in sex in the marriage bed, but sex is not a dirty thing. it is good, just meant only for married couples, but that aside, wether people agree or not doesnt change these facts im giving.)
whatever the reason u can be sure its coz of a misconception of sex, or a bad experience, OR because you are not feeling loved in the relationship. when women arent told they are loved frequently, or get any affection other than when they are in bed, this causes a "i dont want sex" problem. talk to your man about it. tell him you love him and you dont know why you feel this way. ask him to help you get through it by being affectionate towards you without wanting sex for a little while. see if that helps. tell him you just need some understanding and grace in the situation and that his help will be a part of the healing process.
2006-10-09 08:08:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you. You don't need to doubt yourself. You are not ready and that is fine. Some people go ahead and risk diseases, broken fickle relationships, and let themselves be exploited. It is better to hold out till you are sure that the relationship is a committed and faithful one that is permanent. That's the best way to ensure really safe sex, and that a pregnancy would be welcome, and the baby provided for.
Explain that to your boyfriend. If he loves you he will wait. If he keeps up with selfish demands for pleasure without responsibility, and tells you he will leave if he doesn't get it, then let him leave cuz he will just stay selfish throughout the relationship. If he stays and waits and acts responsibly and treats you like a lady then he passed the test.
It's worth the wait, and the stress. No need to be depressed.
2006-10-09 08:09:07 · answer #3 · answered by mary_n_the_lamb 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You do just what your doing now. I know you hear this all the time but do what you want to do, not what someone else what you too. Its OK to feel the way your feel. Grow a little in your life by standing up and doing what you want in life.
2006-10-09 08:37:52 · answer #4 · answered by Island gal 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is this caused by health problems? If you are overweight a symptom is that your labido will disappear. If so, start exercising and eating healty before you put too much a strain on your relationship and in the meantime.... fake it!
2006-10-09 08:04:25 · answer #5 · answered by survival_paul 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
first let him know evry thing about u and u r feelings.if he says no for u r thoughts then u must express u r self openly to any person who comes in to life.may be think a while for why u hating sex.
2006-10-09 08:31:17 · answer #6 · answered by chowdary c 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her the thing you dont have to have sex with her.
Tell he can satisfy himself the best thing he sees fit.
He tells you wheter it would mean other women, probably not internet has a lot to offer.
Thats sex with no stress of performance.
2006-10-09 08:04:31 · answer #7 · answered by Tero J 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I appriciate you that you are not interested in sex.please dont have sex with nmore than one person.your health will affect more.there is yoga ,music ect to decreace your stress.
2006-10-09 08:05:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
If you don't want to have sex with anyone then don't. There are no rules saying that you have to have sex outside of marriage. Live by your moral values not someone else values.
2006-10-09 08:05:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 4⤋
Don't have sex with him. If he doesn't respect your choice then find a new bf.
2006-10-09 08:09:04 · answer #10 · answered by osunumberonefan 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋