Is it possible to forgive but not forget?

Answer 1

No, I can't do it, I forgive people for things, but it seems I can't forget what they did & still don't want anything to do with them & constantly wish bad luck on them.

Answer 2

Of couse. The phrase "forgive and forget" simply means forgive the person who you feel has done you wrong and emotionaly forget that you were ever angry at then. You don't need to literly forget that the whole thing happened, just move on don't hold grudges.

Answer 3

Definitely. It is possible to forgive someone a transgression and still remember that it occurred. That may mean that you wish no ill will and harbour no hard feelings but that you are more cautious in the future.

For example: Someone steals your bicycle. You are annoyed but come to forgive the thief for his errant ways. However, you make sure you lock up your new bicycle as you remember what happened before.

Answer 4

I believe it is far less possible,nay,impossible,to forgive,if you have forgotten. Look at their meanings. If you forgive,you acknowledge and understand the actions. If you forget,then how can you forgive something you have no knowledge of?

Answer 5

Yes, forgiveness does not include erasing the incident from ones memory. In fact the memory of forgiveness can be used to increase ones compassion. One of my biggest struggles involves softening my heart and I use this and many other measures in an attempt to be more forgiving.

Answer 6

I think it is possible to forgive, but I think it is human nature to not forget.

You learn from your experiences and in the back of your mind you will never forget those experiences. You might be more cautious and not as trusting as you once were with that individual.

Burn me once shame on you burn me twice shame on me!

Answer 7

Yeah, without a doubt. My ex-husband, (God rest his sole) did a lot of horrible things to not only me, his son, and his family and friends who truly loved him, but also to himself. I forgave him, in person, even though he tried to kill us, beat me, and so on. If I didn't forgive him, when my heart allowed me to, I never could have gone on with my life and trust a man again. I'm so glad I did too since he died at a very young age, and I was able to tell our son that I had forgiven his biological father for all his wrong doings. I will never forget the horror, but it helps to heal the mind and heart to truly be able to forgive.

Answer 8

I feel it depends upon what it is that you have forgiven the person for. Some of these horrible crimes that have been happened how in the world could we forget that if it happened to one of our loved ones? For example the terrible shootings that happened to the Amish people, they forgave the shooter and prayed for his family but do you think that such a thing could be forgotten? God gave us a mind that never forgets what it hears or sees.

Answer 9

well basically there are 3 scenarios:
scenario 1: you can't forgive and you have to learn to live with it and make it a part of yourself
scenario 2: you forgive and you learn to live with it and make it a part of yourself
scenario 3: you forget and reject it from yourself, but it might come back to haunt you so this option is unadvised

Answer 10

I think if you've not forgotten then the wrong doing is still in the back of your mind. I think you can move on and get on with the relationship (be it personal or professiona), but I think total forgiveness is impossible if you still remember the hurt or wrong at that time.