how do i over come my jealousy?

Question

i am married to a wonderful husband, my problem is that i don't think much about me, i look in the mirror and hate what i see. due to that every time my husband mention a female friend i go bilistic due to my jealousy. my hubby is so good looking and i am scared that he will leave me for someone better looking than me, he has told me that it will never happen cause he loves me but i cant help feeling insecure. any advise

Answer 1

First, you really need to understand that jealousy is your issue, not the result of what someone else does. It stems from basic insecurity and lack of faith in your own good qualities. You CHOOSE how to react to every situation in life. By choosing to "Go Balistic", you are showing your insecurity to the world and it is a very undesirable trait. This is a sure fire way to drive a significant other away from you. You need to ask yourself how you would feel if the shoe was on the other foot. Remind yourself that you can rise above the petty, childish actions and be a lady.
Your husband would certainly appreciate the change, I'm sure.
Work on appreciating the good qualities that you have and stop focusing so hard on what you consider the bad ones. Your husband married YOU for a reason. What were the things that attracted him to you? Are you kind-hearted, generous, loving, trustworthy, a good friend. He also must have been attracted to how you look because nobody marries someone they think is ugly!:) Have you gained a few pounds since you two married? Start working on getting back in shape. The effort alone will release endorphins in your body and improve how you feel. Also, consider talking to a counselor about your jealousy. They can help you work through your feelings and come up with a way to deal with it.
Last but not least, there will always be someone out there that we think is prettier, smarter or more successful than we are. You've got to appreciate yourself and find some happiness with what YOU have accomplished with your life. There are many people who feel like slugs next to the beautiful people. At least until you see what those beautiful people look like in baggy sweats with no make-up on.

Answer 2

First of all know that GOD loves you no matter what you are or what you have. His love is the truest love of all and He will never forsake you.
Don't let the world dictate who you are and the love you have for yourself,for the things of the world are not perfect. You will never be able to please anyone there will always be something someone doesn't like and you should only please them in Godly ways not for their approval of you.
You were created in your mother's womb by GOD, who created all things. And all the things that GOD made were good; He didn't create no junk!!
I know it can be hard, for I too have felt this way as I am sure many others as well. You will get through it.
There is a verse in the bible that states " what ever you think in your heart; so be it" Remember that. This has truly helped me and my relationships with others and daily life.

Give yourself TLC and love yourself and you will be able to give that to someone else and they too will be able to get recieve from you.
Its going to take one day at a time but you will make it.
Love yourself in the eyes of yourself not this world for its not perfect so why would you want to create an image of yourself from unperfect views.
Last but not least. Watch for those female friends. You should be his female friend. I guess it depends on the relationship they may have do they hang out talk on the phone.
Let him know that you don't like him talking to them. It may not be jeolousy at all it could be a vibe you are picking up that isn't right. Ask him if he would feel comfortable with you having these type friends with other men. Watch his reaction. Communication is key and essential to all things.
Just remember to love yourself and don't react on emotion.

Be blessed and best regards

Answer 3

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and it also comes from within...you may not think that you are beautiful, but your husband chose to marry you and no one else. I think everyone has some type of insecurity about the way the look, and at times it can be difficult not to feel a little insecure. But don't worry too much about what's on the outside, who are you on the inside, and what makes you who you are? I don't know what you look like, but I'm sure you have nothing to worry about. Make the most of your life and marriage, and only focus on the important things like having fun!

Answer 4

You've got to ask yourself what it is you don't like about yourself. If it's your hair style make a change. If you feel over weight try a diet. But do these things for yourself. It'll help you to feel better inside and it'll show on the outside as well. You can't keep getting jealous because this is the quickest way to drive someone that loves you away. Put a smile on your face even this will make a big difference. ;o)

Answer 5

ya you are right! Your husband will soon leave you if you go on with that negative kind of attitude. Is it not enough that he married you inspite of what you see in the mirror but...it does not mean that you will allow yourself to be looking uglier than what you see in the mirror. Have time for yourself and stop feeling insecure. He loves you and will love you more if you believe in yourself. Self -confidence.

Answer 6

think this way : since your husband is such a wonderful person, you must be equally wonderful for him to have chosen you as his life partner, this sense of wonderfulness might not be of outer appearance, it might be something others don't possessed, something precious and dear.

And that makes you so much different from others, at least in your husband's eyes.

If you really love him that much, do lessen your jealousy and be more thoughtful for him (for him having to stand some of your tantrums at times), that's what you would be able to do for him, as a wife, as a good friend.

Answer 7

You need to stop before your husband finds someone opposite of you. If you have a good husband and he loves you then that's all that matters. Do something for yourself to please your husband, a makeover, an outfit, get your hair and nails done. Jealousy will make the next woman happy.

Answer 8

In fact you may lose him if you do not let go your jealousy! No sensible hubby would lose his wife for a better looking woman. Yes, they may be willing to lose one who has a chronic obseesion like this. So, just learn to ignore your jealousy and feel secured. If he had to leave you for a better lookin woman, he would have done it by now.

Answer 9

that is a big mistake honey , jealousy will tear you up , your relationship and you personaly. the best way is to find a way for you to ease up on it. and MINE was thru my messenger and the attention I got thru it all. I understood what friendship was and there was no harm in talking... i eased up so much by flirting myself! And thru all the temptation , i am right where i started with my husband. that is what helped me over come jealousy , was to do my own thing for awhile. jealousy is also a terrible feeling to have , isn't it?

Answer 10

girl you better get over what ever it is that is making you feel like that... go get an make over buy a new wardrobe and stop putting ideas in to your husbands head.. he tells you he aint going nowwhere but if you keep the nagging believe me he will not because your not pretty enough but because you became a major pain in the ***,let the man breathe and give him a little space,wait till he fuckeddd up to judge him,some man arent in to the look thang!!! but if you are the one who dont feel good about your self there is plenty you can do... go to a gym do healthy diets,change your hair color,get new perfumes.There a million ways to make your self attractive for your man but only one way to chase him away...quit nagging and enjoy your marriage. good luck honey.