hi i feel like the only mum in the world with a stropy teen she is 14 and i feel like i hate her9but i know i don't) and feel like i want to knock her out am i the only mum who feels like this????
2006-10-09 00:09:03 · 17 answers · asked by JoJo 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I dont claim to be the best mum inthe world i have NEVER hit her and NEVER would its not the way i am and i do not belive in smacking children...
2006-10-09 00:24:13 · update #1
Believe me you are not the only parent in the world to feel like this, we love our kids but they do put a big strain on us from time to time and sometimes you just need to walk out the room to get away from her, she is at that rebelling age i had this with my youngest brother as i was his guardian from the age of 14- 18 and i was only young myself im 5 yrs older than him and at the time i had 2 young children of my own. I did every thing with him from grounding to stoping pocket money nothing worked but thankfully the day came when he finaly grew up and out grew the rebelling stage. Im now going through it with my eldest 2 children who are 10 and 12 but im more mature to deal with it and i put them in their place with talking alot to them and ask them to explain their behaviour, its a lot less stressful for us all
2006-10-09 00:41:59 · answer #1 · answered by vicky s 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are not alone , any parents who say they have never felt similar to this are liars , its life and kids test the boundaries at least ur honest ,well done ! I have 4 daughters so know how hard it is and the feeling of wanting to lash out but i also would NEVER lift a hand to any of my children .. My eldest is 15 and shes a lass lol and the one below her is nearly 13 and she has an attitude problem , they are hard work .. The 13 yr old is the pathetic major drama queen , its so annoying , it doesn`t matter what we say but we are picking on her and she wants another mum u know the story probably lol .. The 15 yr old (16 in December) i know for a fact she has been drinking ! I often wonder if i am being punished for something i have done in a previous life !
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2006-10-09 21:22:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you are not the only mom there are so many who feel like that so just relAX and keep your self in your teens shoe and unersatnd her piont of view
think what had you done when your were 14
smacking at this age wont help understanding love care attention will help
real life harsh experience will help but not too harsh that destroy the life
sometimes a pinch or a pinch or a cap for a cap will help
an eye for an eye would be too much
some time s ignoring and closing one eye will help
a mixed bag is what you need the most
so just relax and dont get depresses
teens are teens you need more patience then kids
so all the best
2006-10-09 01:04:24 · answer #3 · answered by may_minu 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OI think some of it is that you have had a child for so long they suddenly become young adults and it is hard for us mothers to get used to the idea. She is trying to find her boundaries and this includes pressing all your buttons at the same time. Yes I feel the same way but I usually give myself a time out and walk away from the situation and ask my kids to do the same. This way I am not confronting them and they can't press the buttons any further. This phase will pass and you will love her again and you will wonder why you felt like this. Good Luck honey being a parent is the hardest job of all
2006-10-11 04:31:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww bless you...know the feeling, I don't know, life with a teen can be hard sometimes. My daughter was lovely growing up, hit her teens and turned in to a right nightmare...felt like everything I did or said was met with contempt and scorn. It was heartbreaking, all you can do is ride the storm and take it all with a pinch of salt. Know its hard, know it hurts sometimes and you don't know what to do or say for the best, but I promise it does get better, she will come out of it, just remember its not HER its the dreaded HORMONES...I used to feel like knocking my daughters block off at times, just couldn't understand why she was so bloody hateful, but we are just there to lash out at cos we love them and they love us...just lose the way somewhere in the middle...take some time for yourself...shut yourself in the bathroom with music, candles and lots of lavender!! Promise you will look back on this time in a few years and smile...honest Take care xx
2006-10-10 02:55:10 · answer #5 · answered by widow_purple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, surely not.
Atleast u have the courage to confess.
Now, she has not come to your world by her own. U brought her to be a proud mother right ?
If u will treat her like this, just think where she will go, & what she will receive from the world.
Reading ur question, i feel the same for u,
i.e., knocking u down.
Just throw her away, she will better survive.
2006-10-09 00:18:06 · answer #6 · answered by muralidharini 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry im a near to being a teen and i no how u
feel i have an older sister shes 14 and god help me shes alawys sleeping or on her mob or the computer never plays with me anymore and u want to let her no that what ever u do u will cheer her just take her out to the cafe just u and her go to the mall call it mum and daughter spree she will talk to u about whats going on
2006-10-09 05:28:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called puberty! I have a 12 year old that I could also somtimes smack, but don't believe in that so, she just gets a lecture. They think they know everything and are not willing to give the respect that is due. Good Luck and hang in there...our parents got through it, I am sure we will to!
2006-10-09 05:01:48 · answer #8 · answered by Mom to Foster Children 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's trying her wings and in the process you don't need to be trampled.
Keep rules to the simple ones and let her make a few mistakes herself. At fourteen she is not a child in many ways but a young woman and she needs to feel she has some power in her life.
Your job is to be her mum and if she needs it her friend.
2006-10-09 03:07:52 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take away privileges and give her choices, i have a 11 and half yr old stepdad and she is a drama queen she will be 12 in december but when she messes up we pick 3 costly priviledges and she has to pick one that she loses. we let her make decisions based on what we ask of her and she has huge attitude thinks the world revolves around her just stick with it you will get through it.
2006-10-10 11:45:28 · answer #10 · answered by chiefs fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋