the problem is that her family is very much different from my family,her family are different in habits and culture than my family,they are poorer than us and my family look down to them and see that they are not a match for us and i should not marry their daughter,what shall i do ? i care about her a lot
2006-10-08 23:49:08 · 23 answers · asked by dan d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should not allow your parents to dictate to you who you can fall in love with and raise a family. Part of the vows should you marry this lady are "and forsaking all others". That incudes the parents on both sides. If your parents genuinely care about you, they will tell that your choice is their choice, as long as you are happy. Stand up for yourself and the one you love and tell your parents that if they can't accept who you want to spend the rest of your life with, they won't be seeing you for a long, long time. And then follow through with what you say and let it be known that until your wife is welcomed at their home, it's their loss!
2006-10-08 23:59:34 · answer #1 · answered by boscosbite 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is it with some ppl, why is money so important when it comes to who you can love???
It beats me, when I hear stuff like this, that ppl look down on others because they are poorer...........
You may have only one family but if they really cared about your thoughts and feelings, who you love and marry would be your choice for a start.
Do what feels right in your heart, is she worth causing trouble with your family situation like it obviously would?
If you feel in your heart that you love this woman more than life itself, marry her.
You will overcome all these problems together, Who knows maybe the family will come around to your way of thinking when you are married.
2006-10-09 00:16:25 · answer #2 · answered by tassie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking to your family? They might not approve now, but if they see how serious you are and if the girl truly loves you then they may still not approve, but they will come to accept your situation.
Don't know if it will help, but there is a Bollywood movie called Devdas which is a rich man in love with a poorer girl and the family doesn't approve. The man is never happy and dies sad and alone. Maybe get them to see that?
2006-10-08 23:56:18 · answer #3 · answered by Funny Bunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not for your family to decide who you can fall in love with.
If you and your girl love each other then I think you should go ahead with the relationship, get married and raise a family..Being poor or from a different culture doesnt make someone a bad person and you need to let your family know this..
2006-10-08 23:55:30 · answer #4 · answered by Tracy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is only one reason to marry someone. This reason should have nothing to do with culture, money, religious beliefs or how your families feel about each other. It's both of your lives and only you can decide. Look deep inside yourselves and if you truely love each other, then just marry. Your families will get over it, and if they can't then they aren't real families after all.
2006-10-09 01:28:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The hell with culture and your family man.... if you digg this girl if your heart tells you she is the one you want to marry and if not that just date,who is your family to tell you no? only you can decide whos the person for you,but you see if they are so in high class and stuff maybe you want to keep them from engaging in things like dinners and social events.You dont want to make the other family feel uncomfortable,I dont see how a barbeque can hurt if your family claims to have high class they should know that ones of the high class rules is to make people feel comfortable money doesnt give you class.. manners do.... talk to them and tell them I dont know about the future nobody can tell that but for now this girl makes me happy and Im going to date her whether you like it or not be straight to the point they have to get use to it. good luck.
2006-10-09 01:11:55 · answer #6 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how old you are and what culture you come from. In the USA, there is no USA culture. People make decisions againt their family all the time. I suppose you will eventually have to make a desicion one way or the otner. Either go with your heart and against your family, or listen to your elders. Good luck.
2006-10-09 00:10:13 · answer #7 · answered by Jack P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i understand you love this girl and care a lot about her but please understand that your parents know more than you do. They have vast experience in life. If you get married to this girl, life is going to be difficult for you no matter how much you love & care about her. KEEP THIS POINT IN MIND. PEOPLE WHO ARE OF THE SAME BACKGROUND CULTURE, LANGUAGE ETC. FACE INSURMOUNTABLE PROBLEMS IN LIFE, WITH THIS GIRL SINCE SHE IS FROM DIFFERENT CULTURE AND BACKGROUND YOUR PROBLEMS ARE GOING TO BE MULTIPLIED. Look to the future. Money may not bring happiness but it is necessary to have a decent life. think practically. Think with your mind and not your heart my friend. Life is not a bed of roses it has thorns too.
2006-10-09 00:07:21 · answer #8 · answered by Cutie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wouldn't be easy but it could work out as long as their is communication between you and her. How much into her familly is she? Are they not accepting towards your or is your family not accepting towards her?
try and plan a get together and bring both families together; showing that everyone may be different but see the similiarities and embrace the differences is what matters.
2006-10-08 23:55:59 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe u also like your family looking down @ other people status others wise you would not be asking this question you should know that love is the power. Follow your heart.
2006-10-09 00:10:23 · answer #10 · answered by Maphondo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋