2006-10-08 23:06:56 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Do you love your boyfriend? Could you get a transfer? Is your job more important to you than your BF? Do you like your job that much? All questions you should ask yourself, draw up a pro's and con's list it may help you.
2006-10-08 23:09:58 · answer #1 · answered by Jo. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont do it...stay an individual. You will hate being dependant on someone, they will be able to control you because you wont have the cash to do anything or the means to go anywhere. Do it properly. Dont leave your job, make sure you have a job before moving in with him if you cant stay in your job you have at the moment. At the end of the day you will have to make the discision but the wise thing to do is what I have mentioned, when all the butterflies go and life kicks in you will find your self in a dilemma and noway out, I doubt he is a bad guy or intend to trap you, but it is life and you guys would appreciate the extra income unless he is loaded and that in itself is a bad sign , you need to be your own person taht why he likes you because you are standing on your own two feet and now his perseption might chnage, just protect yoursefl from this kind of thing and it will never have to be a "What if"...gooLuck!!!
2006-10-09 06:14:07 · answer #2 · answered by felicitydarkcloudsa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got to do what you got to do!
Try to look at the issue from as many different angles as possible, what are the financial issues? how long have you and boyfriend been together (6 months-don't do it, 6 years-do it!) how stable is the relationship? How far will you be from family/friends? How hard was it for him to get this job and how hard will it be for you to get another? Could you live in the middle and commute? Do you really love b/f? Could this be an oppetunity for you to give up work and study for a year? etc etc.
Then, when you've thought it through logically from all possible angles, screw it and go with your heart.
2006-10-09 06:16:46 · answer #3 · answered by Cazza 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that what you should do depends on how serious your relationship is. Giving up your job to move with your boyfriend is a big deal. If you have any doubts about the longevity of this relationship, then don't give up your job to follow him to a new town. I don't know your feelings on marriage, but if it was me, I would not give up everything and move to a new town without an engagement ring on my finger. Hope this helps!
2006-10-09 06:16:15 · answer #4 · answered by ErnieBert 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends what's more important to you. And only you can answer that question. I moved 200miles, away from friends and family, sold my home, gave up my job, to be with someone.
I have a new job, new friends and the old ones, I see my family as often as I probably would have prefered had I not moved and 'we' have a lovely home - and it's our home.
At the end of the day, he was more important - material things could be changed or replaced, he could not.
If you want to be with him, you will find a way. It is that simple.
2006-10-09 06:17:10 · answer #5 · answered by Pington 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really love him and have been together for a while like over a yr then consider anything less do not so it, if you do talk to your job and ask if they could possibly transfer you to the nearest company in that location , this way you stay with the company and if you and him do not work out,, you can always transfer back w/o losing your job or status,,make sure to leave open options with family and friends and stay in contact incase you decide to come back you will have the help you need w/o doing it alone. remember ,,that you need to be doing this for the both of you and not just for him to make him happy...otherwise you will not be happy and it will not work out..you cannot share your happiness with your partner if you have none to give,,always make or keep yourself happy so you can share what you intend giving to some one else.
2006-10-09 08:45:27 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont go!is not u r husband but ur bf.if u are not together for many years ,he may dump u for someone else!!and thats very ego that told u to do.leave your job and move on with him because he found a job away from home!!what about your job!!!
2006-10-09 06:21:47 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Santa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it all depends on you hun, there are lots of things which u have to consider. in my own opinion, u shouldn't leave your job because of him, unless u are married, there is no guarantee that u will be together forever, as they say. just compromise with him and try to meet halfway.
2006-10-09 06:12:53 · answer #8 · answered by kish-kish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT LEAVE YOUR JOB, CONVINCE YOUR BF for another alternative jobs near5 his place or so, if he dears you he will agree,if not he has an ego problem.
2006-10-09 06:14:59 · answer #9 · answered by bharat b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might find a new job move if he is good to you
2006-10-09 06:21:50 · answer #10 · answered by B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋