Its actually quite funny, reading alot of Q&A on here... someone may say.. "hey i think i am gay what should i do?".. reading through the answers i always find the majority of straight people saying... "being gay is not normal, or being gay isnt right, you need therapy"... do you even know what normal or what "right" is? i dont think anyone seems to know what normal is.... nothing is normal... normal is a term people use that is a comfort zone to them.... normal just describes the routine your used to... all the actions, feelings, surroundings that are involed in your routine... the line between normal and abnormal really is that once something completely changes... its abnormal... there are 6 billion types of normal in this world, because whats normal to one person may be abnormal to another.... its not hard to understand... but the use of terminology such as this is stupid.... many straight people cant handle gays in the same way that they cannot handle change..
2006-10-08 23:06:46 · 15 answers · asked by benk969 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Normal is simply what the majority considers to be at any given time. Consider, 50 years ago, it was "normal" to keep a woman "in her place". 40 years ago, it was "normal" to call a person of colour the N-word. 30 years ago it was "normal to "drink and drive". The point being, "normal" is fluid, right now, "normal" is undergoing another change, soon I suspect, it will be "normal" to be gay. Society, like life, evolves, it just takes time. As the previous generations of "normal" people with "normal" bias dies out, the new "normal" (younger people who have a less negative view) will take to the fore.
2006-10-09 01:57:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are right, normal is a different state for each individual. I think, if I read your question right, that many who feel that homosexuality is "abnormal" are basing those feelings on a religious conviction.
Personally, I have many "gay" friends, as well as many "straight" friends. I do not see where sexual orientation has to be a label. Just as in all races, both heterosexual and homosexual people can be nice, or can be total a**es. Your sexual preference doesn't positively or negatively affect your personality.
But although I think I understood your question, I'm not sure that I did. Are you asking why people feel as they do? For the answer to that question, look to their environment and upbringing. You will be amazed what you find. And you will also see where the many definitions of normalcy come from.
2006-10-09 06:17:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
So, what is 'normal? Ah, "therin lies the rub". For many, 'normal' means 'average', which is determined by so many factors aside from the facts! All the facts themselves regarding hetero/homo issues are not available, to be sure. Identifying factors impacting, affecting, possibly causing gender identification/preference are still within the hearts and minds of people who aren't yet able to share of what's happening in their lives. We're hardly up to bat with the issue(s), yet folks act like they've got the whole game played, scored, done.
Methinks variety be the normal spice of life.
2006-10-09 10:24:28 · answer #3 · answered by Zeera 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God says, the problem is that everyone's definition of "normal" is its different. Throw some religion into the mix and normal gets pretty messed up altogether!. The other problem is people don't see "change" an inevitable and waste time trying to fight it for reasons that make no sense to a sane person!. God says, your right, but the real question is how do you change that??
2006-10-09 06:21:05 · answer #4 · answered by God 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was in the closet for about 30 years becuase I wanted to be "normal". I finally discovered at 40 years old that "normal" is what is right for you. Being gay is normal for me.
2006-10-09 09:27:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My "personal" definition of normal for only myself: That which I find to be within my scope of acceptance for myself and having to do only with myself.
Meaning: It is normal for me to act and say certain things what others do, may or may not be normal for them.
To attach a general "normal" tag to be used by the masses for various things only puts others in control of our thinking processes.
This also applies to abnormal.
You can either be a clone of the masses or an individual-your choice.
2006-10-09 08:11:13 · answer #6 · answered by dragon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Normal" people come in all shapes, sizes, genders, colors, races, and sexual orientations. However, what seems "normal" to you may be quite different from someone else's "normal." That's why non-judgemental people refrain from applying such words to fellow human beings. Good for you for calling them on it.
2006-10-09 09:55:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people ask stupid questions. Some people respond with stupid answers. I cannot believe that all the people that come to the LGBT area can be so obsessed of being just rude to some of the questions that are just genuine.
2006-10-09 13:26:36 · answer #8 · answered by Díscolo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has their own perception of what normal is and they usually define it as being anyone that is exactly like them. Anything else is not normal. Of course, thinking that way is not normal - does that mean they're not normal because they don't think just like me? Then I wouldn't be normal for thinking they're not normal because they don't think just like me. . . My head hurts from running in circles...
2006-10-09 16:09:46 · answer #9 · answered by Speedo Inspector 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A, a BIG NO what is "normal" not be gay or be gay if you gay you are gay and normal so wot ha.Normal (norm'l)adj, 1 Conforming,adhering to,or coonstituting a usual or typical pattern,standard,level, or a type.
2006-10-09 06:23:13 · answer #10 · answered by greywolf 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋