we are only a high-school student..(third year..)
we are totally in-love with each other... and i know that he is the man of my dreams and the man that i've longing for........and he does too......
a while ago,in our school,while our teacher was discussing,,, he ask me to have sex with him.. but,i didnt answer him.what should i do.....?????
but i know,deep inside of me,i want too......????????
2006-10-08 22:46:59 · 16 answers · asked by weng_honeyqoh_carl_31 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
but,, what if, if he ask permission to me if he could touch my boobs and my other sensitive parts...???
2006-10-08 22:56:06 · update #1
Hm.my dear girl
i'm not saying that your boyfriend don't love you but usually when a guy really love a girl , he would respect the girl. If they wanna hold your hand, they'll ask for it (decently) Even the most extreme guy at that matter. Your virginity is something very important for him. Not much girls are virgin nowadays. Virgin means you haven't been touched (you haven't been 'invaded' yet) and that makes you special).
I know you love him and I won't say you're bad or cheap because you want to have sex with him ,No I won't! Because it is normal when a girl fell inlove with a guy, only then she'll open up for him. Just like you and this guy. Lemme ask you something, does both of your parents know this guy? Guy's love isn't like a girl's love. We love the man with all of our heart ( they however SOME OF THEM) just say they love us untill they meet someone new.You're so young ,i've been there , i've had that feeling and all i can say is...be wise. Do you REALLY know him? Don't just give your body to him ,your dignity lies there. Think twice. Your moments will come. trust me. I just don't want you to be hurt. I've seen too much
2006-10-08 23:25:29 · answer #1 · answered by TheWillBe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is only for you to decide. but being from when i was raised i would say wait.. Other questions are? Are you ready for the responsibility of the possible pregancy? Are you on the pill. Boys can't be trusted to have and use condoms properly..
How well do you know the guy. and how long have you been dating him? what are your future plans? Are you going to ruin all plans you have made for your life if you happen to get pregnant.
Are you sure this is the guy you want to spend the rest of your life with..
Sex is best after marriage.. Ask your parents what you should tell him.. I am sure that they will also tell you to wait..
And or will get you on some kind of protection. I went to get my own birth control when i thought it was time. but you must have the money for the doctors appointment and for the pills when he prescribes them to you.. That is where the parents come in so they can pay for them for you...
Really is a good idea to be able to talk to you parents. Just be careful and don't ruin the rest of your life..If he loves you he will wait.. If he don't he won't want to .
think about it before doing it.
2006-10-08 22:58:26 · answer #2 · answered by Sandy F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babe, you areally have think about the consequences abt it. First you have to think about if your are ready, and if you are pressured into it, don't do it. If he really loves you enough, he wont force you into things that you dislike. Next you must have the right knowledge like taking pregnacy pills and putting on condoms. Lastly, you have to think abt the consequences, what if the condoms and pill didnt work and you got pregnant, what if he's just using you for sex? I know you said that he loves you, but seriously no one is trusworthy except yourself. Making love is a complicated process, i really urge you to serious think about it before you make the move to say yes, because some girls do suffer physically and emotionally after having sex with their bf without giving a serious thought abt it.
2006-10-08 22:53:10 · answer #3 · answered by cheeryviola 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can truly give you the answer to that question. You have to find it in your heart and mind. How did it make you feel, when he asked you? I would guess Confused, by your questions.
You need to do whatever feels right for you, not for him.
Remember, you need to find your own answers and not look to him for the answers. You can do and go as far as you like, so if you think you might want to, then also let him know before, when you need to stop or slow down that's what you want and except him to do.and it will easier and more comfortable for the both of you the next time.
BUT NO MATTER WHAT HAVE PROTECTION
EVERY SINGLE TIME AND DON'T BACK DOWN
PROTECTED YOURSELF
2006-10-08 23:28:21 · answer #4 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your in love as you said then he could wait until you'll are at a more mature and able age where you both can financially support each other.As 4 the touching part it only leads to sex
2006-10-09 01:37:23 · answer #5 · answered by leah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweet heart..this is not serious but u should not let him think in a other way just coz u r quite.
if u juz quite, he maybe will think like u also had the same feeling and want it..whereby if u don't have any interset in sex, u should talk to him in a good n polite to make him understand and at the same time he not fell bad.
if just keep quite each time he asked it will make the the situation more worse..
think further and react fast..
2006-10-08 22:51:48 · answer #6 · answered by CuTe GaL.. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, dear. You are still too young. Sex serves 2 purpose - procreation and recreation. At your age you can only deal with the recreational part and not the procreation part unless you know how to protect yourself well and the both of you are really, really committed to each other which at your age it cannot be, whatever your feelings may be. Also please do not confuse lust for love.
2006-10-08 22:51:38 · answer #7 · answered by ancalagon2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound real young, so please, hold on there. You are too young to know who is the Mr Right for you. Virginity is a very important thing for a girl especially when you are so young. Please do not make that mistake no matter how much you love the guy.
I know many girls who come to me sobbing because they are no longer a virgin and tht they regret it. So , please keep it that way.
I sincerely hope that you are still a virgin as when you are reading this. I sincerely do pray for you.
Email me if you need help.
2006-10-08 22:57:12 · answer #8 · answered by caterpillar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on how u really feel about him i met my husband in high school and we started having sex 4 months after and till this day we are married with 2 kids. we've been together 6 years now. so really it's up to u on how u feel about this guy.
2006-10-08 22:52:11 · answer #9 · answered by mcgee01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you want to......the question is, is he serious? Guys will say anything to get you to have sex with them. And what if you do and he doesn't want to be your boyfriend anymore? Can you deal with that? You should only have sex when you are ready.
2006-10-08 22:51:03 · answer #10 · answered by It's Been Cool 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋