We had a swimming pool installed at our house about the time our son turned 9/10 & he has always been a good swimmer & since that time with all the practice he has gotten at home & school he has gotten better to the point to where he is the capt. of the swim team for his age.He is 14 almost 15.He has a beautiful girlfriend who is here at our home often.He likes/loves her.I do know that they have kissed with heavy "petting". .However, there are 4 different guys that also come over regularly to swim & hang out.He has never done this with all of them@ once but I know for a fact that sometimes when he is alone in his room with 1 of these other teens that they masturbate together.I do not think that they touched each other.He has twin beds in his room.I can go in after they leave the room and find *** stains on the head boards where it has hit and rolled down.Also I keep track of the amount of lotion in the bottle.Do you think my son is gay/bi or curious or just going through a stage??
2006-10-08 21:53:36 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Maybe he's trying to work that one out for himself. I dont think he is Gay, as he has feelings for his girlfriend but, you wont know until he knows, and he's not even 15, still to young to even be heavy petting with his girlfriend. Just leave him be for a while and leave some comdoms by the pool just in case.
2006-10-08 21:59:07 · answer #1 · answered by lucy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your son is gay. It's part of being a teenager when one seeks the company of other people in all the things they do. I remember when I was a teenager, I also did jerk together with my friends/cousins when watching porns and magazines. Maybe it so just happened that your son is more open to the guy he jerks with. You have mentioned that he does have a girlfriend. There is no doubt he is attracted to a female. I'm now 27, married, with 2 kids. I never have some homosexual experience anyone, though I did masturbate with my friends and cousins in my teenage years.
2006-10-09 05:06:42 · answer #2 · answered by Manuel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You see the girlfriend but from what I read if he is 15 he is past the age of experimenting. You are spending to much time watching, and if I can say, wasting .precious formative years.
Get him into a bible study group. Let him see that what he is doing is a sin with either the guy friend or girlfriend. You can't change him only God can preform a renewing of the mind
2006-10-09 05:09:51 · answer #3 · answered by swami242 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He may be bi curious, but probably just going through a stage, best thing to do Mom, is not mention anything to him, but be there for him, when he is ready to talk, and please, don't be upset or anything if he does tell you he's gay, because that will cause a lot of heartbreak in your life as well as his
2006-10-09 04:57:44 · answer #4 · answered by dahorndogd013 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that he is in a stage where he is experimenting. Also, how do you know that they did not touch each other? If I were you I will have a chat with my son, and tell him that if he is not sure about his sexuality, then he should tell his girlfriend how he feels. It is not nice for her if he has feelings for other guys and not knowing.
2006-10-09 04:58:46 · answer #5 · answered by trushka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably just a stage. Lots of boys experiment with other boys at that age - it is normal. I would just let them be for now and I'm sure he will out-grow this behavior. Take care.
2006-10-09 04:59:27 · answer #6 · answered by JZ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys can be a little odd at that age but it might be some kind of competition thing. I wouldn't jump the gun yet. He is still quite young.
2006-10-09 05:31:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
here is the hard part have you ever sat with your son and had a conversation!!!!!!..... hello.you should be able to ask your son any thing ! and he should be able to ask you any thing and get an honest reply!!!! think about it mom, our boy's need our in put........and love and understanding and privacy monitor the lotion come on he's a growing boy give him knowledge...advise.... love and understanding....... and a little alone time
2006-10-09 05:16:04 · answer #8 · answered by lauriesthemom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know.... really... why not ask your son about it. do it in a joking manner. not serious coz he might think that you're having a doubt on his sexuality.
but then you say that he has a girlfriend. soooo maybe he's just going into a stage. but having his friend in his room seems unusual. just ask him
2006-10-09 05:05:44 · answer #9 · answered by _nakahhidit_ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do not think he is bi just curious and boys sometimes do that kind of thing together, they do not touch each other just trying out this new thing with a friend.....just be glad he is not having the girl in there....as you know things can get serious and he is to young to start a family.............
2006-10-09 04:57:30 · answer #10 · answered by walterknowsall 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋