If you come from a broken home, you tend to have a broken family of your own? What if my boyfriend comes from a broken family, will he do the same? I dont want to believe in this...
2006-10-08 21:49:58 · 25 answers · asked by joe_logs_a_co 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am from a huge amount of Country drama and divorce families. On one side my family is racist and simple minded. The other side is incest privey and backhills royalty.
I have served in the military for 8 years with an honorable discarge and have more then 12 military awards with recognition in 2 Wars. I am a repatable I.T. Specialist and my Family life at home is great. Currently I do not particularly enjoy my job location but the piont is....Coming from the back ground I came from I have stepped out of it and become a pretty good citizen I like to think. not perfect in any way.... so its all on how he grows in life. not where he comes from!!
2006-10-08 21:57:33 · answer #1 · answered by stephens_75 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Studies have shown that you learn behavior patterns from your parents that set up the concept of role behavior as adults. If you practice the behavioral traits that led to a broken home, then you will create a broken home of your own. If you are aware of the reasons for a dysfunctional family, then you can change the behavioral patterns to reduce the likely hood of repeating the past.
2006-10-09 04:55:23 · answer #2 · answered by Mr Cellophane 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no manual that comes with parenting or being a spouse. So you tend to mimic things your parents do.... cause they are the ones setting an example.
Unfortunely, your b/f may pick up the bad habits and poor communications skills, and value system that lead to his parents divorce.
My parents are still married. My wifes parents are divorced. Her mother has married and divorced 3 times. My wife filed for divorce. So maybe your fears are true.
But like others have said, maybe the reverse will happen or he makes the choice to break the cycle. Good luck.
2006-10-09 05:31:22 · answer #3 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Joe the home he came from was dysfunctional but what part was it that did not work, was his father a womanizer was his mom a victim of an over bearing husband was his mom cheating or perhaps their marriage was forced upon them .
Give your guy the best of you and expect nothing short of his best as well , lean on each other share your problems ,resolve them and don't let them fester into a decease that could take your marriage .
He may be weak but with you by his side to lift him when he falls he will have a better chance than his folks. you are walls be strong and stand together .
2006-10-09 05:18:11 · answer #4 · answered by slick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it works out the exact opposite. People who come from broken homes will do their best to see that it doesn't happen in their new relationships/families.
2006-10-09 04:54:48 · answer #5 · answered by scully60_61319 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I came from a very broken home. Yet, I don't drink, smoke, do drugs, hit my wife, or abuse children. My wife and I have been together for 20 years and have not had one fight. (Her home life was fantastic as a child)
Life is up to the individual. You can copy mistakes or set a new course and go that way. Being an Asshole is not genetic. It is 100% choice.
2006-10-09 05:00:08 · answer #6 · answered by Rusty 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Right now in the US, 50% of all marriages are ending in divorce so that's not a real hopeful statistic by itself.
We are creatures of our enviroment. We do reenact our parent's marriage in some aspects. So if he came from a broken home there is a good chance he will do the same in his marriage, but there is just as good of a chance that he won't if he is aware of it.
2006-10-09 04:55:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes no sometimes yes... but most of the times people who came from broken family are afraid to commit, because of the fear that they might repeat their parents mistake. sometimes those who came from broken home are the one who manage to survive their family, because they know how was it to come from there...
2006-10-09 05:02:04 · answer #8 · answered by kish-kish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The more he comes from a broken home, the more he will treasure your love, your true love will heal his life and he will love you for ever, you are everything to him
2006-10-09 04:54:02 · answer #9 · answered by Neighbour 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the two people and whether or not they learned from the mistakes their families made or not. I come from a family of drunks and drugs, so I stayed away from that stuff. My parents fought and my dad beat my mom, my moms a pathelogical liar, I learned from all this. Thats all you can do is take the things of your past and learn from them.
2006-10-09 05:16:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋