He has a younger brother (7 yrs).There are frequent quarrels between them. My husband looses temper and shouts at the elder one. He expects all his wants to be fulfilled immediately. If we refuse to anything he asks he gets angry and shuns away. The Father and the son relationship is slowly getting worst. Kindly help as to how to make my son a more loving, caring and soft spoken son.
2006-10-08 21:35:25 · 9 answers · asked by rathu 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
When you had only your elder son, he alone used to get the love and attention of his parents. Once your second son was born, your elder son will feel that your love and attention is now decreased as he has to share it with his younger brother.He feels deprived of what he was getting earlier.
His current behaviour is only to get your attention to what he feels that he is losing from you.This is neither his fault nor his parents'.
But, you can ease the situation by turning a blind eye to his rude behaviour and by making him feel that he still has your love and attention, and it has not decreased because you have another son.
Pet him more, ask him what he would like special for his meals, draw him to your lap once in a while, even if he puts up a fight and just caress him with all your feeling for him.You will notice that his tenseness disappears. Then ask him how his day was and if he has any problem in school or with his friends.Let him speak out.
And if your younger son tries during all this to try and get your attention, tell him "Cant you see we are talking to your brother, dont disturb us now". This will rebuild your elder son's lost ego and turn his behaviour around.
Also try and talk to him of things you both used to do when he was smaller, some funny episode or something.All this will help.
Remember, whatever he may do, he is your child. There is nothing wrong in parents losing and argument with their children, but never force them to lose.
That is part of being a parent.
2006-10-08 22:35:40 · answer #1 · answered by joe m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-04 10:37:13 · answer #2 · answered by rosenberger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it a teenage phase he`s going threw,. tell ur hubby,not to shout at him and and not to b the referee. , u hav to take charge. as a mum boyz will relate 2 u more than the father.girlz will get on with fathers more. only now and then ur hubby has 2 pull the older sons side. more he shouts the more ur son will react in opposition. if u wana u can contact me for more help.
2006-10-09 21:24:20 · answer #3 · answered by raju k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my brother is like that as well. even if I say one little thing, he thinks of it as an insult or something and loses it in a very short period. it's just how he is, but he wasn't always like that. i think that if your husband doesn't yell at him a lot and sits him down and talks to him nicely and calmly, he will get better. your husband is setting a bad example for is son. a child usually copies what his/her parents do so as you yell at him, he gets more and more frustrated. also, if you maybe take your son to a temple and pray, or bathe him in holy water, that might help. being near god can do so much. just be patient with him. it might turn out okay as he gets older as well.
2006-10-09 13:42:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him gently and kindly.kids usually dont like if someone shouts at them.take him shopping with u,buy him something he wanted for a long time.when he is happy and in a good mood,tell him to be nice and not fight with his younger brother.encourage him to come to uand tell his problems.tell ur son and husband to go on a walk every evening.remember,good communication is the key to any successful relatinship.
2006-10-09 20:33:55 · answer #5 · answered by Survive_each_Session 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know he is a bit young but counseling is a good place to start
at that age there is so much pressure in school and out.
father yelling doesn't set a good example for a more loving caring soft spoken son.
try individual and family counseling.
2006-10-08 22:20:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think this is "kahaani ghar ghar ki"
i have a younger brother and we have a gud fight every day.....but don't worry everything will be alright but u also have to take care of his misbehaving so that he does not go out of control
as in this age such problem is natural.
2006-10-09 02:16:47 · answer #7 · answered by amber 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a bad age to be,,,kids that age are a pain
2006-10-08 21:40:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out who his friends are...I'll bet they have a lot to do with it.
2006-10-08 21:38:30 · answer #9 · answered by MC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋