Every guy I talk to on the internet(not even for a relationship just chatting) is either apervert or says things like"I love you", "go on a trip with me" or wish I was with you" I dont even know them!!!! So tell me are there any normal, decent, kind guys out there?
2006-10-08 21:31:52 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Im not really looking for someone to date online, I just like to talk make friends, girls and boys, but most are as I said above.
2006-10-09 19:01:44 · update #1
yes there is, in time you will find the right Guy,, trust me on this one,
2006-10-08 21:38:22 · answer #1 · answered by dmncprkr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are normal people out there, it's just that the internet makes it too convenient for the perverts and the flirters to do what they do....anonymity.
I personally gave up on making any real friends on the internet....I have a couple of acquaintences only, but that is only for intellectual discussion purposes. Recently I have come on here and found it nice to help people out in some way. It helps blow off some steam. It's a crappy world out there, even the non-internet one.
Somehow I still have faith that there are some nice people out there.
Good day.
2006-10-09 04:46:07 · answer #2 · answered by Jesus S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe so. chatting, is just what it is ,chatting.
Any thing goes, no one knows no one.
Sure a few have had luck, even found happiness on the net.
You are not,
Don't put all your eggs in one basket. hoping for the net to connect
So move on out the door and put yourself out there.
There are some really nice guys out there. Ask some of girlfriends to introduce you some.
Spark up conversations in coffee shop, book stores and any where you can., don't look so hard, let them find you two
2006-10-09 05:43:38 · answer #3 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I'm a decent guy. Problem is I'm also shy. You just have to spot us behind the guys who are in your face so to speak.
And in response to the answers about how guys ask when you're going to meet, don't just brush them off. For me personally, if I get along with someone, I may suggest something casual like lunch cos with lunch, you have the option of selecting the venue and there's usually a ton of people around.
But everyones definition of a decent guy is different. For you it might be a guy who deliberately goes to the door first so he can hold it open for you. Me personally I believe in equality in everything so I would expect whichever person gets to the door first to hold it open for the other person.
2006-10-09 06:49:47 · answer #4 · answered by Maggs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like to believe so...although we both know they are a rare breed these days. I've actually found one...we met on-line. It been very enjoyable. The guys before him were the same way...we'd chat for a few minutes and before I knew it they were asking when do we meet..and I was like "hello, we just started talking, who are you again?
I am very happy that I have found one of the few decent guys left and I really hope these progress between us.
I wish you the best of luck.
2006-10-09 04:54:24 · answer #5 · answered by luckyko86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually the biggest problem is other women. I would consider myself by all standards a nice guy. This is based on the following reasons:
I can NOT ultimately dislike anyone unless they continually prove themself to have serious malicous intent.
I go out of my way to help people when I can.
I take the attitiude of everyone is my friend unless the prove otherwise.
I dont play with people, I am up front, honest and straight shooting. Sincerity means a lot to me and its a quality I admire in others.
I am married, quite happilly and I want to stay that way. I am not looking for a bit on the side and I am not interested in anything "extra".
I like to party, have fun, occaisionally get drunk, fall over e.t.c.
And so on and so on....
So what has this got to do with other women then? Well it is possible for guys to chat and be nice to other women, I myself do have several women friends. And at some point my wife has invariably been jealous of them all!
Have a look on here at how many posts there are about women being suspicious of their men cheating. Most of them want to hack in to their guys comps, spy on them, entrap them...
Think about it, say you had a dream boyfriend and you saw him chatting to one of the girls in his office who was quite beautiful (or to be more accurate a girl who you felt threatened by because you had drawn the conclusion that she must be better looking than you). Would you be suspicious of this girl? I bet you would.
Ok, now a confession. Guys always think of sex....no and's if's or but's. Its a fact of life! If we are male and alive we think of sex. Nice guys just learn not to let it get in the way. We file the thought at the back of our mind, far from the bit of the brain that says "act like a fool, maybe she will be attracted to your male machismo!"
Remember though that sex is essential to continue the human race we have been instilled with this instinct for a reason other than just to annoy you.
Anyway, most of us learn to control it and stop letting it interfere with our ability to interact normally. Unfortunately, since there are no visible external signs you often find yourself in a situation where you will still be untrusted by the majority of women.
Anyway, yes there are nice guys out there. Just like there are actually a couple girls out there who arent so hung up with issues. And you can bet that most will be in a long term relationship. And there-in lies the problem, nice guys in relationships can not talk to other girls because our wives / girlfriends will get jealous. Essspecially girls on the internet :D
Unfortunately this is something that will never change, guys and girls will always be like this. It's just pre-programmed. You just have to seek out the exceptions to the mould and trust me, they do exist.
2006-10-11 06:31:24 · answer #6 · answered by techy168 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you're feeling hopless due to the situaton u r in right now and even though I am going through something very similar to yourself ,as you answered to my question before... I HAVE to have hope or else what's the point of looking for happiness? even though you and I know it is going to be hard to trust after being burned. But I also think that you clould be happy the rest of your life without someone... sometimes we are just afraid to be alone I know I have and I am still.
If you need someone to talk to email me at latineyes222001@yahoo.com
2006-10-09 13:38:06 · answer #7 · answered by E Lo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are normal,decent and kind guys out there,i consider myself one of them....good thing about this yahoo thing is your Q@A's is there for everyone so if they want to do some reading they can find alot about who you are as a person,i do care what others think but it helps to have proof of who you can and have been,its good here to help and be helped...but you do get your perverts here like anywhere nowadays,so all you can do is Beware or Be Aware...if you want to chat feel free to message me..Extinct geez 31 isnt that old...
2006-10-09 05:39:08 · answer #8 · answered by waveboy7675 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
may be u got rong ppl, look at ur hand all 5 figers r not same so this conclusion is important in relationship. everybody on net isn't joker or behaviourless or childish who u can meet. this is touch n try thing may be u can get proper one soon !!!
2006-10-09 05:27:16 · answer #9 · answered by forplay_afterplay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, we do exist. Like looking for Waldo a bit though. I believe in being friends with women and I'm not gay. Sex is sorta non selective meaning you can do it with anyone. Friendships aren't.
2006-10-09 04:44:22 · answer #10 · answered by David H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes there are still a lot of them, don't worry you'll find one. They are just too busy attending to their responsibilities and not having so much time to spend in conversations like these. I hope you'll find one.
2006-10-09 04:39:48 · answer #11 · answered by g cruise 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋